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Hi Winston,
I came across your site today and I have to agree
with all that you say.
I am a 26 yr old White South
African woman married to an American man. I have been in
I will give you my perspective as a non-western
woman.
The first thing I found was the jealousy and
competition among everybody. Every time I go out I get dirty, mean looks from
other women/girls - and my husband has noticed that.
Women are so jealous of each other - and the
jealousy is even among the men!
American women are very feminist. They are very
masculine and loud, and refer to me as a "girly-girl" instead of
seeing that a they should also be "girly-girls"
I get tired of being told that I need to
gain weight, when it is they who need to lose weight, but of course it is not
"ok" to say so - yet it is "ok" for them to critisize me
for being thin.
They are very anti-men and don't understand that men
and women have different roles.
I am amazed to find that women go out in their
pajamas! I won't even check my mail-box in my pajamas let alone go shopping in
them!
Americans constantly ask me silly questions such
as "So, if you are from
And "So do you have lions roaming around?"
"So - you have computers over there?"
They also seem to find it difficult to understand
any accent other than their own.
Before coming to
They have no concept of what goes on in the rest
of the world and nor do they have any interest.
They are very insecure people who think that if
they own enough it will somehow make them a success.
I did not expect
Thank you Winston, I am glad that you have
discovered how much better foreign women are, and I wish you all the happiness
in the world.
-Sarah-Jane
Hi, Winston,
thank you for your prompt reply; I don't know
where do you find time to do the site maintenance and the correspondence:-) Yes,
if you think it is best to put my observation/opinion on your Forum and on the
Website, that is OK. I wrote basically on an impulse, I never write to a public
space as am very private. But what got me in your site that it is very deep; it
looks at a problem of insanity (again, stated by those who are from abroad, or
Americans who tasted life/cultures abroad; Americans themselves are in a
delirious oblivion about themselves and their "culture") of
Americans, their life style and "culture" at every angle, in depth,
diagnosing the insanity, looking at the possible causes of it, and offering
suggestions to cure. It was by far the most comprehensive and cumulative work
I've ever encountered on the subject. Big thanks to you for that, for devoting
your life to this cancerous world's problem. At first I thought that emphasis
on dating is a bit shallow and might repel some thinking, deep people, but the
more I looked at it, I came to think that it might just do the opposite...tell
the guy/person who is love/sex/normalcy starved in this country, dying inside
and craving for life and love that he should go read some philosophy he'd send
you on a familiar route...however, if the same love/sex/normalcy starved
individual is told he should look at this site to find love, he'd go, but
later, he'll maybe look at philosophical, spiritual pages, and, hopefully, will
be on the road to enlightenment. So, it might actually work to attract more
readers who otherwise wouldn't bother to look. )
But the site on the whole is very profound. I
believe you should collage all the material and publish it, public just needs
to know all that.
I could write volumes on the subject of
II. About your adviser and just HOW (in his
opinion - is he a male?) Russian women (and rest of Slavic for that matter) are
HAPPY here...ooofff, what a British Encyclopedia we could just write. You know,
your site for for guys (as primary, level 1st target audience), and you speak
form guys' experiences...well, we could just say the same of American men, just
the same...we cannot find happiness with them...they are too shallow, ignorant,
controlling, empty, materialistic, and all within the lines. Slavic women
suffer in their relationship with American guys. I have Serbian, Polish,
Bulgarian (girl)friends, and it is like we all say just the same things, and
have same emotions in our American circumstances. To put it short, it is like
having this creature (in a female form), that is so alive, and spirited, and
lovely, and smart, and with common sense, and with good taste, culture,
education, etc., and here is her American guy...did you read J. Fowles
novel, the "Collector"? Well, if you did, that's the picture, nothing
more to add to this. It's a murder, slow, painful, and torturous murder, a
crucifixion of a creature in a Slavic human form. There were times when I
almost died from depression (I read thru
...attraction...all Slavic women are
beautiful...but...what to say...? you know, from my experience, the men who
looked at me, or payed attn to me here (in a "normal", European way),
are Europeans themselves!!!! American guys just don't see it! ( I have access
to European community here, and so, that is where I find normal men!)..they are
not Americans!! I maybe got attn 2 or 3 - not more, times from American
guys..agn, what do you define attention..? a glassy look? Or an intelligent
interest? well, glassy looks I got, and maybe desire to sleep, but those 2 or 3
American guys were again studying languages and so a bit more animated than
"normal" American guys. I am not really sure yet...it looks like American
guys/ppl are so dead inside they are incapable of discerning beauty, because
only spirit can do that. I stopped dressing well here, make-up, etc....it takes
so much effort and imagination, and they are not even able to discern the
beautiful things in front of their eyes...
I have few friends here, Russian, other Slavic. We
gather together sometime, for tea, pies, etc...every time inevitable the
conversation turns to "imbeciles" (our term for Americans)...we give
resolutions to stop it, to try to be happy, and it doesn;t work, because every
time you go out, to a job, to a grocery store, simply driving in traffic here
you here stressed and have to deal with imbeciles in every corner. So,
depression, depression, depression for Rus women. So, in terms of attention -
they are not capable to give real, intelligent, with good sense of humor and
sensitivity, attention. I stopped having anything to do with American guys,
period. I am going thru a divorce now, and my soon to be ex-husband is a cult
member also (Christian, conservative), and I suffered unimaginable shallow
mindedness, control, imbecility, and total, killing lack of spirit. The more
religious a person is, the less spiritual he is, that is it.
Let me see where I found a link for your site...let me
check my bookmarks...I believe it was this one: http://www.culturechange.org/cms/index.php no..?
I have to go now from work, and will write more later
on, thanks for reply, and again, for tremendous work on enlightening crowds on
the "American" issues. Tatiana
Hello!
I by chance (looking actually at a completely
different forum) encountered your site, and decided I simply HAVE to add my
story/point of view...have to say it is all within the lines of what I've read
(how immigrants view America/Americans...
I moved here 13 years ago, never planned, but that
man met me in my home city, and couldn't leave alone for 2 years, which
eventually ended up in marriage (me being very young, unaware of life, without
life's wisdom)...we first lived in Texas...boondocks. I ma from Russia, country
of soul, of mystics, of rich inner world, of great culture, literature,
etc....What striked me to the point of not possible to put in words
there: IGNORANCE (enough was said in your page there. same things, ppl not
knowing the map of the world, geography, their own culture not talking about
other cultures...back in Russia I did not even KNOW such things, this level of
ignorance, is possible in the world...
2. Fakeness...again, ppl are not real, all wear
masks, all pretend, a huge fake hypocritical, cold, indifferent, spiritless
world. I felt I was communicating with lunatics or imbeciles. In Russia, no matter what profession or education one has, such thing as common sense is always present in a person,
in every plummer, every peasant, every cleaner, etc. Here, even ppl with
college degrees have no common sense in them. The very few OK Americans I met
were from university from the Languages Dep, those who were deeply in touch
with European cultures, people, mentality...
Anyway, then arn 9 years ago we moved to Arizona; Arizona is MUCH better than TX I have to admit, but the general
American tendencies are no less ever present here, too.
Coldness, indifference, hypocrisy, lack of
refinement, of culture, of common sense, of spirituality, of compassion are the
most horrible characteristics of this country and its ppl. I would agree also
to call it "insane asylum". This inner emptiness drives them to horde
malls on the weekends, to look for their "bargains" and
"specials", and to pass by others of their own kind that are in need.
I feel it is a Devil's place, a Devil's Kingdom on
Earth par excellence. This world sucks on the whole, but in other places
of this dark planet there is some soul lives on, some Spirit dwells in people's
hearts still, and that soothes the trials of our every day existence. Here, in
the US, the cruelty of their empty human hearts, which they call "individualism" is
beyond belief. They are empty, cruel, soulless, spiritless, fake, dead ppl,
automatons, biorobots. What else one can say...
Thank you for creating and bringing to the world
your site, for the honesty and sincerity. Blessings
Dear Winston,
I have looked at your YouTube videos of your trips to Russia and meeting those
beautiful girls, and I must say, WOW! To be honest, it didn't surprise me that
Russian girls are this friendly and approachable. I have encountered some of
them here in Houston, Texas, and socialising with them is nothing compared to
even trying to get a word to an American girl. But your videos are a milestone
and real proof that Russian girls are very approachable and friendly, and it
has given me hope for girlfriends beyond the USA. Keep up good work and
keep spreading the truth!
Sincerely,
Jose
Hello Winston:
Let me add to your list of things that I feel of
what ails Americans, and why so many of them are in this sad,
depressed state they are in.
I feel that America is a society (mainly through
television) that has pumped up peoples' expectations way above and beyond what
is humanly possible or realistic. What I mean is, we are told that capitalism
is a great system, that our government, although incompetent, still loves us.
We are continually being told that we have just as much opportunity as Bill Gates or Warrent Buffet to retire
in total financial comfort. We are also told that Americans are friendly and
social, and that if you can't find socialization in your own life,
then it's your own fault, and you just need to get out more (whatever
the hell that means).
The list could go on and on infintum. However, what I
realize now is this: if people are sold bullshit bills of goods, and things
don't turn out like they're supposed to, then people go into a sort of neurosis
where they either shut down, get anxiety, or a combination of the two. It's for
this reason that there are all sorts of drugs out there (expensive, legal ones
by prescription of course) that are designed to totally numb us and make us
continue going along with this matrix. I have, however, noticed that marijuana
and other natural psychedelic drugs do quite the opposite. It's for this
reason that the governments of the world -- partictularly America -- are strong
about keeping these other harmless drugs illegal.
Most prescription drugs keep those people fed on high
expectations from ever rebelling and hitting the streets. These
drugs anesthesize their pain enough to make them still want to work,
however, and continue life through this rigged matrix. However, if you ask a
person who is on, say, Prozac what they feel about corporate America, the dating
scene, the social scene, etc., they'll just say the same parroted crap that
"life is what you make it and you need to go the extra mile to earn a
living in this world." They'll also convince you that America is the best
place in the world to live, and that people in most other countries are
unhappy and would just die at the chance to come to this so-called free country.
Some freedom huh, when you can't' even get an average-looking girl in your
life?
Anyway, I now understand why it's so so inportant that I go
overseas and get out of this rigged matrix. I am going to do
everything in my power to make it happen this summer, or by early fall.
Talk to you soon Winston, and keep up the great work on
your site.
Steve
hey Winston,
I looked on your Topics page at
AsianFanatics and alot or all of the things you said are rather true about
society in general. I've seen so many people say those things all the time
about "how to improve yourself" and "become more well
liked". It's true that alot of people are superficial and act fake.
Heck, it's all over AF, or at least by many of them. A few comments:
3) I don't believe in lowering my standards
either. I try to be realistic and going any lower isn't good enough. I just
wouldn't be happy enough. If someone was way
out of my standards ... how could I ever settle to marry the person or
even
stay with them for long??? Even short term
... I don't want to waste my time. If I'm gonna date someone ... I want
to
enjoy it. Some people are sort of
unrealistic and expect to find someone "perfect" and if you're
lucky enough ... great,
but until then, they shouldn't think about
it so much. When you find someone easy to like ... just go with the flow
Reality is, not everyone is rich, looks hot
or has it all. I don't even have an iPod,
blackberry, a car or an active cell phone right now
4) You're right. No one should have to wait
years just to find decent people. If so ... something must seriously be
wrong
with society, and whereever you've
been
5) Again I agree. If a person completely
stops trying ... it's possible to get no results. I'm not a flirty person but
if I
like a girl ... I at least notice her (not
that it means every girl I look at ... I'm attracted to. I could look at anyone.
It depends ...). I don't think it's that
people have to stop looking. It all depends where you are, when and around who.
6) That's a good point. No one is needy or
desperate to begin with, or at least shouldn't be. Most people didn't start as
an ace. Some people naturally had what
attracted their friends / gf from an early start while others learned more by
experience. There's no shame in learning from
experience. I think it's normal for everyone to
feel frustrated and go
through a negative phase if things haven't
worked out well after a while. The key is to learn from it, become and remain
confident and positive again
7) yeah, money alone isn't always the only
thing they want in a man
I'll be skeptical before I ever listen to
any PUA advice. "PUA elites" ... yawn.
Too many player wannabes around ...
and pick up lines are a joke. Seriously. Never tried 'em. Don't think I ever
will
The only way pick up lines could ever work
is if she's already attracted. Then she'll act on them even if she doesn't think
they're that good. Fact is ... if she likes
you, the pick up line doesn't really matter
yeah too many guys don't want to get in the friend zone. There are those it's okay ... and those you want
to stay out of
For a while now ... I've had some
interest in learning about other cultures and also want to travel sometime.
Since I
want to travel in the future I think it's
important to learn more about other cultures and languages, and also more about
women and dating overseas.
So a big thank you for making your website
and best of luck on promoting the movement
http://www.happierabroad.com/phpBB2/viewtopic.php?t=7740
This site
confirms what I realized about 20 years ago!
Well after
reading may posts here, I thought it was high time I joined and became a privileged
member of happier abroad!
I discovered this absolutely brilliant website by doing a predictive search
google search about "american women vs european women".
I have a similar story to Winston's with a few differences. Instead of moving
abroad to get girls, I started targeting the ever increasing foreign student
population here, with great success. I gave up on white women almost 14 years
ago when I had my last white girlfriend.
Winston I know exactly what you are talking about here. White Western girls are
simply awful! They are spoiled little brats with almost no sense of culture,
intelligence or kindness. My Dad was an Ambassador, so I was lucky enough to
live both In Canada and in Europe throughout my childhood and teenage years and
after my second stint in Europe, I discovered how awful Canadian girls were
after returning here in the mid 80's. My Mum is German, so I was raised in more
of a European style which made me see the evils of North American women. My Mum
exudes style, grace, femininity and kindness, something all our North American
girls can't even come close to. Furthermore when we lived abroad, my Parents
hired Maids which were almost always Filipina's and they were so kind, friendly
and sweet, something I still miss, they were like second mothers to me!
I've had two Japanese GF's and 1 Indian one in the last 4 years, and they were
all so much better than all my previous white western GF's put together! I
started out doing online dating here about 4 years ago but after about 3 months
of head games, idiots, losers, deadbeats and time wasters, I put a notice on a
local language exchange site for Japanese ESL students here and had a response
within 30 minutes. 2 dates later I had a cute little Japanese GF. All I did was
talk to her in English for about 2 hours and bought here a hot chocolate and a
donut! No comparison to the local girls!
Now I only date non-anglo-bitches! No exceptions!
I've got lots more to tell but had a suggestion first. How about an official
Happier Abroad theme song? I nominate:
"Local Girls" by Graham Parker...listen to the chorus, very wise
words sung by an American Male giving great advice on what to do with American
Females
"don't bother with the local girls..."
http://www.youtube.com/watch?v=L-9A2O6CwW4
Winston, you rock man! Ive always had trouble expressing to my family
and friends exactly the right words as to why I just cant meet woman in the US,
at least not the kind I want. But reading your website has helped me
explain it much better to others what I knew all along but just couldnt
explain it in words. Thanks!
I want to share the gospel with as many guys as I can, as there are so
many here who suffer. Dude, most american woman suck ass. Like you said
though, its not their fault. .
I fell in love with filipinas
also. I knew filipinas were what I was looking for on first trip. I too
was like "WOW" , Ive been to angeles city 6 times now. Ive had 3 filipina fiances, but I
had really unbelievable bad luck, the
first two backed out on me, but I think its cause they were only 19 yrs old,
they got scared at the last second.
Yea man, every guy freind I know good looking and not so good looking
have the same complaints as you and I about the way woman are here in the
states. And I agree, americans are a arrogant bunch, and what makes many
of them especially bad is that they are arrogant and ignorant at the same
time.
Seriously, it could have been me who wrote your website, LOL. I see
myself in your writings. Even though most woman in the states find me
attractive, I still get rude responses just trying to be sociable.
Anyways, you're writings are gospel and so many guys in the US need to
know this truth.
Steve
Hi Winston. I really enjoyed reading your ebook. For years and years I would
beat myself up inside over the fact that trying to talk to women was a total
nightmare. I have had a series of relationships. However It can be very hard to
communicate with women out in there public places. And if you are not part
of the right clique or circle of friends you are in a bad way. Even if
your a reasonably attractive and highly intelligent male. After
reading your ebook. It gave me a very detailed account of why things are the
way they are. If things at the time is not going right connecting with women
it,s not my fault. It,s not that I,m doing anything incorrect or I don,t have a
certain look. #1 it is very taboo to talk to women you don,t know. It totally
goes against the social mores in US society even in places where it,s
suppose to be appropriate to flirt with women. I also watched videos on true
forced loneliness. That guy Bill122460 is a f__king joke. Allot of what
Bill talks about in his videos. Sounds very paranoid psychotic among
other things. Plus I don,t think that feminism is totally at fault. The
reason it,s very difficult to talk to women. Is because most US
women of the 21st century are very paranoid talking to men that randomly try to
talk or flirt with them. That they don,t know. Plus they are taught and
programed to be very superficial. And for allot of different complex
reasons most of these women have allot of serious
complex issues. I can see how are the economy and corporate media
plays a big part in this. And how the the big corporate elite makes huge
profit on the backs of this kind of dysfunction. If it was easier to flirt
and connect with women like it was a few decades ago. These big fascist pig
corporate elite,s would not be making big fat profits off
the backs of the alienated. As you can see. You were starting to see this
coming during the early 80,s during the Regan administration. When we lost our
industrial base. Instead of good paying industrial jobs. It,s now mostly low
paying robotic service jobs. People have to work much more for less with
much more stress. In your low paying service jobs you are much more under the
gun IE 1984ish. Where you have to watch what you do what you say. Under these
conditions you can,t trust anyone even saying or talking about something
very Innocent and harmless.Can cause all kinds of serious problems. Like false accusations, rumors that could cost
you your job. Back in the days were there were real good industrial jobs.
Things were much more black and white instead of all these gray areas. Plus you
had strong unions. Also back then it was very taboo to snitch or start rumors
in the first place. And anyone who did was considered a total asshole
fag. I personally feel this type of present day
http://www.happierabroad.com/phpBB2/viewtopic.php?t=7332
Hi! New member here, located in the
To make a long story longer, I was laid off from my 6-figure IT job
last fall and can't find a job to save my life. My wife is pregnant with our
first and we're seriously considering selling off the house, cars, life and possessions
we have here and heading backto
Thanks!
RedDog
http://happybachelor.proboards.com/index.cgi?board=abroad&action=display&thread=3328
Wow.
Winston. Is it really you? Lol....if so WELCOME TO THE FORUM MAN.
I've
got to say this right out: everything you wrote is absolutely dead on, and
furthermore, your site, happier abroad, which was linked up to nomarriage.com
was INSTRUMENTAL in my choice to not give up on women entirely, but look
overseas for women of quality. I've been on both sides of the fence that you
talk about here; having gone through long periods of rejection by american
women, followed by projecting the alpha bad boy image (unintentionally) they
seem to eat up and got 'picked' left and right. But I can say this
definitively: success and failure was all shit. People would constantly tell me
"oh you just haven't found the right girl!!" Ha. Bullshit. Why is it
every dumb bitch would take the alpha happy bachelor version of me, transform
me to the beta, then resent their creation like a fucked up dr. frankenstein
and then hop from one cock to the next? Over and over again. Nearly every
relationship I've had with these animals has ended in infidelity on their part.
After a 7 year meltdown in which the girl cheated on me with a 20 year old
drunk (she and I are 32 LOL) I knew I was done. I'd long been a mysogynist and
those dormant views came right back to the surface. This helped when my best
friend recommended me to nomarriage.com, MGTOW, and HAPPIER ABROAD.
I was
at a crossroads. I've been so damn happy as a bachelor I wasn't sure I wanted
to get involved with any women at all....but then my best friend joined
International Cupid when we were out of contact, met a brazillian hottie...and
is now getting married this summer. I thought fuck it. What have I got to lose?
Let's TRY. I'd always found asian women the most attractive in the world, so I
thought let's zero in on them and see what happens. I read your site. I read
your forum. I read testimonials of dudes who hooked up with hot asian (and
other) types of women, and had seen the light. I did more and more research.
Saw that AM to FW divorce rates are much lower. On and on.
After
doing my homework I did Cupid too. And I'm happy as shit I did. I met a
fillipino english teacher living in
But I
can attest Winston....everything you say above, and on your site is damn true.
Damn true. In 7 days I have never been so happy with a woman in my entire life?
Why? Because she is night and day unlike the shit here.
I've
been telling my friends in real life that going foreign is UPGRADING.
UPGRADING. See, if you get picked by a bitch here...chances are on the
attractiveness scale, unless you are a serious alpha or moneybags....expect a
4-7 at best. Further, they PICK, the stupid man just settles...because when he
is offered pussy, he just can't refuse...having no clue that he has better
options, that he can UPGRADE. Getting laid here by these animals is drinking a
slow acting poison. It's only a matter of time before your hormones will lead
to emotional and financial devastation.
Overseas
women are radically different than the shit here. I can tell this already. Hmm.
See my forthcoming post on "The Trip".
But
Winston, I cannot recomend your site enough. And the ebook. The ebook was
great. I even owe you a thank you, I'd say. What I read on there helped me to
decide: JUST GO. JUST DO IT. I'm 10,000 times happier because I did. Thank you
for your wisdom. Feel free to use anything I write on here or my thread as a
testimony.
I was
about to give up on women entirely and just be a confirmed bachelor like one of
my heroes CS Lewis. But WHY? God, there are women of quality out there.
Quality. I HAVE one now. And I saw A LOT MORE. Go abroad, gentlemen, you will
indeed be happier...I know I am.
Thanks
Winston.
Yo Winston,
I wrote a post some months ago to your forums that you appreciated. http://www.happierabroad.com/phpBB2/viewtopic.php?p=17842
I would love to meet you in person. You are a big inspiration and I'd
love to find our first hand how you interact socially in a foreign nation and
maybe learn a thing or two from you. Are you still in the
As of today, I have still not been outside the
A few questions:
My first counties to check out are
1) Can you share your thoughts on these countries?
I read good things about your "second tier" list.
Brazil, Argentina, Peru, Ukraine, Poland, Russia...
are there any other nations
you would add to this list? What about
There are two
other questions:
2) I do not
party and do not care for clubs, bars or alcohol at all and this is in fact one
of the leading reasons it is hard for me to connect with women in the US, where
social lubricant is practically a necessity. Do I need to do that to meet women
and friends easily in these so called second tier nations? Can you tell
me in which nations is this least necessary? I want to be able to meet
women easily right out in public, not have to go to bars and drink.
3) I speak only
English and beginner Spanish, but I think I want to relocate to
Thanks and you are the man,
P.S.: I have just recently had yet another incredibly dysfunctional
encounter with an American woman. She is very attractive and we have
hooked up sexually many times, but when I try to deepen the relationship and
tell her I like her and present the idea of being exclusive, she responds as if
I had just attacked her or as if I have presented some sort of absurd or
foreign idea that is incomprehensible to her. She said "Everybody
sees things through a different universe" (!?!?!?!)
It is completely insane, and I agree entirely with your assessment of American
relationships and American women - totally backwards and dysfunctional... it is
like they do not need or want men, they do not want sincerity or commitment, do
not nurture or care for their man or in any other way embrace a feminine role;
a man is expected to cater to and meet her every expectation and held to
account for every little way in which he fails at it, while she does not need
to do any of the same and he is never allowed to expect likewise of her; and
they seem to act like they want to be single forever - even when they meet a
nice guy.
Dear Winston,
I would like to ask you a question regarding the behavior of (certain)
Americans. I have found something peculiar about them which I cannot adequately
explain.
When I was shopping for a road bike at a bicycle shop here in my city, an older
gentleman assisted me in looking for the right size and brand of bike. He
had helped me before when I had a mountain
bike that constantly broke down due to wear and tear. For
starters, he had that repressive, constipated look that a lot of American males
over the age of thirty develop.
Well, to make a long story short and to the point, I spent quite some time with
this older man, asking him questions about the specifications and so
forth. I then found the right bike that I had been looking for, and
purchased it that day.
When I had walked into the same shop a few days later, he acted like he had
never seen me before, and he had that same cold, stone-faced look. Maybe
he was a veteran of a previous
I've experienced this with many other Americans before, who are superficially
kind and nice when meeting them, but a few days later they act like they have
never seen or met the individual before. They mutate from kind and decent
to cold and arrogant in a heartbeat.
What is your best explanation for this strange phenomenon? Or am I just
being too sensitive? Yet, I hear complaints like this from other
immigrants, usually those who have just moved to the country. I've become
so self-conscious regarding this problem, hence I'm afraid to form any
friendships with them, because as you know, they are not the kind of people who
cherish close friendships either.
Sincerely,
Alex
P.S. I am a Russian immigrant myself.
Hi,
first of all, I agree with you in all what you said and published on the internet
about American girls.
I am international student in the
at least say hi to a girl in this country!
Man, American women suck!!!
and they are not that beautiful! russian and european girls are wayyy hotter and more beautiful!
my question is what do you recommend for me? should I travel abroad to date a gril or should I just sign in one of these Russian dating website? even most of these websites are reliable!
thank you again for what you accomplished so far and keep up please.
http://www.happierabroad.com/phpBB2/viewtopic.php?t=6965
Hello and Thank
You Winston!
I recently
stumbled across your website while doing some research for my upcoming trip to
On to lighter matters...I have quit my job, saved money for travel, cut my
ties, and I'm getting the fuck out, at least for awhile 
Right now I'm just going to
Winston, You are the type of person that sees/feels something wrong and does
something about it. Respect!
ip
Hi!
I just read your story in "about me". I really enjoyed
it! I'm a young woman from
What you wrote is mostly what I thought American guys must feel... As
soon as I acclimated and learned the language (when I moved i went to middle
school), I started seeing the tremendous differences between
At first, the only people nice to me were black girls. And in
Anyway, i don't wanna get into the details too much, I'm not sure if you will
get this email.
My point i that i felt that most people here were "under a fog" with
a few heads sticking out. Those that stuck out were really different,
more intelligent, open minded... it's hard to describe, but they seemed more
"russian" or whatever. More present.
So i definitely felt what you are describing, but the other way around (i came
from a country of openness and connections to this country). so
anyway, thank you for describing your experiences in such intimate details, not
everyone could've done that.
In russia/ukraine, men
and women are treated by their actions, thoughts, how interesting
they are, if they are good at parties, etc... not just looks and stigma.
Women want guys like you, guys who really want a relationship and treat their
girlfriends/wives with love and attention (unlike many russian men, spoiled by
attractive women all around, many are cold and distant as husbands, and expect
their wives to slave away in the kitchen). You appreciate beauty and what
you've got. that's what men are supposed to be like. always wanting
their wife, happy to walk around with her.. etc.
although i have some feminist tendencies (probably a rebellion to how I was brought
up, my beautiful mom working at work , with children and in the kitchen, and my
dad only working and expecting mom to take care of everything).
but I do agree with your view of "that's how women should be".
Even by nature, they are supposed to need men, be vulnerable... it's great to
be strong in many fields of life.. but in the man-woman relationship the man
should be the strong one.
Anyway, write me back if you want to chat, I have to go back to work.
thanks again, your website was very informative, open and true to life.
bye,
Ludmila
First, hello.
How are you? My name is (Anoymous) and
I'm 26 years old. And I can COMPLETELY understand
what you at one point in your life went through, as I was
reading you general Loneliness through the years overly long
essay (which, by the way, takes a talented writer to
elaborate on, as well as balls to admit to). I've also
seen your YouTube page, and as someone who has been
interested in International Dating in the years to come with
an agency because I honestly don't like my land that
much anymore, I was very moved by your story.
There is so much that I want to agree with and to
elaborate on as I sit here on my new laptop (a fine acer
with a 17.5" screen) that I got as a pre-27th birthday
gift a few days before my January the 28th b-day. I'm
also incredibly lonely, but I am doing things to remedy
this and I promise you within the next year and a half I
shall turn it all around; just you watch planet Earth. ;-)
I must agree that from the look of the overrated
models, actresses and adult film stars in the English
language, Anglophonic world (such as here in the U.S., most
of Canada and Australia & New Zealand), I feel we are
often trapped because of the predominant bloodline of most
of our women, and mostly being of Scottish descent (which
Celtic is a lot
like Anglo despite what anyone says) and
traveling to my ancestors homeland of the UK over the summer
of '07, I can see why we're so messed up as a
collective whole here in North America; and I honestly
don't hope that offends anyone.
My parents have always been in the motel
management business, and as a result, I've moved all
over the U.S. to many states, and I've
honestly never liked where I came from. And indeed, the
women are absolute shit. Only people who've never
traveled like it here, for the most part. I've been
depressed on & off with some self-esteem issues most of
my life. And it's fine, and nothin' at all I can't
fix as of now, and thankfully have been fixing. Recently as
of two months ago, as a life long French culture lover (as
well as Russian culture), I was in
didn't like all the foods to be quite honest (ha, I am
afraid I am
somewhat more attracted to more North American
store bought foods and of course, our cultural
imperialism--but what are ya gonna do?), but I also
didn't wanna leave. For a little over 80% of the time,
mainland European women were SO gorgeous, and if you as an
English speaker actually made an
attempt to speak the language, then there
is no telling
how many women you can meet.
That plus, I'm also in agreeance: Sadly,
the
here IS a rather bland and
dullard & boring place to
live. I've been a big movie
lover my whole life, and I
LOVE collecting films, and playing some
video games about
twice a month as well. But our North
American "culture" (yeah,
I know...) is in
such of people spending hours on
pointless "social
networking sites" (which is
increasingly odd--after
hour, your not REALLY socially
interacting with anyone in
the same room, now are you?) and with
technology
running-away with itself and with others
overall acting even
more anti-social then me, that over all,
I feel we've
already failed as a country. And I'm
extremely sorry if
it sounds mean, but I agree: I gave up
being happy to live in
this country of shitheads and morons an
incredibly LONG time
ago.
Frankly, it's so overall boring and
lifeless here,
that I'm surprised there are any return
visitors at all.
And might this Caucasian also add that
I'm sorry that
you've had social persuasion during your
life. It's
odd that since your family settled in
the West Coast that
you would have had to encountered that
in my eyes; really.
Because I grew up in a fine for what it
is southern
suburbanite city of west
and racially it wasn't that bad. And
I've honestly
pretty much always thought of
ghetto parts--as pretty much being of a
whole other country.
So on behave of those ignorant assholes,
I am personally
deeply sorry for the troubles of your
youth. However, that
was quite some time ago, and I hope you
have learned to let
go a bit of the past so it doesn't
swallow you whole.
But you are a fine & highly
intelligent and sensitive
gentleman from your writing, and can
obviously see that you
are not like that at all.
But indeed, I'm glad to read from the
highlighted
reader responses from those you've met
over the years,
like me on the IMDB boards or YouTube,
that others have
woke-up. Quite honestly, it's hard to
live over here in
our economy and in these boring times.
Must say that
I've don't care for it either as well,
but in the
coming years, this faithful reader shall
most DEFINATELY be
International Dating. ;) There's no
two ways about
it. I'm not sure where our country went wrong,
but all
of those who run it over the last four
decades TRUELY should
be fucking ashamed of themselves. As
someone who has decided
to become a multi-linguist, as I am
currently learning
the Spanish & French languages, and
hopefully with my
travels, I can meet a nice NON-American
woman. Your
website gives me hope, as did recently
going abroad again
one more time. And I pretty much agree
100% with everything
you put on YouTube and that you've
wrote. I'm sorry
to some of my fellow Americans, but for
the most part, we're
assholes over here in this country, and
our women are
absolute shit. I've seen the overrated
models,
actresses & adult film stars from
other English speaking
countries, and I'm afraid if that's the
best that
got, then it's also complete shit in
other Anglo-Celtic
societies.
And might I add that I also agree with
the poor people
who ex-pated here and were bored.
Indeed, living here is
just way too expensive these days, and
we have no culture,
just like all the other dullard colonies
of new-Europe
(such as Aussie & Kiwi land, English
speaking Canada
although parts of it are so lovely and
breath-taking there,
etc). We are a society of suburbanite
Bowlers, miniature
& pro-Golfers, and a sea of cheap-o
motels,
laundrymats' and depressing adult book
stores and
Casinos. And of course, an entire
fuck-load of gas station
convenience stores. George Carlin (may
he RIP) on his
next-to-last HBO stand-up special was
right: It's pretty
much just one big trans-continental
cesspool now. Years ago
he was so right about our future.
So you have my sympathies, as I'm mostly
attracted
to French accents and others that aren't
found really
all that well in the America's (and I've
afraid our
closest allies of the Commonwealth
nations don't really
do much for me, or I would have
moved to Orlando or Vegas where
the all mostly go on their holidays here
in the U.S. and would have
married one) and as a result, I've
been depressed
off & on, and have mostly only
talked to women online
and been on a few dates here. To tell ya
the truth, and
I've never told anyone this, most
American women,
including many in my own
family, make my head spin.
They just do. And I don't want
therapy over it
or anything, but I'm just sick of
them. I'm
sorry but it's the truth.
Despite what
racial differences or geographical ones some might think me and you would have,
I can tell that if we had grown up down the block from one
another, we would have been fast friends for life. And here is an
imaginary toast to all of the American-ized shit that we have to put up with
here. Take care, Winston,
http://www.happierabroad.com/phpBB2/viewtopic.php?t=6931
Admittedly, I am not a big fan of everything that Winston Wu says and
does, but I do believe there is a lot of truth in his ideas. My story is similar to his. I grew up being told that I was a freak, a
weirdo, a homosexual, and a moron. I couldn't
understand what I was doing wrong - I was smart, caring, insightful,
hardworking, ambitious, and prosocial. I
couldn't understand why some people believed in all the drama that came from
living an antisocial life.
I was punched, pushed into urinals, and worse. I became convinced there was something wrong
with me...I even seriously considered suicide when I was in grade 11. That was in 1999, when the Columbine School Shootings
happened, and I identified with Eric Harris and Dylon Klebolt.
It wasn't until high school was done and that I got into the real world
that I realized that really, there isn't anything wrong with me. In fact, some people looked up to me.
More importantly, I discovered Filipinas. Well, Filipinas discovered me. What a change it was being told that I was
hunk. After years of being humiliated in
school, I finally found myself being
adored by Filipinas !!! Not just loved -
lusted after. I could be sweet, and
would get love back. Gone were the days
of being punched for being a prosocial person.
Western high schools reward mentally ill idiots who while ignoring
prosocial go-getters who will actually
make a difference in this world.
My unhappiness became a distant memory...now I am loved, cared for,
listened to.....Filipina girls respect my character. They respect the fact that I am not just
lusting and gambling my life away. I got Filipina girls telling me I am so
handsome. In fact, my Filipina
girlfriend's friends all send her messags telling her that she is so lucky to
have me, and one even asked whether it would be possible to marry my dad (she
assumed my dad must be similar to me).
More than anything, I feel vindicated.
I know that really, it isn't me.
I am normal; it was the people around me who were mentally ill.
One could write an essay over one hundred pages long about the benefits
of having a Filipina girlfriend. Most men appeciate the care, the devotion to
family, as well as general sexiness of Filipinas as the main reasons for
choosing one. Also, many of them have been severely hurt from a previous
relationship with a Westernized lady, and are determined to find someone who
will never hurt them again.
For me, the best thing about having a Filipina girlfriend is that I am
able to show love, care, and affection and be accepted and loved in return.
Growing up, I was constantly told that I need to "man up" and
"be more aggressive." In Western culture, men are taught to get what
they want by fighting for it. You need to stomp on someone else's head so they won't
stomp on your head. I was told that I was not aggressive enough, and that I
needed to be a jerk to women. Men told me that I needed to treat my girlfriend
like she was a dog and make her beg for a treat. I needed to be the prize.
For a while I actually (regretably) believed that crap. But I quickly
realized the nonsense for what it was. My heart changed, and then I met Mahal.
I know I can be sweet and caring, and not have to worry about her treating me
like a doormat. Westernized women often think that being nice means being weak.
In Filipina culture, being nice is returned with kindness, and perhaps a bit of
sex too.
When I am with Mahal, I feel like I can be myself. I don't have to walk
around all "macho" (whatever that is supposed to mean). I can share
my weaknesses, and we can laugh at each other in a supporting way. I have
finally realized that it really isn't me that is wrong; for so long I had been
with mentally ill people who viewed prosocial people as a weakness. You can't
blame a Palm Tree for not growing in
For the first time in my life, I have felt unconditional love and
acceptance being with Mahal.
To be with someone who values me so much brings out the best in me. I want
to be the best lover, the best husband, the best father, and the best servant
in her church. I don't have to fear that my efforts will be replied with
insult. I can serve her, cuddle her, listen to her, and support her, and not
fear rejection. She is the best lady, so I want to be the best lover I possibly
can be for her.
I wish all men still looking for their Filipina love lots of good luck
!!!!
Subject: Wu...Winston Wu.. Stirred, but never shaken!
Hello Winston,
I first heard about you when talking on the phone with John Benneth
about homeopathy, skeptics, and he mentioned your slugging it out with
them. Googled you and found some of your enemies on-line,
too. Went to your HappierAbroad site and you make me laugh,
man. You're just trying to live the Cassanova life we all would if we
could, I think! :-) The Devil's in you as a strayed Christian, indeed!! Then again, who am I to
point out a man's sins?
I write to ask you a question which I already know the answer for, but
to get you thinking some about it. As time goes by and all that kissing
of strange women leaves you feeling empty inside -- wasted and depressed, but
just masking it over in an actor's gig of enjoyment and marketing -- what if
you somehow channeled all that interest into service of
country?
You
know what I'm getting at.
Who
like to mingle, party, and have a sexy babe in each arm.
People
like you who can take international businessmen on wife-seeking / wife-swapping
tours.
Who
can corrupt the souls of key politicians with those babes you keep.
A dangerous profession, indeed. But, then someday you could
write books, websites, and market yourself as Winston Wu, the man who truly
lived; A great patriot who knew how to party just like Ben Franklin in France;
As an old man regretful of his sins and intrigue, a repentant Winston who
returns to Christ again in shame....but a colorful life of a great sinner
gone great saint all the same. Some American arms delivered abroad.
Drugs imported. Russian babes in every port. Powerful friends and
mobsters in dark corners. Mixing and mingling with the underworld and
doing arms deals with Achmed while rendering key information from the inside
that
Wu....Winston Wu. Superagent Extraordinaire. The King of
Putang. Slayer of Arabian Knights. Keeper of the Harems.
International Man of Mystery helping save the world from Dr. Evils and
rabid sheiks! Gambling with the hottest of chicks in
Where
Just a thought from General Quack.
I hate to see a brilliant, once Christian life wasted
on debauchery when, if adjusted a bit for God & Country, why you
could be a legend. Why not be all that you can be, man?
Remember the saying? "Never entrust
a sword to a man who won't dance." And you, my
friend, where once a wallflower staring at his shoes, you dance with all the
lovely ladies today! This is a great warrior in the making, I
smell. A great novel not even yet written. Your parents and
grandchildren would be proud. Your critics would be held at bay as mere
chickenshits who never dared live the life you dared.
Just thinking maybe you might want to think about adjusting your
travels some and chasing putang in places like Mindinao and
Warm regards and Happy New Year,
Sir Quacksalot
Hey Winston, my name is Mark and i live in northern nj. I love and appreciate your site. I agree with the vast majority of what you say on ALL topics. I'm 46 years old and a decent guy in all areas. I can't move out of the country as much as i would like to since it is not practical for me for several reasons. I won't bother with american women for the reasons we all know.
But i wanted to asked you about foreign born women living here and what you
think about them. Specifically several brick and mortor dating/matchmaking
services in the
Most of these services have good reputations. 2 of them are russian and eastern european women. 1 is for latin women from south and central american and the caribean. And several are asian women but only 2 are considered very good. Just wondering what you think and any advice you may have. I would greatly appreciate an email reply if you would please. Thank you Winston and Happy any Healthy New Year to you and your family.
Mark
Hi Winston:
I stumbled upon
your website and learned a lot. You inspired me to get
out of the
going to
I am moving to
What are you up
to now-a-days? It will be great to meet up or at least
chat on phone
sometime to share experiences. I currently live in San
Francisco area.
Sach
Hi Winston! First
of all I want to thank you for your website, it is very refreshing and motivating
and encouraging to me as an American who's dating life is virtually
non-existant since my divorce in '06. I have a renewed vigor and focus
thanks to you and your site.
I did want to
bring to your attention, though, that a marriage agency sponsor you have on
your home page, anastasiaweb.com, is
a scam site that you can read about more here through this gentlemens site: www.agencyscams.com. Apparantly this is one of
the more insidious sites in this business and I just wanted to bring it to your
attention.
Secondly, if you
have the time, what advice would you have for a guy like me who has two
children (ages 7 and 5) who I am a dedicated father to, but who also wants to
explore the greener
pastures of the world's dating scene? As I
see it, I really can only be away from my kids for a few weeks at a time at
best, any ideas or do you perhaps know anybody in this same situation who made
the best of it? I don't think I can be the only guy with these responsibilites
who is looking for love abroad.
Thanks again for
you hard work in putting up such good news for us American men to enjoy. I too
was made very mentally ill for a long time from my devotion to evangelical Christianity so we are kindred spirits in this regard too. Even with that, I do
wish all the richest blessings be upon you.
Sincerely,
Michael
Hi Winston,
Thank you for answering my questions.
Yes, you may use my letter below on your website. No
problem.
Also, another question -- why are so many Americans scared
of each other? I live here in the
Or maybe I'm just intimidating, for some reason?
The total lack of genuine human interest amongst them is
what really irks me. Being completely enveloped in a shell, like you
write in your many observations, and always in a hurry to get rid of
me. They have developed a whole array of phrases to get people out of
their lives. The easiest way for them to perform this maneuver is just to
tell you, "Alright, have a nice day" or "Oh, ok!" or
"It was nice meeting you." The killer is "I have to let
you go." The person cannot respond in any way but to just nod his
head and just leave, otherwise, he is perceived as a stalker or
harasser. Almost never have they ever asked me about my origins or the
meaning or root of my name, Dimitri, which is quite uncommon in the West.
On the subject of freedom, which Russians regard in a
completely different dimension, dissident author and speaker Ward Churchill
perfectly conveys my emotions when he writes:
"As things stand, persons residing in the
Russians have the concept of volya, which translates
literally as "will". In essence, it is the absence of the
"overarching authority" of political correctness which has developed
to an advanced level in the
Also, one other question which I desperately seek an answer
-- why did I 'de-Americanize' so to speak? In 1999, I felt rather at
home. Yet since, year after year, up through today in 2009, I feel less
and less American. Have you ever encountered this phenomenon where
immigrants suddenly have an urge to return to their native lands after so many
years here in the
Regards,
Dimitri
Hi Winston,
Thank you for replying to my email.
It is sometimes
difficult for me to articulate my thoughts into words regarding the way I feel
about my situation. Usually, it's easier to explain it orally -- but here
I'll try my best.
I've been living
in the
The other problem I have is my projection of
I also have some
questions for you. Have you encountered the following in the American
character?
1. Cowardice -- from experience I have not noticed that Americans,
especially the men, tend to only act "tough" or "macho"
when in groups or in a "gang" -- they seem to gang up on others and
overflow with confidence when in a group, acting alone they rarely utter a
word. Could this also be related to the fact that they attack ONLY
countries which have absolutely no means of defending themselves?
Also, on the subject of cowardice, I have noticed that if an American, also
especially an American male, who holds pretenses about being someone's "friend"
- almost never stands up or speaks up for his fellow "friend" - he
just has this blank, empty look on his face. Often, they will try to act
innocent and ignorant, and always claim they don't know. In theRussian culture, most men will
stand up or speak up for their friends, even if the friend happens to be just
an acquaintance. I truly admire that in the Russian character -- the
manliness and courage of the Russian.
2. Denial
-- also from experience I have noticed that if someone points out the obvious
in another person, that person will instantly deny or repress this fact,
usually for fear of losing his or her job. Also, an exchange between an
American and myself:
Me: What
gives the
American: We're not occupying
This denial is
very common, I think, in the American character. They will act
inappropriately or in a juvenile, infantile manner and the very next day act
like absolutely nothing occurred.
3. Political correctness to the point of benign totalitarianism. This one really
takes the cake. From experience, working with Americans is sometimes like
trying to swallow a dead rat. They are so politically correct about
everything that it becomes tedious and painful to the soul. The society
is so totalitarian in my opinion, that it probably borders on the insane.
I have been reprimanded so many times on the job for saying things slightly one
centimeter to the left or to the right (not in the political sense) of
conventionality that I just have to bite my tongue and not say a damn word for
fear of upsetting or angering them.
One example I can
give you is from my job at a Marriott hotel.
I approached the
manager at the front desk as I was ready to go on my lunch break and I asked
her,
"I'm going
to lunch now, do you need any help?" She replied, "No, I'm
fine."
About twenty
minutes later she approached me in total hysteria and scolded me for saying the
word "lunch" at the front desk, because there was a customer in front
of us!!! This is something that you might find only in an insane asylum.
I apologize for
the length and breadth of this letter, but I think that if fully encapsulates
my position regarding these freaks.
Hi Winston,
Love your website. Very informative and a breath of fresh air. I
am Russian myself and your assessment of Americans and the American way of life is very accurate. Also, your understanding of the many
negative aspects of the Russian character are also correct.
According to the
most recent statistics, the
I would appreciate
your response.
Thanks,
Dimitri
http://www.happierabroad.com/phpBB2/viewtopic.php?t=6719
HI!
3 years ago I
discovered this site and thought 2 things......
Please read on and don't get hung up on number 2 below :)
1) It has a
whole lot of content that I had already thought myself, even though I was very
relationally inexperienced and had never been (still have never) outside of the
US.
2) While it
does indeed speak to true and real problems in the US society, I thought (and
in some of these aspects, still think) it is also extremely and fundamentally
biased, cynical, self-limiting, immature, negative, poorly presented and backed
up with fallacies in logic, and does not at all focus on anything productive to
addressing these problems in this society (abandoning it for greener pastures
is making the social problem worse, not improving it). At that time, 3 years ago, I forgot all about
it and moved on in pursuit of the American woman.
With fierce
confidence, determination, and faith in myself, I set out to get into the
experience of the American woman. This
lead into a relationship, followed by cold-hearted rejection, followed by a
repetition of this, and a number of other interactions with ladies which went
nowhere fast... sort of like skipping
the relationship and going right to rejection mode.
As a man in my
30's, with an athletic, muscular build, decent looks, many achievements,
focused on health, spiritually inclined, intuitive and in touch with my
feelings and inclined to treat women with respect and kindness, I can not at
all relate to the rather pitiful description of the self that I see described
here in some of the posts and articles.
In fact, one might imagine I should do well in the relationship world in
the
However, after
3 years in this cycle, I begin to see that I was wrong and you are right. If I am to be absolutely honest, I have to
admit that relationships here have gone absolutely nowhere for me. I have spent 3/4 of the last 3 years single,
companion-less, and sexless, and have been rejected more times than I care to
count. I have given beyond what was
probably reasonable and it was not enough.
I have even challenged myself to respond with love and understanding as
women suddenly did a 180 degree switch and coldly rejected me, looking at me
like an alien when just a week before, I was the most "wonderful, perfect
guy" for them. I have come to see
that, with American women, it seems as if it is not worth the effort that it
takes to get past the so called "number-close". I have had too admit that I am confused and
clueless as to how to function with women in this social atmosphere.
I have come to
the crude and difficult position of having to accept that the social scene, and
especially the relationship scene, is extremely BLEAK at best here, in what
seems like a VERY LONELY nation (saying that with no direct experience at all
of other nations). An endless cycle of
meaningless, non-committal dating experiments and breakups seems commonplace,
and even that is not really an easy thing to get into - it takes a heck of a
lot of pursuit and effort for a man to even get into that experience.
I find myself,
a person who places a profound reverence on health and life, flirting with, or
even what feels like pandering and fawning over women who are very attractive,
but who abuse themselves with alcohol, tobacco, or use men like toilet paper,
seem to want men who use them like toilet paper, or who seem totally
disinterested in even talking with me, or who need alcohol to break their own
social barriers... women who I should not even be wasting my time talking with
at all, but should instead have compassion for as I let them down and tell them
that I am not interested in them, and yet I can not even get a date with these
women, much less a relationship! Not even
with drunks and smokers!
It often feels
like I simply lack the social technology to break down the barriers,
inhibitions, and fears - it is like one needs some sort of advanced social
skills and pick up skills... and needs to have that rock solid every day they
are under the woman's scrutiny. However,
I am just a human like anyone else - I have regular human issues and
insecurities and in a relationship, I try to just figure it out as I go along
and be authentic about my inner struggles and such... but this seems to not fly
at all in this society, where the women seem to want a perfect man who has it
all figured out and has the perfect social skills and perfect answer at all
times. Being accepted for who you are is a virtually ridiculous fantasy from my
experience.
So, I am coming
to see that I would indeed like to try to see if my fantasy notion of a better
life actually exists somewhere on the Earth. A place where the women are women,
the men are men, and people actually want committed relationships, the women
actually need men, the men actually need women, and no one is afraid to admit
it, and no one needs to run master game or have the perfect personality, or the
perfect looks for that matter.
Hence, I am writing
to ask for recommendations of places to go...
A little about
what I am interested in:
***1)
Locations: A place where it is easy to stay for an extended time and the
American dollar has a much greater buying power than their money (so France or
Italy would be out, for example, but S. America, some Euro countries and SE
Asia would be good). A place where I can live comfortably with no automobile on
1,000 USD per month.
I am
especially interested in
I have read the
info I could find here about locations, but all I see is a lot of
recommendations in favor of the
2) Language: at
least intermediate Eng
3) Looks: a
voluptuous figure - it's all in the hips
4) Chemistry
and compatibility are crucial: I have
learned through experience that this can not be revealed through a computer
screen, so I have no interest whatsoever in online communication with a woman
for months before going to visit her only to find that she is beautiful but
there is no chemistry. My way will be to
travel there and meet women on the spot, so fire away with your suggestions for
where to do this.
5) Outdoors
activity - I want a woman who either goes on outdoors excursions with me or at
least allows me to go mountaineering and such myself.
6) Health - no
interest whatsoever in party girls, alcohol, drug scene, or fat, lazy, fast
foodies. I want to be able to meet her
in a healthy setting like a store or work or church or volunteer project and
make an easy natural connection without alcohol, clubs, or parties. I can not stand these environments.
And what about
As for me, I am
white, 30's, athletic build and have to many gifts to offer going to waste on
unavailable American women.
Thrilled to get
any feedback I can and sorry it took me so long to get my head out of my
ass! Feel free to PM me, or post here.
if this is the
wrong thread for these kind of questions, please refer me to the right one.
~Jay
Subject:
Excellent Observations
Winston
-
I came across your website while searching online for people who had made
observations similar to mine.
I am a former American expat who has had to return to
Your description of sex life is especially accurate. In the states, I have
sexual interactions at a much slower pace, and sometimes go long periods with
no success at all. Furthermore, when I do "score," as Americans call
it, it tends to be with much less attractive women than I had grown used to in
You are also exactly right in describing how attractive women in
One mystery I have been trying to understand, though, is why there are
Europeans who willingly move to the states. Since I have been back, I have
reached out to European expat communities here, so as to find more easy-going
sociable people. However, Europeans that come to the states tend to be more
conservative-minded, and often quickly fall into the plain, boring and
unintelligent American norm. In
In describing these sentiments to a friend recently, he interjected: "This
country was founded by religious fanatics and goat-fucking peasants from
The United States essentially plays the role of the giant shitting ground for
all of the world's undesirables: rather than the poor, tired masses, it is the
religious, greedy, rich, superficial, narrow-minded, prudish freaks that we
most welcome in the Land of the (buy one, get one) Free.
Keep up the good work!
Sincerely,
dude your website rocks!
I'm a Chinese guy also, and living in the
I discovered
what you now know about the reality of courting and dating American women some
many years ago.
As a middle
aged guy, never married, I’m now in a serious relationship with a Hispanic
woman, very beautiful, in
Here in
Arkansas, in the lower Midwest (midsouth), where I grew up, still today, (and
I’m 45), rarely ever, do I ever get any beautiful women approaching me, either
at a bar, in public, or anywhere that wishes to get to know me for simply being
a guy. Unless I have a charade or dog and pony show, or act or mask to put on,
to this very date, I’ve never had a woman approach me just to be nice and hint
to me that she’s interested in getting to know me personally. I’ve never been
aggressive or lowered myself to the level of lying to entrap and deceptively
lure the opposite sex, simply because of loneliness and desperation. (Hence,
I’m still single and don’t regret it.)
Our horrible
culture sends mixed messages, and has for years regarding our roles, both male
and female, and the social ritualistic nature, which has become tarnished and
clouded with apprehensiveness and indecisiveness regarding the haphazard
introductory social skills when meeting someone of the opposite sex.
The break down
of masculine roles and norms has eroded the male into feminized males without
spines. Women know they have power, and they show it when competing and playing
the dating and courting realm. It’s all about power and control when playing
the market and participating in the game. Ever notice the onslaught of popular
top forty music lyrics? Hmmmm, guess how many continuous songs are sang about
females having domination and power over their male counterparts, even in the
introductory level in the poetry of the music.
No doubt WU, I
eventually overcame the obstacle of datelessness a long time ago, simply by
leaving our nations borders.
The
To this date,
I, by myself, while often setting at a social bar drinking will explain this
phenomenon to my fellow male patrons besides me, and still today, they don’t
believe me, or think that it’s possible to be happy and meet a woman from
another culture who actually likes you, simply because you’re an American guy.
They’re so brainwashed and pessimistic, all because they’ve given up hope and settled;
settled for taking no for answer and being turned down, like most modern day
males.
Women from
other cultures have always told me this, “American act like and present
themselves with a confidence all because they have a since of entitlement and
are spoiled with the men who cave in and become submissive. American men are in
demand everywhere else in the world, except
Peace Wu- You
Rock!
JD
'I believe that banking
institutions are more dangerous to our liberties than standing armies. If the
American people ever allow private banks to control the issue of their
currency, first by inflation, then by deflation, the banks and corporations
that will grow up around the banks will deprive the people of all property
until their children wake-up homeless on the continent their fathers
conquered.'
Thomas Jefferson 1802
And 206 years later, look where we are.
http://www.happierabroad.com/phpBB2/viewtopic.php?t=4278
“Winston's
blogs and photojournals are epic! I have a new internet hobby now: reading
Winston's stories.
I'm
moving to
I'm a
32-year old Canadian guy and I am actually fairly attractive (so much for
modesty) and educated and so on. I spent 2 years teaching English in
I'm a
"nice guy". I don't let people walk all over me but I'm not about to
go out and hurt others, either. I've been back in
So,
I'm giving up my well-paying job here and going back overseas and I don't know
if I'm ever coming back. If I can find someone to marry and raise a family
with, all the better. At the very least I'll be somewhere where people aren't
such a-holes. If
Winston
is absolutely right from my experiences. I had to go somewhere and then come back
to see the light, but I definitely see it.”
I left Europe when i was 14 to go to Texas and spend 5 years
in america i also went to Georgia and New Jersey...the first time i arrived in
america since i was 14 the first thing on my mind was to go chat up some
beautiful american girls in the hopes of meeting some for the first time in my
life...as some friends introduced me to some girls they knew , we started
hanging ot a bit and talking etc...then when it was time to say goodbye and go
our separate ways i kiss the girl on the chick since this is how we culturally
say goodbye or greet each other in Europe...my friends rushed back to me and
asked me "Why did you kiss he on the chick!!??? now she thinks you are in
love with her !!! " i was surprised that we were not able to have such
body contacts...but from that day i knew i wasn’t going to have as much
fun...another thing that struck me the most is the social behaviors that hot
white american girls have acting like they are better than guys buy trying to achieve
ultimate independence driving cars at 16 yers old etc... what i also hated was
when they ignore you when you wlk in the hallway even know they see you but act
like you are not there...girls in america dont seem to be ok with letting you
go out with them and always put you in what they call the "friend
zone" which basically everybody in america is in or at least the majority
of them...and america also has so many virgins , not to forget the 40 years old
virgin movie they made in trying to give hope to american citizens...and what
about that show called the pick up artist with that guru guy called
Mystery....his clients look depressed...its just scary to live like that and it
sure is not healthy ...humans need one another in america not only is it hard
to have sex...but to americans romantic behaviors are considered either weak or
weird or needy...you name it...and what baffles me the most is no one talks
about it and when you bring it up you sound crazy or something...they are just
hypocrites...i couldnt bare the nasty food they give at lunch compared to the
food in Europe...and we have no room to breath at school for example not enough
time to socially feel one another... back in Europe we have 2 breaks one of 15
or 60 minutes at 10.30 and lunch break of almost 2 hours so we can do
activities etc...in america you have to stay stuck inside and just have one
lunch then keep ignoring each other if you ever run into each other in the
hallways....everything you say id true Winston i could go on....anyway, what
pains me the most is that even tough i am back in europe i still find it hard
to go up to a hot girl because of how the hot girls treated me in america
...but i recently found the courage back and it worked i am slowly getting
better like i used to be before i went to america....keep up the good work
Winston because its a disgrace what is happening in America right now...lol
they even have this to catch a predator show because women are too hard to be
with apparently....its such a sick country....we are definitely happier
abroad....thanks alot Bro....CIAO....
Hello Winston:
I am reading your revised, updated book as of August 2009, and I must say that
so far it's are real eye-opener.
I especially liked the topic about hippies, and how even hippies chicks are
judgmental about looks.
Not too long ago, I was at an all-outdoor event where hippies and political
progressives were championing the whole "legalize marijuana" issue. I
had the chance to meet several hippie chicks, and you're right when you say
that they too are discriminatory, as if guys like us don't have any sexual
desires. I talked to plenty of these women and the only guys they seemed to be
hooked up with or interested in were fellow low-life, tatooed hippies like
themselves. Now don't get me wrong, I am not against the peaceful side of
hippies. I too think that we need to be non-violent. But nevertheless, your
points were greatly made about why men have to leave this country for love,
romance, and sex rather than join some cult.
Also, what men who are suffereing this loneliness lifestyle fail to realize is
that even hippies and church-going people still live in the brutal matrix that
everyone else lives in. They are no more escaping it then every non-hippy and
every non-religious person. And being that hippies and church people are living
in this matrix, they too judge their fellow human beings by how much money they
make, how popular they are, and how good-looking they are. There's no escaping
it. Hippies are hippies because they need a pseudo cause to explain why they
want to be poor, dumpy, and lay around smoking weed all the time. In all
reality, hippies are actually mooches, and very rarely are they the types that
will open their homes or shantys to someone and say "Come in, we'll feed you
and give you a place to stay!" They are very narcissistic. The whole 1960s
social experiment proves what idiots and phonies these people really are. They
all morphed into the same characters in the 1983 movie The Big Chill, followed
up by the late 80s series Thirtysomething. That's what hippies became;
self-centered, selfish yuppies.
Anyways Winston, I don't want to get into a three page discussion on this
subject. But I do want to say good job on your ebook. You are a brilliant
orator and you are very good at articulating in succinct detail the plight of
men today. Keep up the good work.
Steve
Dude,
You are 100%
right about european women and american women
It is so easy
to meet women in
If you are well
traveled, well spoken and educated you will meet the nicest girls
I traveled all
over europe. I dated the most beautiful women.
I married a
beautiful girl from the Ukraine.
I wasted years
on carribean cruises, and should have gone to europe.
I support your
comparison 100%.
American women
don't get it.
In my travels I
would say in europe the toughest girls are Czech and French.
Russians,
Latvian, Ukrainian are the nicests and sweetest.
John
Hello Winston,
My name is Kostas and I am from Athens, Greece. I came
across your web site while googling trying to find web sites with articles
about the differences between Europeans and Americans.
I am writing an essay for one of my courses at college and
I needed that kind of info. I have to admit that I was hooked up by your articles.
Many of the situations that you describe were like a revelation to me. You see,
many foreigners including me have a completely different image of every day
life in America especially influenced by the various hollywood movies and american tv series. I had never expected that things were
so horrible. You know, I also used to hate living in Greece but after
what I read about the states I think I changed my mind a little bit. Anyway,
the reason i'm writing is first to congratulate you for your courage to write
about this stuff and let everyone know that America is
not the ideal paradise that everyone imagines. I would be really interested in
getting your e-book , I think it would be very helpful for my essay. Do I have
to pay anything or can you send it to me for free? By the way, if you happen to
know any more good web sites about the cultural and
general differences between
american and european lifestyles, you would be more than
welcome to send them to me.
That's all for now! Thanks for your time and don't give
up. There are 200 countries out there, America IS NOT the whole world, unlike
many of your countrymen believe. I think if more americans
had the opportunity to travel more and see different
countries and different lifestyles it would be a very
pleasant cultural shock to them and they would start
realizing that they should change a lot of things about their lives. That way
Hey Winston,
Yes, I was able
to view the photojournals. And I think you did a good job on the videos,
too. The two women were down-to-earth and approachable (which you were
aiming for), and I think you successfully conveyed these qualities. I also
viewed your other videos and I think you have good presentation skills. A
video I found particularly funny was the one in which you attempted
to greet strangers in
I did read some
of the comments for some of the videos, and saw a lot of vitriol
to go along with some praise. I interpreted the venom in these
comments as jealosy and envy. Instead of these men appreciating the
initiative you've taken to open doors for other men, they'd rather sit on
their couches and attack. And the women are angry that they can no longer
derive pleasure in rejecting people like you and me anymore as more men
discover they can now have a great social/dating life overseas. Don't
allow the bashing to stop you from continuing to spread a life-changing
message for legions of men.
As for the
quote, yes you can use it. In fact, you can use my real name - Jelani. I'm from
NY.
Take care
Hey Winston,
I'm really
impressed with the cultural knowledge of the posters on your forum. I
was reading my thread last night that you linked, and I'm going
to comment in it this morning about how I might have a hard time deciding
which country to go to first!
Some countries
that I was interested in were a discovery, and that's a good thing. I've always
been fascinated, for example, with Romanian gymnasts and their grace and
elegance. So to hear the country is receptive towards black men excites me.
When I travel, I
really hope to gather additional informational and maybe be another cultural
consultant for you from an African American's perspective!
I was looking
at the pictures in your photojournal and book, and you're very right: you can
literally see the difference between American/non-American in terms of openness
and curiosity women in just their eyes. When I was looking at the
non-American female pictures, I thought to myself that I could easily ask them
out with confidence, whereas when I saw pictures of the American females, I
felt just the opposite. It's not surprising that you can get bad
vibes from American women just by seeing their picture!
Your book has
exposed me to a paradigm shift with regard to dating. My collection of
dating/seduction books is now merely a repository of rubbish.
Jelani from NY
Hi,
I'm really
inspired by your website. I hope you can give me a word or two of advice.
I'm a white (Irish
American) male, 21 years old, studying computer science. I'm hoping to go tograd school abroad. The obvious
choice for me would be
However, I wonder
if
So, what I'm
asking is, does your advice about traveling and making friends abroad
apply to all countries besides the
Thanks for your
time and your advice. I hope I get to go abroad like I plan and break out
of this cargo
cult I feel I'm trapped in.
Conor
Subject: Awesome! your a
hero with your site HAPPIER ABROAD
Hello Im Jo`mell
All of that
information on your site was literally stealing the words out of my
mouth..I agree I agree with everything..Im actually planning a trip to russia and I know there
are alot of beautiful girls and stuff, but i dont want to end up
getting a scammer or even having a run in with skinheads over there...Tell
me alittle where I should go for that and places to avoid theneo nazi skinheads and such! Thanks
very much
Jo`mell
Winston,
you're absolutely right about foreign women vs American "women".
Foreign women are far more cultured, intelligent, sociable and sophisticated
than American women. I can honestly say that once you meet a foreign woman, you
will never go back to an American woman again. You've mentioned this in your
forum, but this trip abroad confirmed everything you said. You're absolutely
right. Keep up the good work.
I am conner,, i have made several posts on your forums already.... go
ahead and read them and tell me what you think. My posts are very accurate..
Alcohol and ego are the two main problems here in the
I agree with everything you say. It made me realize just further how
bad american women suck! I am british and german. im 6'2
220lbs,, all muscle..Im a fitness model. And even i am having a very tough time
with the attitude of american women.....
There is something about the english language that turns women into
pigs and makes them have a bad ego...... And it also has to do with the fact
that they are basically living their whole lives in fear of everythign in
the
also with foregin language there is less ego.. there is something that
the foreign language does to their brain patterns that makes them
more wholesome looking and more feminine.... you can see it in their eyes ,
their face and their souls ....YOU WERE RIGHT ABOUT THAT! wow...
I am completely done with american women... I am now searching online
for euro women.... mainly russian or hungarian or czech... thats what i like...
IF you can offer me any support on where to find the women that i want.. let me
know... im going to continue to read your site... ,let me know what you think
about the feedback i gave you here
Conner
Winston,
Awesome website buddy. Reading your experience abroad vs. in the
states with the white ladies, I felt like I was reading about myself.
It's unfortunate that as Asian
American men, you and I face a severe
uphill battle in the dating scene in the
States. Whether we like it
or not, due to negative media portrayals of Asian men in the states
and negative perceptions, we are at the bottom of the dating pool
here, and it's frustrating as hell. I can remember stretches where I
would study in coffee shops, talk to attractive white women, add them
on Facebook,
then get rejected constantly when asking them out for
dinner or drinks, it certainly wasn't for a lack of effort that my
dating life wasn't going anywhere in the States. I'm into Asian gals,
but let's face it, it's a numbers game, and when 90% of the available
chicks around you are white, the odds are stacked against you as an
Asian man here. I might just have to take a trip to
I'm a huge fan of Eastern European women, and from my interactions
with them in the states, they are one of the few white women who are
genuinely into Asian guys.
Cheers,
Dan
http://www.ultraguest.com/view/1200586414
Winston, you truly are an inspiration. I am 26, going on 27, and the only difference between my life in the U.S. and yours is the fact that I have had ZERO positive experiences with bitchy AW my entire life. Your website and posts on the AWS forum circa 2004 made me realize that the grass really IS greener on the other side! You hit the nail on the head when you said that the U.S. is a social and dating hell. I was tormented during my youth and sexless/dateless since I hit puberty 15+ years ago. Right now, I have ZERO self-esteem and the only thing that prevents me from ending it all is being able to one day go overseas and escape this hellhole prison! F--- the haters, you rock!
"I thank you Winston from the bottom of my heart for showing me
and other lonely men THE WAY to PARADISE.
You beat out ALL of the PUA propaganda, so called “guru's and experts”
out there and you actually are OUT THERE DOING instead of just talking about
it. Those seduction books I use to buy
are total GARBAGE compared to what YOU'VE proven and you put PUA artist and
experts to complete shame with SIMPLICITY and REAL PROVEN SOLUTIONS
WINSTON..."
"Thank you Winston for all of your help. Your knowledge and
experiences are inspirational and GOLDEN and you are well liked and honored by
MANY. Do not let the HATERS get you down.
Because these types of people will not do for themselves, than to bash
you all day in B.S. topics and post. Why don't they step outside the matrix and
go abroad to be happy also? Keep up the
good work my friend. You're doing EXCELLENT !!!"
"It's such a wonderful time in my life and YOU are the person I
thank for this guidance and for making HappierAbroad.com and giving lonely guys
everywhere a chance at solutions and cures to datelessness and hope to having a
life that is fullfilled overseas. I'm so excited and so happy now
Winston."
- Dwayne from New York, of the
TFL Movement (www.trueforcedloneliness.com)
Dear Sir:
I just came across your article on the net about the Twelve Reasons Why Russian Women Are
NOT Desperate To Leave Their Country ....
I was blown away and amazed at your
insight i wanted to thank you for the info, I totally agree with you, it
was very enlightening to me and and have found that your insight
into Russian women is dead on from my own experience in getting to
know a few. They are so beautiful inside and out that @ first your
taken aback thinking this can't be real, they gotta be putting me on. You
put it so aptly....
" They are simply sweeter, more modest, unspoiled, friendly, unparanoid,
etc. and they do not have the self-righteous and arrogant tone that many
American women have. " In otherwords real women.
regards
Hi Winston,
I ran into your website because I was researching Christianity and I have to
say thank you! What you say about American women and esp. the list of 10
reason why you're forced to look abroad are so true. This is coming from
me, a white Irish-German male who's in the computer field, been told he is good
looking, 5' 11" and broad shoulders, yet I'm not rich, always had a belly
and the key thing, and I'm guessing the same is true of you, above average
intelligence. Women in the
All I know is, I am frustrated as hell and I'm no longer interested in them.
One question: Are there some more voluptuous women out there in
Dave
P. S. I skimmed over some of what you wrote about Christianity and all I
have to say is that the vast majority of content of Paul's letters are contradictory
to Jesus' teachings (this is what I was specifically looking for and I heard
that authors like Leo Tolstoy believe it as well) and that a
group of men canonized scripture, basically out of political pressure and
mutual interest and benefit. So, I am just as fascinated if not more so
in what was LEFT OUT of the Bible as much as what should not have been
included.
Hello
Winston,
My
name is John, and I am currently living in
Asian men in
I admire you
Winston. Great Job. I do not know how you did it, but you are a inspiration to
me. The woman love you, thats so awesome. Write back to me if you have time. I
will keep reading your website.
Thank you,
John
Hello
Winston,
I just found your website online, and just wanted to drop you a line, and let
you know a little about me and my new business venture. I like you was fed up
with all of the difficulties with American
women, though unlike you I ended up in the
I wanted to let you know (at minimum) about my new website www.personalmatchmaker.net,
that I have recently launched.
Winston,
I like your site.. Or
at least what I could see of it. You know it’s amazing how many guys I’ve been
meeting that all feel the same way. I myself have been to back and forth to
Ukriane several times. I know that if I ever get married, it will be to a
beautiful Ukrainian lady.
I like your youtube
videos too. Keep up the great job and happy travels.
Hey Winston,
Yes, I was able
to view the photojournals. And I think you did a good job on the videos,
too. The two women were down-to-earth and approachable (which you were
aiming for), and I think you successfully conveyed these qualities. I also
viewed your other videos and I think you have good presentation skills. A
video I found particularly funny was the one in which you attempted
to greet strangers in
I did read some
of the comments for some of the videos, and saw a lot of vitriol
to go along with some praise. I interpreted the venom in these
comments as jealousy and envy. Instead of these men appreciating the
initiative you've taken to open doors for other men, they'd rather sit on
their couches and attack. And the women are angry that they can no longer
derive pleasure in rejecting people like you and me anymore as more men
discover they can now have a great social/dating life overseas. Don't
allow the bashing to stop you from continuing to spread a life-changing
message for legions of men.
As for the
quote, yes you can use it. In fact, you can use my real name - Jelani. I'm from
NY.
Take care
http://www.youtube.com/watch?v=OwkYiCJ0rJU
“So
true! I went to
Hi
I read your
accounts on your happier abroad site and have been inspired and motivated to
travel overseas. I have a very similar story to yours, but with one difference:
I'm currently married and African-American. However, my wife and I are about to
divorce, and I have always struggled in the dating scenes despite looking
reasonably attractive. This is why I have remained with my wife even
though she is selfish and treats me like a pile of trash. I have had
a lot of bad experiences with American women and feel my dating chances are
slim to none after I lose her.
Just looking at
the inequality between the sexes on dating sites let alone in real life dismays
me. I don't want to be forced to just accept whatever female
"chooses" me. I want to be on a level-playing field and I think
traveling will help. Your own narrative has convinced me.
My only
question is: do you think my being an African-American will be
an impediment from experiencing the success you've had if I travel to
I'm eager to
hear back from you!
James
http://www.ultraguest.com/view/1200586414
WW your website is fantastic! I could feel for you when I was in my 20s. All of your bio sounded like something I would write and I'm not even a man (I guess I'm one of those .00000001% of American women that actually have class and culture!Anyway congrats to you Dianne and Angelo that was a very inspiring story, see the nice guys finish last, but BEST! Best wishes to you.
Request to be
on mailing list and your fiancee Dianne and your pics, congratulations, I have
been to
I also aspire
to write an Ebook about my experiences but focusing on East vs West, China
& the USA, the two most powerful and important economies now. I enjoy your
site, keep it up, I am still reading the interesting stories, letters,
commentaries, blogs and checking out the pictures and videos.
Hello,
It seems like you have also been with hot girls with very nice
legs. do you have some nice pics of you making out with a girl with very
nice legs? again, I can never get anyone like that and haven't been
able to make out with a girl for over 10 years at least. I am interested
in hearing or seeing some of the hottest girls you've done. It would make
me very jealous, and you can have fun making me jealous talking or sharing pics
of girls you know I probably would never get myself. I know you
have the collage, but the pictures are small and not as clear. thank
you. –grant
Hi winston, I'm a big fan of yours. Do you have any nice big/clear pics of you with some hot white girls? I never have any success with white girls as I'm asian myself. I am so jealous how you are able to get some hot white girls.... and even get to kiss them somehow. If you would like to show me how you are much better than me at finding hot girls to make out with, please send me a pic so I can be envious and look up to you more. thankyou..
To Mr Winston Wu,
Hi Im Joe I have just stumbled on your website Happier Abroad and I think its
great what you did and achieved abroad in Russia and the Phililpines and now showing all
your exploits on this site not to mention going to a place you have never been
before. Like you I was born in Hong Kong and
emigrated to United Kingdom
when I was four so you could call me a Chinese-English. I am planning a
trip to Russia in the Summer and I was thinking of travelling alone but dont
know how to go about it has you may know travelling alone is a very daunting
risk to take as I have never travelled alone before and the excitement of
actually doing it and also after seeing your website makes me to want to do it.
I have even tried many russian websites and the women on these photos nearly
all look like models, and I think russian women are the most beautiful women
in the world and are very elegant and tall and like you would
love to experience the russian women.
I purchased your Ebook yesterday through paypal and still not received it and I
hope your Ebook will help me accomplish my fantasies I have longed for. I
was wondering do you send me it by email or what as I have never seen a Ebook
before!
I hope to hear from you soon and am fast becoming a fan of yours:))))
Best regard
Joe:)
http://www.happierabroad.com/phpBB2/viewtopic.php?t=4742
Hey whatsup, im Ishmell. Im 24 years old and I currently live in Tampa, Florida. I cant agree more with the material ive been reading on this site recently. I have been jumping through hoops and bending over backwards here in america just to get a girl to even look at me and im a decent looking guy with a job. You cant go out and get a girl anymore you have hope and pray that you end up bumping into a girl thats your match but I came to the conclusion its a very slim chance that an american woman is a good match for me. Even if I was feeling a good vibe with an american girl I wouldnt know what to say because shes been scorned and has a bad attitude that a simple " hi, whats your name" makes me look like a creep. American women are the worst quality women on the planet, men like us deserve better, thats why I refuse to settle for them. I want to travel abroad, and soon move to a different country, maybe the Dominican Republic, Ive had my eye on Rio de Janeiro Brazil for a long time, the culture is great and the women are unbelieveable. Im thinking of starting an internet business where I can work from anywhere in the world, anyone interested collaborating or have ideas just send an email: ishwri@yahoo.com
Youtube comments on Kairosan’s
video reviews of Happier Abroad:
“Seeing Wu's
website makes me realize that there really are better girls out there to meet
and I wish one day I can visit all these places to meet real girls worth
talking too. Here in
"Thanks a milion. my concept of America's culture has changed from
a 180 degree angle just from reading that book( shouts in joy) Finally, I now
know why people act the way they act here in the states!!!"
"I love this ebook, it's fulfilled with many answers that I was
dire to learn. like you, I was once wondering why it was so difficult to make
any friends in high school, and now, I know exactly why. I 'm gonna recommend
this book to my gf, she claims that none of her friends seem to care much about
her anymore or doesn't have time to hang out with her even when they're off, I
kept telling her that American s and western societies un-writing rule is to be
"selfness's" and to only pay attention to those that they value. she
thought that perhaps there was something wrong with her when in fact there
isn't. Thanks a million and if it's okay with you, how about I do a video on
why people should buy your e-book, you can posted up on your site. Gotta run
and I'll just read this book ALL day..."
man - you are the man - i have looked through very briefly on your
site - but i want to walk in your footsteps man - i'm depress here in the U.S -
no action - absolutly no satisfaction - i see some of your fotos - all fo the
girls look hot to me.
i don't even have any chances with the ugly girls here in the U.S -
sucks.
http://www.happierabroad.com/
Hi all, I'm Jon. I've lurked around here for a while and finally signed up. I'm
a youthful 40, in great shape ,and own a few web businesses. I lived for about
10 years in
Perhaps it's because I stayed gone so long, but when I returned to the
I appreciate Winston doing this site because frankly, I know he's right. Before
I moved abroad my social life in the
I've been back a couple of years and I've really tried to make things happen
here. But now I have finally had enough. This year (2009) I'm planning to leave
the country. I haven't decided exactly where I'll go yet (I'm considering a few
places), but I do know that I'm definitly leaving, and "sooner rather than
later."
I have seen the quality of my social and dating life go down significantly here
in the 
If anyone wants to chat and/or share info about moving abroad, please be in
touch. I'm social and cooperative by nature (as opposed to paranoid and
competitive). Perhaps that's WHY I don't fit in the
Be well,
Jon
Hi Winston
My name is Tony Chan working in silicon valley. I stumbled upon your
website and think you hit it dead
on the head. Are you in the SF bay area? I will buy you a cup of coffee.
Regards
Tony
SWEET
website. WOW! Inspiring, useful, fun. Fascinating to see the
reactions of your readers!
As one pointed
out, you really are a leader. Unusually truthful and courageous.
Other dating
sites seem to focus either on getting laid, or on scoring with working
girls.
You do
acknowledge that side of masculinity, which we all have, but you also admit the
need for love, warmth, affection. This is what is hardest to get here in
Like you I was
an outcast growing up, but I eventually learned to play the game well enough to
get laid. Ironically, it's still extremely hard to find love!
OK, like so
many I am going to ask your advice.
My boys, my
brother and I are planning to emigrate - to get out of "the
Matrix." We are tall, athletic, talented, white-looking,
All-American types, but with stubborn Armenian temperament, and old-fashioned
red-blooded values, good manners, and lots of education.
We are all
single. We are all looking for young, virtuous women to give us
children. (Sounds kind of politically incorrect, doesn't it?) We
want to settle permanently in a place with strong family values and no
American-style rat race.
And when
it comes to women, we want what many of your readers want. Slender
women. Warm, loving, feminine natures. Sexual
reponsiveness. Intelligence and depth, but not necessarily a lot of
formal education.
Personally, I
would also prefer an environment where women were tolerant of a man
having multiple, above-board, committed longterm relationships.
We all speak
some Spanish, have dated Asians or Filipinas as well as Latinas, and learn
languages easily. We have family friends in countries ranging from
I'm hoping that
you might be able to help me narrow the choice a bit.
I understand
that the Philippines is better for settling permanently than Thailand, because
of the more open society and easier acceptance of white foreigners into the
family.
But I'm also
curious how you see the
I'd be honored
to hear your thoughts.
Hike (aka
Jester)
Hello Winston,
I came across this page looking for other sites of immigrants from other places
that were thinking of leaving the divided states of
A little bit about myself. I am from
This country, no offense, is dead, cultureless, lifeless, prude in many ways,
and completely uncivilized. I now work for a german firm and spent the
last six months working in
Now of course I cannot say that any country is perfect. All places have
their pros and cons, but I simply cannot live with the fact of living in a
country that thinks its the greatest piece of land on the planet, has the
biggest ego about it, and has the mass propaganda on the media to make every
american believe that they are god's gift to the world, while not knowing
anything about the remaining countries on the planet. Most americans dont
even know what the capital is of their neighbors,
A friend told me once that the american ego stems from from this country
scoring an A, and all the others scoring a C or less the last few
decades. I would have to say this country scores a big fat F in my
book. 5% of the worlds
population using 25% of the worlds energy and creating 40% of the worlds
trash doesnt score high on my list.
And lets not forget that this country has had George
W Bush as president for eight years... what madness... and then
this place was dumb enough to not just vote him in the first time, but then to
vote him in again... and lets not forget that John McCain and Palin made a serious run at
the white house... again that is only possible here, where the population
is kept ignorant to anything else in the world, and lead the lives that they do
because they do not know anything different or better.
Being German I find it especially frustrating because this country has an
obsession with everything WW2 and Adolf Hitler.
One turns on the history channel (or as I call it the war channel) to view
history that happened a very long time ago... not that is a bad thing to learn
a little history, and we all know most americans are not very educated about
anything that happens outside of this place, but I have had enough of nazi
jokes, beer jokes, or the comments that we actually wear Lederhosen every day,
drink 20 beers a day, and eat nothing but pretzels and sausages, and that all
of us have a Porsche (would be nice though).
I am not saying that everyone should be a world expert, but the average
american could not point out my country or the continent it is located in on a
map. Sure, most people overseas are not expert either, but everyone can
at least point on a map and knows the basic geography of the world.
A lady in her forties recently asked me how big
Another acquaintance of mine was actually firmly decided that he wanted to
learn swiss. Anybody that knows anything about
Ohh, and here is a new concept, I am typing this email in my second language,
and I speak and write better english than most americans
do. Or as I heard once, here is a joke:
When one speaks three languages: they are trilingual
Wehn one speaks two languages: they are bilingual
When one speaks only one language: they are american
Do not get me wrong, I have met some great people here and have made some good
friends, but these are usually individuals that feel the same way that I do,
have traveled a little bit, and are certainly not representative of the average
person here.
My biggest problem besides the ego, is the distinct lack of culture. If country
music, loaded six shooters, and cowboy hats are culture, then so be it. I
am proud of my country,
have an over D sticker on the back of my Audi, and a flag on my aviator jacket
along with a european union one, but I would never do that in germany. Is
it really necessary here to fly the american flag in front of every apartment
complex, house, mcdonalds, shopping mall, business, etc...? Is it really
right to instill the american ego from day one in children, making them at a
young age recite the pledge
of allegiance in classrooms, and breed ignorance and egos.
People in
And lets not forget the silly sports that are played... baseball and especially
football are so bloody boring.... ohh yea... there a have to be different
sports, so this way an american team can be world champion every year.
And lets not forget the blatant stupidity of the american units of
measurements.... its 2009, and everybody else is on the metric system which
actually makes sense.
The distinct lack of identity is rather strange as well. A now ex friend
told me that he was Irish. I asked if he was either born in
Not to go on too long, but lets not forget that people here have no health
insurance, no way to help them in times of need, no infrastructure with
constant dependence on automobiles, but this place can justify a nice
large military and bases around the world to protect the american interests of
consumption... give me a break
And last but not least, there is no freedom here. There are laws and
regulations about everything. There are certain financial freedoms here,
but what good is it if you can not enjoy it. One can have guns, which by
the way causes extreme crime and violence here compared to the rest of he west,
but once can be arrested from drinking a beer in public, of showing as much as
a buttcheek.... nice freedom!!
If you know of any other germans in the
Regards,
Been here too long and is counting the days until the big move back across the
pond
H
I think this maybe a beginning of a beautiful friendship. :)
I've stumbled upon your website while I was searching for articles on foreign
women. Though, this may NOT have been an accident. My name is Jerry Orphe and I
live in
I've read many of your available articles so far, plus your personal intro . I
must say, I can relate what you have been through in this country. I haven't
dated any girl in my life. And everywhere I move from state to state, it was
the same. At least you had on several occassions, even though it didn't last
too long.
My email is quite lenghty, I must warn you, but I think it's a reflection as to
where I've been through, and where I'm coming from. Feel free to take some time
to read through, if you like.
Ever since I was born, I went through tough love in society. Sure there were
some exceptions but overall it has been pure mediocrity. To this day, it's
tough love with me for the most part, though I've managed to eat some crow and
get used to it. And with American women, it's no exception. I've learned in
recent months (hard to believe) that you can't trust them nor have any
intestinal fortitude for true relations with them; they are either twofaced, or
cunning.
I've never had any "luck" with them, there would love to hide their
true feelings about me. And then I tried online dating in the US four years ago
while I was living in East Tennessee, hoping that it would solve my problems.
Only a few would respond. There was this one chick from Indiana who has two
children, and we started off good for a little while, then one day she reveal a
profound truth; she thought I stink and either seeking somebody else or the
father of her children came back to "take care of her". Then there
was this dame from L.A. who was studying law, we hit it off for a little
while, but with the same result. Then there was this chick I met online from
Oklahoma whose mother was a female pastor. A middle-eastern decent who was also
a nurse and was a few years older than me. We hit it off quite well, though it
was mostly small talk for months, like faith, morals and ecumenical relations
between fighting secterians. I was planning to even pay
her a visit. (This come months after I met this woman while I was in Tennessee
and then moved back to Miami and back to Tennessee again a few months later.)
But she discourage me from doing so, she didn't tell me this before until
months later (after moving back to Tenn.) when she reveal the reason why; she
is pregnant. Obviously, she has been sleeping with another man before she met
me. She was confused and destraught. And was willing to call off relations with
me. I was surprised, to say the least, I couldn't expect that from a preacher's
daughter. While all of that was going on at around the same time on the exact
same dating site, another female met me from Canada, and a female who was also
a mixed aborigine. She was aroung 19 and was recently moved to South Florida
where I was from. She was living with, and working for a couple with children to
babysit. I was thinking since I was planning on going back to Miami for the
first time in a few years, I
might pay her a visit. But when I came back, she was gone. I couldn't get a
straight answer from her for weeks. She said she was in Orlando with a few friends
on the one hand, and on the other hand she's back in Canada. Then she reveal a
horrible truth; she has been sleeping around with a dude behind my back and
while she was living with a couple in South Florida at the time. They then kick
her out after they found out about her "extraordinary" duties. And
she thinks she's pregnant. Then a few days later, she got in touch with me with
a test result and it turned out to be nagative. Overjoyed and a 'lil'
politically incorrect it seems, I told her "Thank God for that! I guess
that should taught you a lesson." She was offended like "Excuse
me?" and then she came very defensive like "First off, you got some
nerve to judge me like that, who the f' you think you are trying to tell me
that I should learn for this? You don't know me nor know who I really am,
I'm always been taking care of myself, I know what I was doing; you ain't my
daddy! You f'n asshole. You can kiss my ass goodbye, you &%#!!!!" And
I go, "ookey....dah' I took that back....sorry!!!" like a b*tch. I
was patrified, to say the least. Obviously, I had to eat some crow and play PC
with her because she was on the verge of breaking up, even though she was
screwing around with a fella while she was seeking a "serious"
relationship. It was less than a year later that we didn't speak to each other
ever again. Then on the same American dating site, there was this scammer from
Ukraine by the name of Oksana. Now this is where I find a "niche"
through foreign, eastern women in a routementary, strange, and twisted way
which I will gladly tell you shortly.
She was around my age, fine looking girl. She show me pictures of herself. She
then told me how handsome I was and how she loved me so. We certainly hit it
off immediately. We both correspond with emails for days on end, talk on the
phone. Then one day she wanted to see me in Miami and she just graduated from
higher learning and she ask for money for plane tickets. I wasn't working at
the time, in fact I was on unemployment insurance. I told her straight out I couldn't
afford to give her money for plane tickets. And she needed a visa to come to
this country. But she would have none of it. She threated to call off the
relationship if I don't give her the money, which it turned out she did. So I
was distraught, and saddend that she could do that to me. And you thought that
scammers only exist through FOREIGN dating sites outside the US. So I
have not spend much time with that particilar dating site, like I use to. This
is when I've moved back to East
Tennessee for a couple of years.
Discouraged yet undeterrent, I went to this international dating site that was
based in Atlanta (though, it is part of a small congromeration of international
sites.) An encounter with Oksana was indeed a turning point in my life, because
the way she interact with me, and coming from that type of cultural environment
where one could expect from a vast majority of women in the former Soviet Union
were different compare to the American women I come in contact online. Even
though she tried to con me. Nevertheless, I found Slavic women very attractive.
Now there are some other groups in the world I like (i.e. Middle-Eastern
women), but Slavic women was my overall choice, Winston, because I know that
"not ALL of them are like that!" the way Oksana did. :) And it's not
just the looks that attract me, it's their characteristics that attract me the
most.
So I subscribe to this site, put my honest profile up along with a few,
up-to-date pics. And shortly I had a few winks from ladies of eastern Europe
but no offers. So I decided to let them come to me. There was one time this
dame from Khaborovsk, Russia. She was a travel agent who have been to China,
Mongolia, etc. Me and her seem to have gotten on a good start, but then I
seemed to have carried away when I ask for more pics of her. She did but later
she didn't trust me because she thought I was a womenizer, who was out for a
quick score. And that's when she reveal to me she has a child. I didn't see
that on her profile but noneoftheless she told me that and to say that she
wouldn't allow her, and her child to let me "take advantage" of them,
like most Western man had tried to do with her, and so she end it. Ironically
enough, I've told what I just been through to the older woman in Oklahoma
(daughter of a female preacher) who just weeks after, made her
infamous annoucment that she was pregnant from her premarital sex with a man
she slept with. Interesting, at the time she gave me her take on the matter;
that the Russian girl in question could not give me the straight face, and how
Russian women couldn't be trusted.
Hypocritical, isn't it?
So I finally cancel my subscription from that American dating site I was with
before and continue on with this international one I've mentioned. Just months
after that experience with the dame from Khaborovsk, I was approached by a
Russian chick from Kazan. Instead of started out as friends at first, we
started out as lovers. She would tell me her problems with past boyfriends,
lossing her dad and I tried to cheer her up as best as I could. We got
aquainted, though. We send instant messages, play online games together and
blow kisses. It was quite sincere, though cumbersome. We spend some time online
for amost a year. We thought about one of us going to visit the other soon but
she Insist that she visit me, she was also in school at the time. She had a
hard time thought trying to get visas to America, and she was having hard time
raising money for trip. But I tried to encourage her not to give up.
Then there was my faith, at the time I was in spiritual confusion I've been to
a few Christian denominations while I stayed in Tennessee for a couple of years
until I went to a Roman Catholic church in town. I was interested in
Catholicism and thought that they are the one, true, and "ancient"
religion that I need, though throughout my journey towards Catholicism I've
studied church history and it's recent deviations and changes in dogmactic
Christian teachings, practices. Many of which didn't make much since to me. But
I've decided to stay the course up to my conversion. Anyway, that is when I met
a married couple who are devout Catholics. I later on ask them to become my
sponsors prior of confirmation to the Church. One time, they invite me into
their house for lunch and to help me make scans of my tech books onto a
computer they owned where I can burn scanned pages onto a blank disc. While at
the same time I have a pic of my girl I retrieve from an
emai so I can adjust the brightness of the photo via a editing software they
have. One of them saw what I was doing. She wanted to know who she is. I told
her that's my girlfriend from Russia whom I met online and she wanted to know
more about this girl. I told her almost everything about her and how she lives.
I could tell she was concerned about my dealings with this girl. She express
her objections with me dating someone from oversees because they might decieve
me. And then her husband join in on the discussion. You see, Winston, sponsors
in the Latin, Papal church are obliged to give you some wisdom and to
"help" a neophyte like myself stay on a right and moral path. Though,
I had to admit, she sounded like a American of the mainstream cultural mindset
who don't travel much would sound. She argue that those people are desperate to
leave such a not-so-develop land and my friend is up to know good. Moreover,
she said, they may have one or two other
male partners on the side who I don't know about (which bear some truth to
that.) And that a girl and a boy who has similar problems cannot produce
positive chemistry in a relationship that way; In other words, I should stay
the hell away from her. She would also like it if I should stay away from
online dating in general and instead focus on participating in religious,
local, youth get-togethers at the Catholic church, bible meetings and all that.
And find someone who spiritually relate to yours, one who is Catholic that is.
She went on to tell me that maybe God doesn't mean for me to have a wife; in
other words, He wanted me to become a celibate priest like all other Catholic
preists or even a monk (even though I have some sinful, sexual urges I couldn't
control, it's just human nature.) And if I were to find a spouse I need to show
her the positives in her. I need to have my cup overflow with positives, enough
positives in me to "spill over" to a
negative person like her. (with analogies and the whole nine yards in order for
me to figure it out.) I took a back with all of that. Even though there was
SOME truth to what she said to me, I thought she was paranoid in branding
charactures, and stereotypes towards Russian women, let alone the people in
general.
Anyway, this comes just weeks before my girlfriend didn't bother to speak to me
online. After I was confirmed into the Papal church, I decided to move back to
Miami. I didn't hear from her still for another month. Until I text her on a
Instant Message board. She said she was in Moscow to work at some firm. And
that was just about it. I don't hear from her again. I guess I wasn't so trustworthy
to her.
I was a bit heartbroken but I was undererrent once again, so I stay on to that
East-West dating site. Two other females from two former Soviet republics
approach me but they both were in the US. One of them was going to school in
Indiana, the other was working as a housekeeper who was living in the Orlando
area with her girlfriends. We talk seperately of course but I never did have
the chance to meet them nor stay in contact with them for long.
Then, there was a girl from Khaborovsk; a different girl this time. And this
time I decided to start off as friends the next time I'm encounted, because I
was having misfortunes otherwise. But she did approach me on the same site I
just mentioned. Apperately, she was thinking the same thing. She send me her
email message, told me who she was and how she wants to make new friends. She
told me her occupation and her age. Hum, I could have sworn that her profile
and the uploaded pics were not hers; I thought this could be another scammer.
She then add her cellphone number and I like "Wow! She really must be a
scrammer!" LOL But I took time to reply to her, acknowledge that the
profile and the pics don't match. It turns out the profile and photographs were
her mother's, and did that because she was having trouble getting her own
profile/pics uploaded, and wanted me to send her my email address so she can
reply with pics of her own. Okay, I figured, so she
past the first smell test. Now let me see if she acturally sent those pics,
which she eventurally did. And she looked pretty indeed, I like it. We then
start correspond with each other through all forms of communication. It
continues to this day and it has been nearly two years since, the longest I
ever have with any woman online.
At the time of our encounters though, I still have some feelings toward
American woman. I though well maybe I should give them another chance. But I
wouldn't go join an ordinary dating site; I figured maybe it has to be
religious. So I went to Catholicmatch.com and subscribe. For once I took my
sponsors' advice (well half of it anyway, I still attached to online dating
sites.) I thought were if these Catholic ladies are as nice on there then they
should be nice anywhere in the country. After all, one out of a few Catholic
articles on the Internet suggest that religious men should stop wasting time
and money finding foreign women abroad and conscetrate on local
"religious" women in the States because they don't describe to the
femenist, secular cultural mindset and besides it's much "cheeper".
Foriegn women are "desperate" to do anything to come here and live a
better life for themselves. It should be "Love not Lust!"
I later realized though how naive and pressumptious that turned out to be. And
it turns out IT was the final straw that broke the camel's back.
On the first day of subscription, no winks, a few nods here and there but no
offers. Then one chick from Chicago saw my profile and like what she saw. A
female by the name of Gina. She was amazed that I'm a neophyte to the Catholic
faith. She was quite old; like 41y.o. old. She has a doctoral degree from a
Catholic college and also a medical practitioner. We started to talk, how she
strain from the church at one time and was consider
joining the New Age movement until 9/11 came about and she had a ephinany, that
religion does play a huge part of one's life. So she went back to
"Rome" (as to returning to the church.) She likes reggae and
dancehall music, she's into health and fitness like I am, into organic foods
like I am, brags that she has been to Europe and Jamaica, reads books, speaks
Spanish, loves to egage in meaniful conversations, loves everything Jamaican
and does yoga. (Hum, I wonder where did Christ ever instruct his disciples to
do yoga? It is beyond me, believe me.) She wants a man who is (get this)
attractive, physically fit, highly intelligent, refined, motivated and a
natural born leader, one whose speak foreign languages and plays one musical
instructment at least. And he has to been for animal rights.
Whew! What a mouthfull! Now I can see what you mean about high expectations of
a typical American woman.
At first glace, we seemed like a ideal "power couple". Okay, so I
barely made it out of undergradute school but at least I'm highly intelligent.
And I'm in to the Jamaican culture (well 3/4 of it anyway.) And I don't have a
musical instrument to play, I did had a portable organ but it was broken and
have to throw it away. And I'm not into animal rights, cause I think animals
don't have rights; they can't sue their masters or take their human masters to
court. But I haven't kill a single pet in the house. :))
But after a while, things started to go downhill. I told her I was moving to
Chicago to start a new life. She seem okay by it. Unfortunately, it was during
the winter months and she was going on a vacation to Jamaica with her mother. I
then resign at a cafe I worked for six months. I flew to Chicago, and sure
enough it was snowing and cold. I stayed at a townhouse in a Chicago suburb for
a couple of months with a few thousands of dollars in cash with me to get by,
trying to find work while my friend Gina was out of town. Anyway it was weeks
before she came back from her trip. I reached her online and she sounded pissed
off after her run-in with the Rastifarians while she and her mother visit
Jamaica.
She was mad at them because they treated her and her mother
like rubbish by giving them a hard time.
She later told me about her brother who left the Catholic faith and become an
"born-again Evangelical". And how he would not submit to the pontiff
and why he wouldn't have their children baptised in the Church. She sounded
quite attimate about it everytime she mentions it, she wouldn't dare marry a
guy who felt the same way about her Church (Though, I happend to agree with
some of what he's saying.) Then she ask where I'm located, I told her Des
Plaines (outside the city limits) near O'hare Airport. She
was taking back the fact that I did not find a room to rent in the "city
PROPER." She hates the suburbs. Boy! Some ecouragement I got from her
after days of no job offers and little support from the landlord who rented the
room out. She's obviously a cityfreak.
We later met in person, and had dinner at a Middle-Eastern restaurant after
days of postpoments. Just small talk, etc nothing exciting.
Then weeks later, I tried to get a Illinois driver's
license in order to get a food delivery job operating a registered vehical the
landlord lend me. But the clerk at the DMV said I needed a birth certificate or
a passport before I can register (which I didn't have with me at the time.) So
the red tape of Illinois prevented me from getting a license, and I didn't get
a job as a takeout delivery man. Interesting, I brought this to my friend's attention
and of course I was pissed off about the whole thing, I just needed to tell
somone to get it off my chest. But then she was offended after I said "to
hell with the State of Illinois", and next thing you know we had a fight.
All because I "dis" her homestate. She went on to rant "Duce the
attitude, J!" and "Well why don't you just leave here, if you don't
like Chicago
so much, let along the state!" I never said I dislike the City of Chicago,
where did she get the idea? So we stop talking to each other for
awhile. Then we patch things up and start talking again.
Then my money was running out. I've spent most of what I have left on a
bartending class in The Loop for a few weeks. When I've failed to get a job
working behind the bar, the landlord demand that I pay the next months rent or
else. He tried to help me out anyway he could but I've failed to meet his
standards. I only had a couple of hundred bucks left, so I decided to give up
and take a bus back to Miami.
All this time my "friend" Gina couldn't help me out at all, I thought
she was too self-centered to at least help me get through the winter months
till I find a job a when I did get one it was too late. When I even told her
what was happening and how not many would hire during the winter months, she go
"Well, why didn't you tell me this before you came? I could have told you
to wait until spring!" Ha! She "could have". This is what I
"could have" expect coming from a loyal Chicagonian and a devout
Catholic.
It was a huge mistake. I came back here in late February of last year with no
job to go back to and viturally no money. I told my Russian friend in
Khaborovsk what happend and she tried to cheer me up a bit. I thought that was
kind of her.
A few months and three failed jobs later, I begin to correspond to Gina and
debate her about her religion and some of its controversal teachings, like the
papist's version of the Assumption of the Mother of God, and how a person who did not
have a stain of Original Sin didn't die and was assumed
bodily into heaven. Remember, their fundemental teaching of Original Sin is
that we inherit "guilt" from Adam's sin against God upon our birth,
thus bringing death upon ourselves. Which was a total mistranslation of
scriptures, and when in fact should be the other way around; that we are born
"mortal" but do not inherit Adam's guilt. So I brought this to her
attention just to get the ball rolling. At first it was quite civil, but then
as it progresses turned victious. She, and her modern Church dismiss the fact
that we inherit "guilt" through Original Sin, at least that's its
core teaching from Augustine himself. Then it progressed to other scwabbles
over other
questionable teachings such as the Immaculate Conception,
The Latin version of the Assumption
of Mary, etc. She was really defensive, as most Roman Catholics are.
She then accuse me of "dissing" her faith and starts throwing red
herrings at me with some 'Ad hominems', and some strawman arguments. I thought
that was a bit childish. That is how one responds to constructive criticisms, I
thought. That did it, she then decided she would cut off communications with me
because what I've said was "repulsive", and "offensive" to
Catholics like her. Nobody should ever criticize their beloved religion.
Remember, I had mixed feelings towards Catholicism prior to conformation. I
even taken a oath that I believe every single doctrine/dogma the Church teach
and if I were to openly criticize even one teaching, I would be blackballed and
ostracized by much of the faithful and prehaps by the clerics too. I didn't
call her bluff because I knew how Catholics would react
to criticism; they would slander you, lash out at you and cut you out of their
lives. Which is what Gina did. It was religious fanaticism at its worst. And
this is not the first time that ever happend to me, on the same Catholicmatch
website a single mother by the name Colleen from Australia, whose significate other left them
years ago. She saw my profile that I was a Uniat (that is a Catholic who
belongs to a Eastern Rite church in which they are in "union" with
the Latin Papal Church.) I've joined a Uniat parish here in Miami at one time,
which came weeks after I was confirmed. Anyway she gave me her phone number not
to get aquainted with me, but for a theological dispute. She has a beef with
the iconastas on a eastern altar and how it sever ties with the people and how
unfair it is to her. This comes from a woman whose same church she confess to
had alter rails, at one time, that seperated the people from the clerics during
mass and later do away
with it just decades ago. I tried to give her biblical explanations as to why,
and how the "santuary" where the iconastas is located is God's
holy ground, ties also with God and Moses. But she was not satisfied with my
answer. So she suggest that I should get explanations from my priest and then
get back with her. I did, and when I told her what he told me, she still was
not convinced. Obviously, she don't want to believe it because she thinks it's
unfair, she was used to everyone desicrate the altar with thier sacreligious
shenanigans. I tried to reason with her but then came the arguments. She starts
throwing red herrings at me, the ad hominems' and the like. And then she cuts
me out of her life. It's some sort of a "pattern". I could see why
her man left her.
You just can't reason with them, even if you try to be nice to them they would
always find something to whine about.
And so I told Gina right before she cut me off, "To hell with Catholicism
and to hell with your pope!" And for that matter, to hell with American
Women. When she cut me off I cut myself off from the Catholic dating site as
well as American women.
Now I'm quite wary to be around them, Winston because of the bitter experience
I had with them over the years. And these so-called religious women in America
are just as bad as the rest of them are. I did not choose to be wary with
Western/American women with anger and disgust, it was the femenist's. And as to
why did I want to start a debate with Gina? The answer is quite obvious;
arrogants, and self-centerness. And that's all I'm going to say about
that.
I continue to talk to my female friend from Khabarovsk, Russia because I think she holds a
promise. I hope her when she was ill. She lend me HER money, not my money, her
money so I can buy and send her a few vitamin supplements she ask for where she
could not get in her country. I think I've earn her trust. I'm planning to even
travel to Russia
myself this year to see what all the fuss is about, and see her. I don't know
how it will all turned out but I will have to wait and see. Who knows, maybe I
can give you her name if it turns out good. :)
I thank God I've found a person who I can relate to and has experience in the
international dating scene like you do. You can give me your take on my
"horror" story, if you like. (though, I think it turned out to be a
positive one in the end. I think you would agree too!)
Take care and talk to you soon!
Jerome
Dear
Mr. Wu,
This
is James Kwok living in Vancouver, British Columbia, Canada.
You
are an infinite inspiration to me and I feel tremendous admiration to the fact
that you actually put
your
dream into reality!!!
I
did not seem to be able to use pay pal to pay for the e-book I am interested
in.
Please
tell me where can I use my credit card number directly to pay for the following
books!
Sincerely
James
Kwok
1)
Expatriate Lessons and Insights Ebook – By Ladislav, my Expat Advisor who is “The Obi Wan
Kenobi of Expatriate Life”. Contains hundreds of pages of multi-national
insights, comparisons, knowledge, lessons, wisdom and advice on World Living,
Dating and Cultural Understanding. It is unrivaled in scope and depth. Click here
to sample Ladislav’s writings in his Blog.
2)
My Travel and Dating Guide To Russia Ebook – Everything I know about traveling
and dating in Russia from firsthand experience is contained here, including
short cuts, tips and tricks.
Mr Winston Wu,
Your story is an inspiration to many. But, how I ask may I buy your eBook? When I click on the link it takes me to PayPal, but how do I know that you have the email address to send me the eBook? Where is the shopping cart?
Basically, I agree with you on your perceptions on America and the rest of the world. Dating-wise, I believe you are spot on! I have spent about 10% of my adult life outside of America and I agree with you. One has to spend some time outside of America to better understand it.
Your eBook, how do I get it?
Robert
Hi Winston,
I stumbled across your site and
really enjoyed what I’ve read so far.
Having moved from South Florida to Germany early this year, I can relate
to what you are describing…in fact, many of the “American lifestyle” reasons
you mentioned are the same ones I felt.
And the women are friendlier, though
I haven’t really enjoyed them fully yet ;)…you find just talking – no
techniques, or “speed seduction” stuff –
works good? I think maybe I’ve got it in
my head that I have to always have a technique or something…maybe this applies
more for American women?
Anyhow, again cool site and I’ll
check back later…
Hi Winston,
Thank you for allowing us to see the rest of your photojournals. They are
really inspiring, as in the amazing women, places, and courage you showed in
the Russian territory. If I had been mugged as you were, I really couldn't say
that I would have stayed there or even made future trips back. I probably would
have been on the first plane out of the country, running home to mom lol. I
looked up your friend's book, Kinga Freespirit. It was shocking to learn that
she passed away almost a few years ago. It's a real wake up call to how short a
persons life may be, and really kicks the "travel and see the world"
motivation in gear- before you never get the chance.
I had a Russian girlfriend for two years. I didn't have to go to Russia, I was lucky enough to meet her here in the
states. Unfortunately things didn't work out between us, but after my
experience with her I don't feel that I can go back to dating American women. The
food she used to make was excellent, she forbid me to clean anything, and sex
was amazing. In my wildest fantasies I can't imagine an American woman
forbidding me to clean lol. I'm a decent looking guy and haven't really had any
problems getting women. But after my experience with my Russian ex, I really am
not attracted to American girls anymore.
I could talk about this for hours but I know you're a busy guy and I don't want
to ramble too much. In the future I plan to definetely purchase some of your
travel DVDs. For the eye candy and also practical advice in how to travel. I've
never left the country before and I have no clue how to travel wisely or
practically. If there are any books that you can recommend, that would be
greatly appreciated.
Also if it's alright for me to ask, I found Alina from Yoshkar Ola really
appealing. She greatly reminds me of my ex. As my ex was from a small town too
and held many talents as well. Would you happen to still be in touch with her?
Maybe still have her email address? With my luck she is probably married to
some lucky guy and has children by now, but it never hurts to ask.
I want to wish you good luck with Diane, you always seem to have your hands
full. Not only with her, but also her family- which is ten times worse in my
opinion. But if you look at the bright side you're gaining valuable experience
with eluding major hassles and creatively solving problems. ;)
Happy Trails,
Hey man, I just want to say I like your site. Only one
problem. All of the pop ups are annoying!! See if you can move them.
I have also lived outside of the U.S. before and see what you are talking about.
What bothers me is I feel that the country is becoming even more separated and
isolastionist. Even though I live in a large metropolis which so much cultural diversity
(Chicago) i feel as if I am in a country with nothing in common with anyone.
What's the point of all of this diversity if there is no sharing?
And I really don't think that the election of Obama will change this fact. The
country is too divided. Do you think that America will get better, or will is
it getting worse. I personally don't think that all of the immigration in
helping with this either. I'm thinking about moving to Cuba or Brazil.
Peace
A.A.
Hey Winston,
I was just sitting here lonely and despressed out of my mind and stumbled upon your essay... you are exactly right about living abroad (in most cases) and I feel like my childhood was similarly awful.. you have a very nice way of writing and it was so easy to relate to your feelings.
Anyhow I just came to the West Bank (in Palestine) for work until April, this place is the worst WORST WORST place in the world for people like us. I agree with you that america is awful, lonely and fully of idiots (and frigid women)... I never had a girlfriend there at all even after college (and I'm a normal, attractive white guy)... but Palestine is worse, much much worse.. you should visit just so you can see what I mean, its all cultural so its hard to describe but women here are like a separate species (the muslim ones anyhow, there are quite a few christian Palestinians, stupid americans dont usually realize this, but they are far out numbered) they segregate themselves and almost never interact. If I was gay, I think this place would be fantastic because men here are all basically forced into intimate relationships with each other because they cannot have access to women during their youthful hormonal years, I think every man here has has been with another man... anyhow thier are no hookers, no sluts, nothing... so even the hot-shot males (the ones who in our high schools would have been with all the girls) get nothing until they are placed with a woman for marriage.
Anyhow I'm here alone in my house (ok I have bought a couple parrots to keep me company, but thats just to keep me from jumping off the roof, it is no substitute for companionship)... and I found your article, it made me happy to "meet" someone similarly vexed. At any rate I've lived in many countries too with similar experiences to yours. I really applaud your website and your effort to get good men to leave the states ... actually I have no idea why more people arn't emigrating these days anyway, the US is a shithole (and thats coming from me, in Palestine! haha!). I want to visit the Philippines sometime soon but in the mean time I'd like to help with your business plan, spread the gospel, per say.
I;d like to offer my guiding services for central aisa (Kyrgyzstan and Uzbekistan) as well as east africa... I know you might not think of those places as rich dating grounds but they are fantastic. I've lived in both and can attest to it (although I don't usually date African women.... they are there and beautiful and so so so very loving) - its also a great place for fun travels, safari's etc and I know the owners of many of the lodges there... Plus I think there are quite a few unattractive western women who want to find hot African males (I see it all the time on the ground) and there could be interesting tour options there as well.. african men are amazing in that they can actually have sex with women they find unattractive and end up having long-term relationships.
Kyrgyzstan is an amazing place, I cant begin to describe it well. I'm "writing" a book about it - a photographic guide - for that reason. Anyhow its a beautiful place with green hills, snow-capped mountains, nomads on horseback, lakes, rivers, its like Colorado must have been in the 1800s. The women there are all kinds, asiatic, russian, and persian.
So if you're interested in extending your tour offerings I can be a cultural guide. The only thing I'd ask is to be able to help put the trip together and require std tests for the clients before they go, to be fair to the women (and easier for the male clients). I can put together some pretty kick-ass itineraries in those places as I know all the good hotels/tour companies and safari guides. Anyhow let me know what you think... I'll be finished with this project in April and head back to Kyrgyzstan.
Cheers,
Hi there Winston Wu. I wanted to say. I love your article about the guardedness of north American Anglo women. It seems like one of the biggest oxy morons. In order to meet woman you have to go out and make an initiative. Like being opened and friendly saying hi. However by doing so it makes you look like the biggest freak, weirdo, asshole, creep, ect. And can even cause all king of problems even serious problems. You don,t even have to say anything Inappropriate. Come on to stong say anything weird or do anything agressive It dosn,t even matter how good you look or how intelligent and articulate you are. Yet the weirdest thing of all is if your some totally stupid unintelligent, unarticulate untalented not even visually unattractive and a total piece of shit. You have no problems with the Lady's. I was wandering what has caused this phenomenon in the US and the rest of North Anglo America. I remember the 1970,s and early 1980,s were not quite this bad. Oh yes I,m also an artist. Keep up the super awesome work your doing.
Good Morning, Winston Wu!
I hope you are having a great week! I spent time overnight surfing the internet because I was trying to figure out how to escape this materialist country in which I live. I'm tired of working myself to an early grave here in the U.S. of A trying to keep up with the Joneses! I don't want to keep up with the Joneses anymore! A simpler life with a lower cost of living and a better social life are what I am looking for! As I was trying to decide which country to go to, I stumbled across your www.happierabroad.com website and thought it was excellent! I even went on to read the other parts of your site, including your childhood, your transformation,etc. Your childhood sounds a lot like mine, lol.
I'll give you a little background information. Brace yourself, this is kind of long...
I'm the firstborn daughter, and I have four younger siblings, two brothers and two sisters. I was born in the U.S. of A. but at the age of five my family moved to Germany for about three years, due to my father's job. Those were the best years of my childhood and I didn't even realize it until after my family and I returned to the United States. Sure, everything wasn't peachy in Germany and we had to worry about terrorists blowing us up, but all in all I had a blast there! I went to American schools, but I had great friends, great teachers, and studied in a great environment. I was a social butterfly until the age of nine, and that was when we returned to the U.S. of A.
Things went down the drain from there. I liked school and I liked studying, so that wasn't the problem. In fact, I studied because I wanted to, and during my elementary years I did well in school without even trying. What put a damper on things was that my father wasn't making the money that he was making in Germany. In middle school, things got worse. I still did well in school because I took refuge in my studies, but the kids treated me like a second-class citizen because I didn't have the cool clothes that they had. Things got a little better in high school when I was hired for a series of part-time jobs, and that lifted my self-esteem a bit. Still, I was an outcast because I liked to read, study, carry around books, etc.
If my math scores were good enough, I might have gotten a scholarship, but that didn't happen. I wanted to go to college, but my parents kept drilling in my head over and over, "It's too expensive! You can't afford college!" So, I continued working from the age of 18 onward. (I landed my first job when I was 15 years old and in high school). I didn't sign up for post-secondary education until I was 20 years old, but during that "gap year" I continued to study things that interested me. What did I study? Well...
When I was eight years old, I became highly interested in Asian culture because of a social studies unit that we did when I was a second grader. I was already in Germany and I was learning German at the time, so it seemed natural to add an Asian language to the list. Unfortunately, I couldn't find any teachers who spoke any Asian languages. Even more ironic was that my family was supposed to go to Japan after our stint in Germany ended, but due to a last-minute change of plans, we ended up back in the U.S., in Texas! I was not happy about that at all! At the age of 14, I took an "Intro to Foreign Languages" class in which we dabbled in Latin, French, Spanish, and German. I was going to take up French in high school at the age of 15, but my mother told me that it would be more practical to take Spanish, so I gave in and studied Spanish instead. At the age of 18, I decided to tackle the Japanese language because I wanted to attend a local university that offered Japanese. Unfortunately, by the time I graduated from high school, Japanese wasn't offered at that university any more! First I couldn't go to Japan as a kid, and now I couldn't study the language in a university! What was this, a conspiracy?
I eventually signed up for classes at a career college and entertained plans of becoming a multilingual secretary. I spoke English (and wrote it with near-perfect grammar), was near-fluent in Spanish, and was studying Japanese on the side (on my own) when I wasn't studying for my classes. However, people kept knocking me down. "What are you studying Japanese for? Nobody speaks Japanese here in the U.S.!" The plan was to work abroad, even if I didn't get a job in Japan! I felt stifled in the United States and wanted to break free!
Ironically, I landed a job at a local day care center where I taught foreign languages to children. I was still in school then, and after I graduated with my business degree in 2005, I moved out of my parents' house and got my own apartment. (That shocked the heck out of my family!) Things got expensive, so I had to take on a second job. In 2006, I moved again to a different apartment in a better neighborhood. Four months after settling into my new apartment, I began hanging out with a young man that I had a crush on at my second job. I thought he was cute and I admired his work ethic, so I invited him over for pizza and a movie. Less than a month later, that young man became my boyfriend. There I was, 26 years old, with my first boyfriend ever! We dated for a year before he broke up with me. We're still friends, and now that I can see things clearly, the timing was probably off. If it's meant to be, we'll be together again, but if not, all I can do is hope for the best for him and get on with my life.
I turned 29 in September. All of a sudden I feel old! I know that I'm not old, that's not until I'm 30, lol! The problem that I'm having is that I'd like to do some things with my life before I get too old. I've been working since I was 15 years old and I have nothing to show for it but a bunch of debt! (Darn student loans!) I don't want to accumulate more material items any more! I want to get out and experience life! I treasure memories now more than I do material things. I've applied for some English-teaching jobs and thanks to my experience working with kids, recruiters want to hire me. I find it ironic that I'm "unwanted" by American employers, yet I'm in demand overseas. Weird.
As you mentioned in your website, we're told by the media that there's nothing good outside of the U.S. borders! I beg to differ! I've lived in Germany as a kid, so I know that there are good things outside of the U.S. of A!
I feel that I am a white/latina/black/asian person rolled into one because of my huge interest in different countries and cultures, and also because of the languages that I speak. I don't fit into a neat, clear-cut mold. I'll give you a breakdown of my upbringing according to certain cutural stereotypes:
Asian-like upbringing:
1. My mother instilled in us the importance of education, but I got more of that message because of my firstborn status, even though I was a female. I had to speak proper English, "ghetto English" wasn't allowed under her roof. I had to make straight A's on my report card, which was easy before I turned 13 years old. When I entered middle school, it became harder to get straight A's because didn't do so well in math. (I moved to a different state at the age of 13 where they taught math differently, so that didn't help!) If I got one B, that was ok, but if I got two or more, or worse, a C, D, or an F, things got ugly! Things got even worse because my grandparents expected me to get good grades too! My city had this "horrible" habit of posting the names of all the kids from the local schools who made the honor roll, and if my name wasn't in the newspaper...
2. No boys! My parents and grandparents (and aunts and uncles) didn't want me around boys! As a teenager I was dragged to my grandparents church a lot, and even the church members were telling me, "Stay away from boys!" Geez! The reason was that I was to remain a virgin until marriage. As I mentioned earlier, I didn't have a boyfriend until I was 26 years old, and that was after I moved out and got my own place! Ironically, that boyfriend was an Asian-American man who was born in an Asian country, but raised in the U.S. since the age of three. He really brought me out of my overly prudish shell, and a lot of myths that I had about Asian men were shattered because of him. In other words, so much for saving myself for marriage...lol
3. My mother was (and still is) overly critical. Nothing I did was ever good enough. That could explained why I worked like an animal during my early twenties, holding down a job and attending classes so that I could graduate and move the heck out!
Latina-like upbringing:
1. I guess I could have put this under, "Asian-like upbringing", but I put it here because of a different twist. Based on what I've heard from some of my Latina friends, males and females are treated differently. I'm not saying that all Latino families do this, but I've heard cases in which the boys were treated like kings and the girls were treated like crap. Things were ok when I was a kid, and my firstborn status gave me special treatment...and special headaches. My life changed dramatically after I got my first job at the age of 15. I was going to buy clothes with my first paycheck, but what happened instead? As soon as I cashed my $300 paycheck, my father said, "Rent is due," and that was where my paycheck went.
Oh, it gets worse! I continued to work as a teenager, but I had to hide my money throughout my bedroom. I had a bank card, but after I woke up one morning at the age of 17 and saw that my purse was wide open with my bank card missing, I had to step up things and find better hiding places. I hid my money in books, because, as they say, "black people don't read," but my family members soon found out where I hid my money.
Wait, there's more! There I was, at work where I taught kids foreign languages, and my mother showed up at my workplace and asked if I had a copy of the tax booklet so that my brothers could finish their tax returns. Why couldn't they just walk to the library like I did and get their own book? So lazy!
Now, here's the killer, and I'm kicking myself for it! My brother wanted a car, and since he didn't make enough, he had to get a cosigner. Guess which overly-reponsible financially stable person they found? Now that he's defaulted on his car payments, guess who has to kill herself working two jobs to pick up the slack without any help from the rest of the family? To add insult to injury, he went and got himself another car!
Black-like upbringing
1. Because I'm a female, I'm expected to be able to dance and sing well. Singing I could do, but dancing? Well...I didn't develop that talent too well, so I focused on singing. I was in the church chorus, school chorus, and I walked around the house singing.
2. Black kids were mean to me because I came to school to learn, not to play around! I took my education seriously and they didn't like that. I was the subject of endless ridicule and cruelty.
3. When I was six years old, I wanted to get married and have kids, however, something in me snapped when I was in middle school. I guess it was the way that I was treated by black boys? Since high school, my mother drilled into my head that I am to be a "strong, independent woman". I went to school, graduated with a business degree, moved into my own apartment, gained financial stability, etc. Sometimes I just want to take off the "strong, independent woman" mask and just be a girly girl, but showing weakness isn't allowed. The year with my boyfriend was great at the beginning. Unfortunately, I became unemployed months later. Finding work took first place and my relationship was put on the back burner. Even though my (then) boyfriend offered to help me out financially, it didn't feel right for me to accept his hard-earned money because I felt it was my problem and I had to deal with it myself. I guess my independent streak put a strain on things, so he thought that I didn't need him. I'd rather have him back, but I guess I ruined things and it's too late now.
4. I have a deeply-rooted general mistrust of people, unfortunately. It takes a lot to crack through my shell, and the only man who was able to get as far as he did with me was my ex-boyfriend. I was treated like crap by black kids as a teenager because of my nerdy status and my socio-economic status, so that's one reason for my lack of trust. The other reason is the financial crap that I had to deal with from the age of nine and upward. At that age, I completely lost faith in my father's ability to provide for the family. My mother had to go out and get a job when I was 13 years old, and she hated the job that she had at the time, so that further added to the household tension. Two years later I entered the workforce, and even then I (reluctantly) used my money to contribute to the family income. It was either that or get evicted and live on the streets, and that was a huge fear of mine at the time. I didn't want to be poor and homeless with my classmates riding by and laughing at me, so I gave in and gave my parents my hard-earned money.
White-like upbringing
1. I had to speak proper English, none of that "ghetto English."
2. Rap music was banned from the household. If we wanted to listen to it, we had to sneak around and listen to it, but I didn't like rap anyway, so that wasn't much of a problem for me.
3. I felt comfortable around white people as a kid, and for the most part I still do as an adult. Remember, I lived in Germany as a kid and that shaped my life experiences.
4. I was told to stay out of trouble as a kid. As a result, I'm a 29-year old woman with no criminal history.
Even though your happierabroad.com site was mainly geared toward men, in many ways I agree with what you wrote. American women tend to be stuck-up, cold and standoffish. When I was a girl, I was quite friendly, but as I got older I became more cold and distant. I think the main reason for that was because of the mental, emotional, and financial crap that I had to deal with as a tween and as a teenager. As I mentioned earlier, at a young age I lost faith in my father's ability to provide for the family. (My mother told me that he wouldn't be in the situation that he's in if he had completed his education, but with today's economy going the way that is is, I'm not so sure now.) At the age of 15, I began working and thought, "I can earn my own money! If I save enough, I can have a better life!" Needless to say, I'm very reluctant to give up my financial independence because I've seen how my father and my brothers made unwise choices with their money that affected the female members of the family negatively. The message that I received was, "Men can't provide, so I have to provide for myself!"
In my case, I am the way that I am because I'm still in survival mode. I'm not looking for a rich man with megabucks. If a man is willing to meet me halfway financially, I'd be happy with that. During the happy times that I had with my (then) boyfriend, we didn't spend a lot of money, just time with each other. I valued time with him more than how much he spent on me.
What I'd like to do is get off this American treadmill and go to another country that has a lower cost of living and a better social atmosphere. There, I won't have to worry about working myself into an early grave just to keep my job and survive! I can loosen up and not be as stressed-out, and actually dress and act like a female! If I meet a man, that's a bonus!
Thank you for taking time out to read this long e-mail! Thank you for creating such a great site! I'll definitely come back again!
Have a great week!
Sincerely,
Juanita
p.s. In case you're curious, I'm not white, latina, or asian...I'm black! Shocking, huh? Yep, a multilingual black woman who likes to read! That's why my teenage years were hell!
Hello
Winston,
I am actually of Indian origin. Both my parents were born and raised
there. My father immigrated to Canada where I was born. I have lived in
various parts of the world such as South America,
the Caribbean islands, India for a time,and for the last 12 years I
have been in the US. I actually lived in Fremont for a while. My aunt and uncle
live in the Los Altos Hills area there.
I have read your loneliness story several times and I can identify with
it. Although the Hindu belief system takes into account that the human
spirit must experience a lot of things good and bad, I am very sorry that you
had to go through that. My story is very similar, except that I had no
action whatsoever, although to be fair I did not try as hard as you did.
I had been looking at the material of Ross Jeffries
and John Alanis and other bogus seduction gurus and it brought to my mind your
debunking articles on various subjects especially the ones on dubious business
practices. Your religion articles also come to mind. The seduction
industry is actually a religion with its own rules and regulations. Many
of the men who frequent those sites are men who could easily do what you have
done and leave the country, and have more success there.
I am reading your book with rapt attention at the moment. I like how you
spoke about people's fake laughs in this country. My former boss was like
that. His laugh was like one who was attempting to laugh or one who did
not know what a laugh was supposed to sound like. Really hilarious.
It is fake people like him who are only interested in money, fast cars, and
materialism who succeed in life in the US. They are the ones who are
given wide berth. People like us are thrown to the wayside.
I will join your forum soon. I really like visiting your site. A
couple of nights ago I spent the entire night reading your articles. I
wanted to go to sleep but I was compelled to read. You write very well.
Kind Regards,
Hello Winston,
Thank you for sending me the e-book. I downloaded it with no
problems. Your story and mine, based on what I have read about you, are
extremely similar as far as the social and bullying aspects are
concerned. The difference is that while you seem to have dated at least
once or twice in the US, I have never had a date or a steady relationship.
When I got to the part where you talk about the shield put up by American women, I
thought about the time when I wanted to buy the seduction materials out
there. It is really funny how this industry has spawned and really grown
in this country started by the same guy who started the fast(speed) seduction
site. It is only in this country, where the women are abnormal that such
cockamamie techniques are needed and bought by the barrel-full. And you
are right, they just don't work anyway.
Thanks for sending me the ebook once again. I really enjoy reading the
articles in your site.
Kind Regards,
Dear Winston,
Just want to say that you're amazing being able to make "friends" with so many good looking Eastern European girls. But as for myself I am single, as I have always been, never kissed a girl before, never had a girlfriend, and even went to my senior prom by myself. I am a typical 30 year old Taiwanese-American who, due to intense Parental pressure, spent my entire life "studying" and learning violin, piano, and martial arts to get into a good college and now medical school. I had virtually no social life as I spent most of my time in the University library, public library, or my room of my house reading and studying biology, MCAT, DAT, GRE, and now medicine "crap." After seeing your site, I decided to come to Poland to study at their University with the hope of making some "friends." But unfortunately I have been miserably unsuccessful! I been in Poland for one year without making any female friends and was wondering if you could be so kind as to give a fellow Taiwanese-American some tips and advice on how to approach women and be successful like you. I tried talking to many girls and during the past year I even went to the discos almost every weekend, and I studied everything I could find on the internet about picking up women but I just never was successful. The closest I ever got was when I asked this girl if she wanted to go to dinner but she said "no." I am not bad looking but I am 5 ft 8 inches and rather built as a typical blackbelt martial artist would look like. But the problem is that some girls take a look at me and I can see from the facial expression and body language that they don't like me, and then my self-esteem just totally nuclear bombs! My traditional Taiwanese parents with their ancient Chinese and Taiwanese attitudes about "working hard when you are young" and then "enjoying life when you are 65 years old and retired" put alot of pressure on me and my little brother so we, or at least I, never had any experiences with girls. But I would appreciate it if you could help me. I apologize for my user name the so called "AsianPussyMagnet" but that's just what I try to imagine myself to be when I sit here, by myself as always, in my 17 ft x 10 ft crappy dormitory surfing the internet. How did you meet all of these beautiful girls, it seems like everytime I try to meet a girl she has "a boyfriend?"
Please Help!
Most Sincerely,
asianpussymagnet
The 30 year old Virgin going to be the 40 year old Virgin and maybe 80 year old Virgin if I continue to be unsucessful. So please help!
Hello, I have read what your
website, I completely agree on whats going on in the U.S. I cant even get a girl
to even talk to me, for some odd reason women are stuck on themselves and dont
like being approached. Being young at 23 I want to venture into a different
country. Im thinking about visiting Brazil, and if I like it I might arrainge
to live there. Do u think Brazil is a good place to live for a young african
american? How you been to Rio de Janeiro Brazil? If so Are the women friendly?
Hi Wumaster. I loved reading about your adventures on the web.
I've already done quite a bit of traveling, mostly Russia and South America, and I couldn't agree more. I did everything right in the US: got my MD, started two successful companies, worked out, even took a Juggler seminar on meeting women. In the end my result was the same as yours, alone on the couch, watching TV at the end of the night.
I am thinking about taking on a new project and documenting it on the web. Similar to what you've done, but from a different perspective. I was wondering if there is any way I could talk to you about your experience. Take care,
Jeff
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