Basically become somebody you are not to impress women? lol Is concealing your true personality a real improvement?Dragon wrote:This sounds like a self-esteem and skewed perspective problem a.k.a "I'm stuck in this box and I can't get out." This was sort of the problem I had for a long time. I think you're focusing too much on being a pariah and outcast in society. You should realize it doesn't mean anything because there is nothing meaningful in this society to feel like you should belong to. Instead you should start being adaptive and flexible.Dark_Sol wrote:Exod, you got it pegged. I just came from a bar and hot chicks were going for "Alphas" who were all talk. Ironically, some of these guys started to inquire about me when alone. Asking questions like if it was ok to leave a car and such in a nonparking zone, where I've been and other shit. To these "Alphas" I was a sense of authority or some shit, but I just tell them that I am just a guy enjoying a few sports and drinking my wine. I am an outcast by society's standard, I can't conform. Guys I use to work with called me caveman, cause I had raw power and aggressive. I only feel in place when I am in a crazy and insane situation by America's standards. These suppose "Alphas" were nowhere near me, I could slaughter them all. I hang out in many different places, biker bars and such. Not once have I ever had a problem, except a Bonfire party with punk kids, I ended up breaking a punk's jaw.Exod wrote:I believe the only universal is confidence tied to social acceptance. Women like men who are comfortable in their own skin and aren't social outcasts. They want to associate with a man who can navigate his environment smoothly and can guarantee, at least potentially, a stable social/group life and access to resources to her and her offspring. The environment changes, the rules of attraction change.
Then how this is expressed in practice is largely a cultural and environmental thing. It just so happens that the gangsta/thug shtick engenders signals high social status and acceptance in Anglo countries, apparently at some sort of overarching pop culture level, women sense this and are consequently attracted to it. If society demonized them, or at least lionized another archetype, women would act differently.
The "bad boy" should go to Europe or Asia or the Middle East and then report back, assuming he manages to stay alive.
Or out of jail...
I guess what I am saying is that you are f***ed if you can't be what society dictates what you should be. I got so f***ed up by society that I can't operate properly, I just can't understand people. It's to the point where I can't hit on a girl without fear of being charged or outcasted. I lost supposed friends who are Betas, the people they know spread rumors of me and that outcasted me. Shit, I have a hard time talking and interacting with girls in forgien countries, they even ignore me.
Dress a little nicer. Run a few laps each day to get your blood pumping. Get some interesting hobbies going or research something. Take a local community college class on how to play guitar. Basically, improve yourself both mentally and physically. You live in a time where regardless of how many friends people have, they will often times feel alone and empty, so it doesn't matter if it you fit in or not.
You have no idea how much I changed just by realizing the options that open up to me in terms of women. So many countries to go to and so many women waiting to be conquered by me.
Do the women and douchebags do this? No they get more tatoos and act tough, actually that's exactly what they do, develop a fake personna to get women.
Why should this guy do these things unless he has an interest in them?
I'm a great guitarist btw, not my opinion but I'm considered to be one. Doesn't help unless you perform onstage but it's great if you don't have a job and you can say that's what you do. If you work in IT and play in a band on the weekend it's the epitome of cheeseball, girls roll their eyes.
Another cliche is the IT guy who lifts weights, it's transparent. Anything you do will just confirm what a cheeseball you are to most women. Better to just quit your job and be a cocky steroid prick.
Is quitting your job to play in a crappy band an improvement? No but it gets you laid. See the problem here?
You actually need to degenerate to get laid.