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HAPPIER ABROAD  Why You Will Have A Better Love and Life Beyond America

Testimonials that dating is all about location, location, location!


With all the letters I get from others and the many posts on my Forum testifying that dating is like real estate - all about location, location, location - I’ve ran out of places in this book to put them, so I’ve created this section to gather them together into one master proof. These are their testimonials and accounts in their own words (edited for spelling). Sources are linked where possible.


"Hi all, well my story is about the same as yours, but here it is anyway: for a long time I blamed myself for my lack of success with American women. So, I worked hard for many years to improve myself to the point where I would be worthy of a decent American woman. I got myself a Ph.D., then a job at an Ivy-league school, got myself into excellent physical shape, took up lots of cool hobbies like skiing, tennis, ballroom dance... and I was still getting rejected by women who had no business being picky! I had my epiphany when I was 33 and dating an overweight, 42-year-old, divorced mother who dumped me because I didn't have a "wild side". So then I did some traveling to (among other places) Hungary, the Czech Republic, and the Philippines, and beautiful young women couldn't keep their hands off of me! Dating is like real estate- the 3 most important factors are location, location, location!"


"Hi Winston,


Wow, what a great news!!!


Winston, you are a pioneer.  You are inspiring Asian American men everywhere to take the plunge and travel to Russia  (or Ukraine or Belarus.)  


Yesterday I went to see Nutcracker Ballet with a beautiful 26 year old Minsk girl I have been writing emails to.  She held my hands and treated me most tenderly.  Almost like a boyfriend she loves.  Wow!!!  Imagine that.  I am a 46 year old Asian American guy who had NO American girlfriends, no sex with white American girls and of course no marriage and no family in all my life in USA.  I could scarcely believe I was not dreaming throughout that date.  It was so unreal that this beautiful girl treated me so well.


The plain fact is that most Asian American men are treated so shabbily by American girls.  We are simply zero to them.  And most Asian American men are totally discouraged IMO (in my opinion).  They think they have absolutely no chance dating a beautiful girl of their dreams.  Well, Winston, you have shown that it can be done.  Not in USA of course, but in FSU (former Soviet Union) countries.  Here, it just feels so good to be treated as a man for a change!  And you don't have to be a great looking investment banker guy.  Some women here just appreciate tender attention.  For some women, even just companionship is enough! 


I consider coming to Minsk to be one of the very best decisions I have ever made in my life.  And hopefully, I will not go back to USA.  I like to marry a beautiful Belarussian girl and live here permanently."


"I could not agree more on the sorry state of American women (in terms of dating in general). For me, Chinese women (in China) have been sooooo good, and they are thin and hot; they are well edcuated and will do everything for you. The guys who get stuck here in North America are, well, stuck. This is not even to mention the physical state of the women here; most American women over 30 are obese (not just over-weight). And they are used; who knows how many STDs they have had. I feel sorry for them sometimes.


I applaude you courage and wish you the best.




"I have seen that because my personality remains unchanged, as I go from country to country the reactions of women to me are incredibly different. Why do I attract women in one country and not in another? Because of different cultures and values that they have vis-a vis men. When I lived in Russia as a teenager, girls would write me notes, come and see me in the house even if uninvited, tell their friends how much they were in love with me. When in America, all of that suddenly was gone and women would pass me by steely-eyed with not even a look of curiosity on their faces. I simply stopped existing as a man."


"I've never been to the Philippines, Winston, but after spending a month in Thailand I'm willing to believe everything you say about it.

It's not hard to meet girls in Thailand, it's hard to get rid of them. Not just bar-girls either - although there is a delightful abundance of those - but regular Thai women. There's a rumor that Thai women won't marry Western men, that only the lower classes do, and so on - but it's not true at all. Thai women of all classes are interested in Western guys.

That said, the girls from the north, from Issan chiefly, figure disproportionately in the plans of farangs (Westerners) because these girls are the ones who work in the bars and massage parlors of Bangkok and Pattaya, and to the Western eye they're very attractive, despite the Thai preference for lighter skin as noted in my earlier post.

That was my first trip abroad, Winston, and it has convinced me that your position that Western guys can have a better life in other countries is absolutely correct. More men die of happiness in Thailand than heart disease, cancer, and stroke combined..."


“I was very nervous around women, I found it nearly impossible to engage a woman in a conversation. I was convinced that was the reason I couldn't get dates. I was angry at myself for not being able to overcome this, but trying harder only made it worse. I spent a lot of time thinking about it and went to a doctor and was prescribed anti-anxiety medications but they didn't really help.


This problem came to an unexpected halt when I traveled to Asia and within a week I learned that I am really only abnormally nervous around American women. When I thought about it, this actually made perfect sense.


When I'm in a country like Thailand or the Philippines, I know that I am desirable to the women there (I get reassured of that everyday). So even if I get turned down by a woman, she probably has a good reason to say no, and she will be flattered rather than act like I'm some creep.


When I'm overseas, I don't subconsciously feel like I'm doing something wrong by flirting with a woman.


What it boils down to, is that foreign women are an entirely different species than western women. If I had been told 2 years ago that my love shyness/social anxiety with women could be solved simply by changing the type of women that I was pursuing, I probably wouldn't have believed it. It's one of those things you have to experience to fully understand.”


“Absolutely true! Every word in the 10 reasons. I was married to an American woman for 14 years. I left the marriage a hollow shell, a broken man. Why couldn't I do anything right? Everything was my fault, right? I must have been the evil bastard she described! Long story short = the AW got the house, and the 500K of capital gains (California). Not to mention my heart andf soul. I licked my wounds for 5 years, feeling bad about myself.


Then, I discovered Mexico. At the age of 42, I found a new life. I met a fantastic woman... loving, selfless, sharing, caring, and did I mention drop-dead gorgeous? I am now living in Southern Mexico, completely happy. I have been married to my Oaxaquena for 3 years, and the heat just gets hotter. We actually appreciate each other and life together is a 2 way street. She is always at my side with encouragement and support. And no, we don't place a lot of value on material things. When I am up in the states on business, or to visit my side of the family, I am quickly ready to come home. I laugh at the poor bastards I see chasing tail with their tongues hanging out. I don't give any american woman any thought except what a kid must think after the first time he touches a hot stove. I have been relieved of the sickness the shallow ones!


One need only sit in a coffee shop in a mall for 5 minutes to see the problem in its stark reality. Watch the women as they salivate over material goods and ignore everything and everyone in the area besides themselves. Do you see any smiles or eye contact going on? Absolutely none. In Mexico, smiles, personal greetings, hugs, kisses on the cheek, fond embraces are the order of the day. Contrast this with fake tits, collagen lips, and harried scowls, evil countenances, and the inability to pass up any type of reflective surface. Whattaya got? I have no use for American women. I only feel bad that I wasted 14 years of my life on one of them. RIGHT ON with the 10 rules!”


“Last night on a foreign subway, I gave my business card to the most gorgeous woman in the world, a 20 year old college student 30 years younger than myself whom I had only said a few words to about her dressing very stylishly. Then I got off the subway car saying please send me a text message sometime.

Just as the doors were closing, she jumped off the subway car asking for clarification about why I gave her my card. The subway pulled away.

Five hours later, after dinner, we were holding hands while walking along a river.

Her education level was way, way above the best Harvard student I have dated (and I have dated a number of Harvard students).

I could not have been happier about my decision to live outside the US.

The above would NEVER happen in the New York subway with someone raised in the US on CNN or Fox News to be paranoid and scared of her own shadow.”


From YouTube comments about Global Dating and Foreign Women:

realteruchan (3 days ago) Reply | Spam +2

Nonsense. I've been to many places, like China, Japan, Philippines and America and the idea  that the women are the same in each is foolish. It's like four different species. And it  can't be about financial status. Tokyo and Shanghai are rich first world cities and the  women there have no desire to go to the U.S. Yet is easy to pull hot women in both cities.  Not AS easy as the PI, sure, but compared to America, it's a cakewalk.”

Social economics doesn't explain why the dating scene is so much better in Shanghai or Tokyo  where it is equally easy for an American to date hot women, even successful women. They  certainly have no desire to go to the US. I have always had a great time in China and Japan.  Compared to America it's a cakewalk. There has to be more to it.

Actually I know many guys who find the dating scene in France and Germany leagues beyond  America. I find the same in Tokyo or Shanghai.”


“This reminds me of when I worked in Hollywood, there were all these stewardesses from all over the world working at the same company. There was this Filipina girl there that drove me wild. She was so gorgeous ( I thought) ! I was gonna go crazy. But she had like 4-5 boyfriends and I could not compete. Then she dumped me like a sack of potatoes. Then, when I finally ended up in the Philippines 3 years later, and looked back at those times, I could see things from a different perspective- she was just an ordinary girl - but, boy, within the context of the US, she looked so exotic and desirable. I eventually ended up dating model quality girls in Manila that would make her look very plain and unsightly. Oh, that location, location, location thing. How true it is!”

”Hi all, I'm Jon. I've lurked around here for a while and finally signed up. I'm a youthful 40, in great shape ,and own a few web businesses. I lived for about 10 years in Northern Europe, where I have friends I still visit; and I'm considered quite social and charming there. But...I moved home to the US a couple of years ago, and for the first time in many years, found that I had virtually no social or dating life.

Perhaps it's because I stayed gone so long, but when I returned to the US, it seemed socially awkward, shallow, immature and (if I'm honest) culturally backwards.

I appreciate Winston doing this site because frankly, I know he's right. Before I moved abroad my social life in the US was a 2 out of 10 (at best). When I moved abroad all that changed dramatically, and I made true friends and dated gorgeous women. Actually, I lost my visa to stay in Europe, otherwise I probably would never have come back.

I've been back a couple of years and I've really tried to make things happen here. But now I have finally had enough. This year (2009) I'm planning to leave the country. I haven't decided exactly where I'll go yet (I'm considering a few places), but I do know that I'm definitly leaving, and "sooner rather than later."

I have seen the quality of my social and dating life go down significantly here in the US, and frankly, life is too short for this bullshit. You know what they say: once you get used to  champagne, it is tough to go back to kool-aide.

If anyone wants to chat and/or share info about moving abroad, please be in touch. I'm social and cooperative by nature (as opposed to paranoid and competitive). Perhaps that's WHY I don't fit in the US?

Be well,

”I completely agree with you mobstersreport. I have a very similar siuation. I'm 40, no kids, divorced years ago, in excellent shape, own my own web biz, well-travelled and educated, but I'm finding myself "stuck" in America with practically no social life whatsoever.

I left the US once before, back in the 90s -- I moved to Scandinavia, and discovered what I had been missing all those years. I'm a decent looking guy with a good head on his shoulders, but I never had any luck with American women whatsoever. But in Europe, I discovered I could finally be myself, and there were All kinds of attractive, natural, intelligent women interested in me.

Unfortunately, I lost my European residence visa a few years ago and had to move back to the US. Since that time, my social life has gotten consistently worse, and I find it hard to relate to the brain-dead mentality that dominates here ( I'm in Florida by the way).

Ironically, women that I wouldn't give a second glance to in Europe seem to think they're too good for me here in the states. Of course, many of them wind up married to some abusive inbred redneck, and then divorced with a few kids in a couple of years. You reap what you sow...

So I've find myself in the same boat you're in -- looking for way out, and just trying to decide where to go and how to proceed forward. I'm very lucky in that I have an established internet business that pays the bills, so I can work from anywhere in the world. I've been considering heading over to the Philippines and checking that out, but an acquaintance of mine has also got me interested in Brazil.

Either way, I'll be making a decision soon and getting the F out of here.
J The Philippines seems to have the most relaxed visa regulations, making it possible to stay there almost indefinitely if you work within the system, So that's certainly a big plus ( The lovely ladies are another of course).

Which brings me to my last point: it's tough for a lot of guys to just up and leave the U. S., even though they know in their heart they'll be glad they did and their life will improve once they've done it. So I think people like us should stick together and join forces whenever possible. Traveling the world or relocating to another country can be challenging, but it becomes a lot easier when you have a like-minded "wing man."

So if anyone on here is in a similar situation and would like to compare notes, or potentially even buddy up to travel, please be in touch. I'm open to suggestions.

Finally, I know I’ve written a short novel here as a first post, but I want everyone on this site to know that Winston is 100% right. I have lived abroad and seen the difference in my social life, in how it made me feel inside; and I've also seen the antisocial lame-ass dating scene in the US, and how it undermines a man's confidence and inhibits his ability to simply be himself. It is an absolute shame, and no man should have to live that way.

Thanks for a great site Winston. You're doing a service to all American guys by exposing the limited possibilities for happiness and social connection in the US.

Also going abroad in 2009,


“So true! I went to SE Asia 3 months ago, My Social life went from 0 to Rockstar overnight. America is a dead place, Just GO! and get on that airplane. Life is better abroad, I'm making plans on fully moving to Asia this year.”


“Winston, you're absolutely right about foreign women vs American "women". Foreign women are far more cultured, intelligent, sociable and sophisticated than American women. I can honestly say that once you meet a foreign woman, you will never go back to an American woman again. You've mentioned this in your forum, but this trip abroad confirmed everything you said. You're absolutely right. Keep up the good work.”


“After reading all your ebooks and following your advice to visit Lithuania I did and met the love of my life. I really give you credit because you are 100% right. I'm never dating or going with a shallow, superficial american woman ever again. I would also like to let you know that I am getting married in MAY 2008. Keep up the good work Winston you do inspire people.”


“Then the second girl called me and said these words:


"Hello, my name is Inday, we met in the jeepney. I told all the girls in college about you and they all want to meet you."


Yup! They ALL want to meet me.


I went to a department store and again it was chuck full of little miss Universes- sales girls. I approached a counter and they crowded me.

" You are so cute. Your face is so cute". Then on another occasion I was paying for some stuff that I bought and the cashiers started whispering something. I though something was wrong. The answer was: "Very handsome"." Who, me?" "Yes, you". "What is so handsome about me?"  "I don't know, maybe it is your tantalizing eyes". And they started laughing.


I could go on and on and on. I would sit down and relax and girls would pass by and whisper to each other pointing me out. The word I learned was "gwapo"- handsome. Once I was just crossing the road. Four young ladies linked their hands and would not let me through. Sales girls from stalls would call out- "Hello, Darling!"


After a few days, I noticed something different about me when I looked in the mirror. My eyes were no longer sad as they used to be. I was smiling for real. Because this was the way a man should be treated. Appreciated. Desired. Women should seek him out and not the other way around. Rejections and maltreatment by women in the US or anywhere else where cruel women live harm the man from within. Rob him of his dignity. Slowly eat away at his self-respect and the sense of self-worth. Make him ill on his inside. He may not show it but permanent scars would form on his inside. My time in the Philippines was like some magic ointmet for those scars. They were finally gone!


A place like that was not planet Earth the way I knew it. At least it should not be planet Earth. It was a Shangri-lah.


At night, my nightlife would start. I would go to bars and karaoke establishments and there would be girls everywhere and not many guys. The girls would crowd me. They were so gorgeous I was out of breath.


In the US, if you go to a night club, you always see more guys than girls and the guys look glum and pissed off. The girls look like they are princesses even if butt ugly. Here it was different. The guys looked friendly and non-threatening. Most were just relaxing. No competition. Enough girls for everyone to go around.


Eventually, I took three girls who were working in the karaoke and we went to a resort where we rented a hut on the beach under palm trees. If there is a heavenly situation that one can imagine, it would probably be falling alseep in a bamboo house while listening to the surf and the wind rustling in the palm trees while being hugged by three angelic young ladies from the South Seas...


That's living!. No amount of job satisfaction or professional achievement cannot bring you close to the sense of fullfilment that such experiences can bring.”




You are 100% right about european women and american women


It is so easy to meet women in europe.


If you are well traveled, well spoken and educated you will meet the nicest girls


I traveled all over europe. I dated the most beautiful women.


I married a beautiful girl from the Ukraine.


I wasted years on carribean cruises, and should have gone to europe.


I support your comparison 100%.


American women don't get it.


In my travels I would say in europe the toughest girls are Czech and French.


Russians, Latvian, Ukrainian are the nicests and sweetest.




“Wow, I thought it was my imagination or something.

Last year I spent a month and a half in Europe and the whole time I was there I experienced an ease and comfort in social interactions that led me to keep thinking to myself: "Whats been the big deal all these years?....theres nothing wrong with me at all"


At the time I mistakenly thought that I had just finally broken through some sort of personal hang ups that had previously been holding me back.


About a week after returning home I realized that it was going to be back to the same old shit.

I actually broke down in the street crying.”


“Winston's blogs and photojournals are epic! I have a new internet hobby now: reading Winston's stories.


I'm moving to St Petersburg in the new year and as I was researching I came across Happier Abroad, and I couldn't agree more with the overall message.


I'm a 32-year old Canadian guy and I am actually fairly attractive (so much for modesty) and educated and so on. I spent 2 years teaching English in South Korea and I was engaged to my gf of 6 years, until she cheated on me last year. Well, I'm back in Canada and I think my experiences in Korea messed me up, because I find women here so damn unapproachable. There's a lot of beauties here and in the U.S., but what is up their asses?


I'm a "nice guy". I don't let people walk all over me but I'm not about to go out and hurt others, either. I've been back in Canada for a couple of years now and I am sick and tired of North American women. I remember how warm and friendly and flirty Korean girls were, and how fiercely loyal those people were to their friends, and I miss that.


So, I'm giving up my well-paying job here and going back overseas and I don't know if I'm ever coming back. If I can find someone to marry and raise a family with, all the better. At the very least I'll be somewhere where people aren't such a-holes. If Russia doesn't work out then I'll move on somewhere else.


Winston is absolutely right from my experiences. I had to go somewhere and then come back to see the light, but I definitely see it.”


“I discovered what you now know about the reality of courting and dating American women some many years ago.


As a middle aged guy, never married, I’m now in a serious relationship with a Hispanic woman, very beautiful, in Mexico .


Here in Arkansas, in the lower Midwest (midsouth), where I grew up, still today, (and I’m 45), rarely ever, do I ever get any beautiful women approaching me, either at a bar, in public, or anywhere that wishes to get to know me for simply being a guy. Unless I have a charade or dog and pony show, or act or mask to put on, to this very date, I’ve never had a woman approach me just to be nice and hint to me that she’s interested in getting to know me personally. I’ve never been aggressive or lowered myself to the level of lying to entrap and deceptively lure the opposite sex, simply because of loneliness and desperation. (Hence, I’m still single and don’t regret it.)


Our horrible culture sends mixed messages, and has for years regarding our roles, both male and female, and the social ritualistic nature, which has become tarnished and clouded with apprehensiveness and indecisiveness regarding the haphazard introductory social skills when meeting someone of the opposite sex. Hollywood and feminism are to blame.


The break down of masculine roles and norms has eroded the male into feminized males without spines. Women know they have power, and they show it when competing and playing the dating and courting realm. It’s all about power and control when playing the market and participating in the game. Ever notice the onslaught of popular top forty music lyrics? Hmmmm, guess how many continuous songs are sang about females having domination and power over their male counterparts, even in the introductory level in the poetry of the music.


No doubt WU, I eventually overcame the obstacle of datelessness a long time ago, simply by leaving our nations borders.


The United States can go to hell, and so can their women and so can the pussification of our men.


To this date, I, by myself, while often setting at a social bar drinking will explain this phenomenon to my fellow male patrons besides me, and still today, they don’t believe me, or think that it’s possible to be happy and meet a woman from another culture who actually likes you, simply because you’re an American guy. They’re so brainwashed and pessimistic, all because they’ve given up hope and settled; settled for taking no for answer and being turned down, like most modern day males.


Women from other cultures have always told me this, “American act like and present themselves with a confidence all because they have a since of entitlement and are spoiled with the men who cave in and become submissive. American men are in demand everywhere else in the world, except America ”.


Peace Wu- You Rock!”


“Winston -

I came across your website while searching online for people who had made observations similar to mine.

I am a former American expat who has had to return to Chicago to deal with family and financial issues. Prior to returning, I had lived freely, comfortably and happily in Paris for 3.5 years: almost completely forgot the unnatural tempo to American life that you so rigorously describe.

Your description of sex life is especially accurate. In the states, I have sexual interactions at a much slower pace, and sometimes go long periods with no success at all. Furthermore, when I do "score," as Americans call it, it tends to be with much less attractive women than I had grown used to in Europe. I have even been flatly rejected by women that I would normally pass up in Europe (for being too fat, arrogant, loud and annoying).

You are also exactly right in describing how attractive women in America find their beauty to be a commodity that can only be shared with someone of "value," however arbitrarily they define such value. You have to play ridiculous games, talk in insipid soundbytes, and belong to an easily identifiable archetype (ie hipster, yuppie, bro-dude, etc) in order to have a reasonable chance at a healthy sex life. What's more, sex is so often void of any meaningful romantic and intellectual connection. I never have those fleeting experiences in the states, where I make a week-long connection with a woman: meet in a bar one night, re-connect the next day at a cafe over talk of politics and post-modern philosophy and a pack of cigarettes, then out that night to go dancing, or into a pub to watch soccer. Life is just so mundane, empty and blatantly anti-intellectual in the United States.”




yup -- these guys are right on the money.  I flew to France after quitting a job in Silicon Valley...(where the women are absolutely terrible!)


I go to a French language school and take a class....I make 20 new friends overnight....I meet my future wife...I get married and now 2yrs STILL HAPPY!


I dont want to bunch all American girls into one big lump....BUT -- the majority of them due to culture or something act really snotty and stupid - like we’re not GOOD ENOUGH for them....and to be honest and not toot my horn - i was voted Prom King in Id hope to think that Im not THAT ugly at least...but i swear i went 12yrs in the bay area - and rarely found a girl who even batted an eye....and quite frankly i started to lower my own standards lower and lower....and for what?  The moment i traveled anywhere else - i found girls that would SINK any american girl that ignored i have a wife that turns heads left and right - but she is staring right into my eyes with love.


Real love!


I think America has a cultural problem internally that is eating it alive...


Good luck man”


“I believe in Wu. Wu was right about the Polish girls and them being really friendly and giggling and blushing. Wu was right about being able to go over to the girls' tables and immediately go and sit with them. Wu was right about the society being more open in Poland than in America. WU WAS RIGHT!!! ... Wu is trying to help other people's lives. And he helped my life because I stumbled upon his website and read his stuff and I was inspired in part by his website to try Poland. AND IT WORKED!!!!! WU WAS RIGHT!!!! WU WAS CORRECT!!!”


“I've had a bunch of other people validate what Wu says in general about European Culture. The last guy I talked with posted that message about Spain and the women he met. He too is confirming what Wu has said.”


“...I was in a high school in Russia and I was quite popular there. Even in the neighborhood where I lived, girls would look at me and tell me that I was handsome. I was not really doing anything, just being myself, basically. Girls would send me notes; some would come and visit me unannounced by just knocking at my door and the asking for my phone number. And I was just a teenager...


In the USA, things got far worse for me. Girls would just pass me by without giving me so much as a look. Years of loneliness went by after that. I tried to pick up girls on buses but they would look at me with fear as if I was a criminal. Most people would not make eye contacts each other or talk to strangers. I went to college in the USA later and stayed in a dorm and it was OK but you could not compare the dating scene to that of Russia. There were fewer pretty girls, lots of handsome talk and "sweet" guys and the competition for girls was keen...


When I went to the Philippines, things changed radically. It was even more intense than Russia- girls would stare at me everywhere, blow kisses at me, flirt with me and ask me if I have a wife. If I asked them for a phone number they would give it to me. Strange! Well, not now that I have learned about the Philippine culture. There are more women than men, they like Westerners more than other Asians and they do not mind mixing with other races as a rule.


So. I did not change but instead, I went from one country to another. Results were completely different and girls responded differently to me depending on the country.


I have found a better social/romantic life in the Philippines; I go there all the time; I have learned the two main languages there and as long as I am connected to that country, my social problem has been solved. I invite others to do the same.”



Comments on my Female Encounters film on YouTube:


Dude it's so true. Women are scumbags, and the men are douchebags here. I don't speak for everyone, but I am talking about the majority. Ever since I got back from places like Brazil and Europe, I never looked at American women the same. American women are the most boring, unfaithful, gold-digging vindictive pieces of trash. It truly disgusts me. Will I live in a place like Brazil someday? You bet ur ass I will.”


“i agree with wu, and i'm on the flipside of things- i'm a woman! after being dateless (yes, even in college, save one date) and going to france, i found guys approaching fairly regularly-- in random placesl like coffee shops and museums, not just in bars. and what's more, women too (platonically)-- thus, dating and forming friendships were easier in a certain way. it was great. guys, ask us girls out! with so few other guys having the guts to do so, you won't have much competition!”


“I totally agree with Wwu. I went to Russia and married a beautiful Russian lady in 1999. We have been married almost 10 years now and have a 6 year old daughter together. Russian women have a quality that is difficult to understand unless you have been there. It is a completely different experience than the US. Two keys: Be and act like a decent person and use the head closes to your neck.”


“well, i really do have to admit you're right :) though we have a fair share of stupid women here too lol (im belgian btw, women are fairly loose here) (sorry if i misspell anything :p)”


I've been living in China for about 6 years. I came over from Canada when I was 19 because i was fed up with life there. It was the best decision I ever made. I've lived in big cities and small in the North and South and traveled all over.


When I first arrived I was shocked at how sweet and feminine the women were. Chinese women were so approachable and didn't appear to hate men. They liked men and appreciated their attention. If they aren't interested in a guy they'll take all precautions not to embarrass the guy or make him feel bad.

On visits home, I found Canadian women simply unbearable to be around. Just mentioning Asian women would make them crazy and appear visibly threatened! Women in China know that finding a good guy is the most important thing for them in life. It would be difficult for you to find a woman in China who actually dreams of being a careerist and most women that end up that way (usually not by choice) feel lonely and are desperate to find someone. 

I'm recently married to a Chinese woman and so happy. She takes care of me and doesn't challenge my natural role of authority in our relationship. She is so patient and sweet with me, it is incredible. I thank God every day for her.


I also loved how nobody in China cares about your opinion. There is no political correctness here. You are free to speak your mind. As long as you don't publicly oppose the government, nobody cares what you say. People with differing opinions don't vilify each other here. It's great.

"Bravo...Bravo WWu777 good stuff

I can speak on this first hand. I lived in Europe for a couple of years and after returning to the good ol' us of a I felt like I was getting the stone cold shoulder, this coming after a very nice relationship or two with girls in Germany. I can really only speak about Germany on this matter but I was amazed at how girls or women if you like, over there would not automatically assume that you wanted to take advantage of them in some way. A couple of girls even went out for coffee with me, while having a boyfriend. I found this to be VERY refreshing. It was a lot of fun, and the women are incredibly mature. I was in my mid twenties and the women I dated were in their early 20s and they were far more mature and understanding than any girl I met in the US at that age. Of course, I don't speak for everyone in the US or Germany, and I did meet some snobs over there as well, but they were hard to come by.

I do agree with unheardlogic that leaving isn't necessarily a good answer, but I think I'm going back after I graduate college. Traveling is very addictive.

Keep up the good work!!"


"Thank you for creating this site, Winston...I've spent hours this evening reading your site and comments on here before joining, and you've really put your finger on so many of the dysfunctions in the US. I knew many of them, and even sensed them as a kid growing up (I'm now 40 and married). I can attest to the incredible femininity and beauty of the women overseas, particularly Eastern Europe, where I spent many years. I actually met my Italian wife in St. Petersburg, Russia!"


“Wow. Winston. Is it really you? Lol....if so WELCOME TO THE FORUM MAN.


I've got to say this right out: everything you wrote is absolutely dead on, and furthermore, your site, happier abroad, which was linked up to was INSTRUMENTAL in my choice to not give up on women entirely, but look overseas for women of quality. I've been on both sides of the fence that you talk about here; having gone through long periods of rejection by american women, followed by projecting the alpha bad boy image (unintentionally) they seem to eat up and got 'picked' left and right. But I can say this definitively: success and failure was all shit. People would constantly tell me "oh you just haven't found the right girl!!" Ha. Bullshit. Why is it every dumb bitch would take the alpha happy bachelor version of me, transform me to the beta, then resent their creation like a fucked up dr. frankenstein and then hop from one cock to the next? Over and over again. Nearly every relationship I've had with these animals has ended in infidelity on their part. After a 7 year meltdown in which the girl cheated on me with a 20 year old drunk (she and I are 32 LOL) I knew I was done. I'd long been a mysogynist and those dormant views came right back to the surface. This helped when my best friend recomended me to, MGTOW, and HAPPIER ABROAD.


I was at a crossroads. I've been so damn happy as a bachelor I wasn't sure I wanted to get involved with any women at all....but then my best friend joined International Cupid when we were out of contact, met a brazillian hottie...and is now getting married this summer. I thought fuck it. What have I got to lose? Let's TRY. I'd always found asian women the most attractive in the world, so I thought let's zero in on them and see what happens. I read your site. I read your forum. I read testimonials of dudes who hooked up with hot asian (and other) types of women, and had seen the light. I did more and more research. Saw that AM to FW divorce rates are much lower. On and on.


After doing my homework I did Cupid too. And I'm happy as shit I did. I met a fillipino english teacher living in Indonesia on there last September and there has been no going back since. I flew out there and spent an amazing week with her...I'm going to write more about this on my own thread "The Trip"


But I can attest Winston....everything you say above, and on your site is damn true. Damn true. In 7 days I have never been so happy with a woman in my entire life? Why? Because she is night and day unlike the shit here.


I've been telling my friends in real life that going foreign is UPGRADING. UPGRADING. See, if you get picked by a bitch here...chances are on the attractiveness scale, unless you are a serious alpha or moneybags....expect a 4-7 at best. Further, they PICK, the stupid man just settles...because when he is offered pussy, he just can't refuse...having no clue that he has better options, that he can UPGRADE. Getting laid here by these animals is drinking a slow acting poison. It's only a matter of time before your hormones will lead to emotional and financial devestation.


Overseas women are radically different than the shit here. I can tell this already. Hmm. See my forthcoming post on "The Trip".


But Winston, I cannot recomend your site enough. And the book. The book was great. I even owe you a thank you, I'd say. What I read on there helped me to decide: JUST GO. JUST DO IT. I'm 10,000 times happier because I did. Thank you for your wisdom. Feel free to use anything I write on here or my thread as a testimony.


I was about to give up on women entirely and just be a confirmed bachelor like one of my heroes CS Lewis. But WHY? God, there are women of quality out there. Quality. I HAVE one now. And I saw A LOT MORE. Go abroad, gentlemen, you will indeed be happier...I know I am.


Thanks Winston.”


I'm on Part IV of your video series now. That's good stuff! As a Navy vet, I can vouch for everything you say, especially about the women. Please keep in mind that I was in the Navy some 25-30 years ago, while American women still possessed a smidgen of sanity; it's only gotten worse since then. American women are REALLY fucked in the head now! Let me tell you a story...

I remember when we were in Palma de Mallorca, Spain. It's in the Balearic Islands off the Spanish coast. I was out & about doing some laundry before we made our Atlantic crossing to return to the States. I ran into one of my shipmates who had three local girls with him. For some reason, he was trying to ditch them, though I can't remember why now. They were nice, working class girls. Though none of them were gorgeous, they were decent looking; what's more, they were very NICE. I put my wash in the machine, and we went to a streetside cafe near the laundromat. We spent the night enjoying one another's company as I practiced my Spanish on them-ha! Here were three strange girls who had no problem hanging out with me, a strange foreigner.

You know what's funny though? Even back in the 1980s after my Navy tour was done, I can remember thinking how that sort of thing would NEVER happen in America-never! This was before the women were so paranoid of men; this was before women hated and feared men like they do now. That says a lot, none of it good, that the sort of chance encounter I had in Palma could not happen here. Judging by your adventures, I'm sure this is old hat for you though.



I am completing a trip through the Balkans. Pretty much everything stated on this website is true, it is like being on a different planet. Now I see how much damage the US matrix has done - 20 years of baggage and issues, mistrust and rejection are ingrained into my view on reality. I assume rejection before I even talk to a woman, which ruins the potential for doing anything with her at all. In the states, a man is openly described as pathetic if he approaches a woman, asks for her number, etc. I can see that going outside of the US matrix behavior pattern produces unimaginable results here that would be impossible in the US.... for example, if a woman gives you her number, she may actually answer when you call her and may actually be interested in getting together.... It could take many years to begin reprogramming myself.”


“Then it happened. I met a fillipino girl who was living in Indonesia as an ESL teacher, and there was no going back. She had joined the site not because she was specifically seeking a man or a relationship, but because she was lonely in Indonesia, as she is a devout Roman Catholic and was in an Islamic dominated society. She was just looking for people to talk too. We met in September of last year, talked online and on the phone almost daily....until it culminated into the fact that we had really fallen for each other. In march, I went out there to visit her in Indonesia, and it was my first bachelor trip abroad, and it was without a doubt the best week of my life. In seven days that woman made me happier than all the years of bullshit I had put up with american women. She was everything they were not, and what's was NATURAL...not the fake act that western women use to ensnare a man and then drop once they have him. She was sweet, elegant, cultured, refined. She was also very attentive. Constantly making sure I was happy, having a good short, I have never, never in my life, Winston, seen a woman act the way she did. It was like she was from another planet!!!

The cultural difference was night and day in Indonesia too. People were friendly everywhere I went, none of that bubble shit there. Everyone was saying hello to me. Strangers would strike up conversations with me. Women would check me out, and they always made eye contact. The night clubs were different too. The men were dancing with women there, in fact, they were even interactive. They had everyone doing line dances and things like that. I'd never seen things like that at a club before.

It's just unbelievable. I've told people I know she is my UPGRADE. Finally the Samsara is broken. I finally got my beautiful asian girl, and more importanly than that, is I got a woman of out of this world quality. She is everything I could have ever wanted in a girl, that would have been absolutely IMPOSSIBLE here. I feel like the luckiest man alive as I write this. She is coming here to live with me, with her family's blessing, to go to school and get a nursing degree while I am in Seminary. Some people have cautioned me about bringing her here; but that is for the time being while we are in school. She likes the idea of ultimately moving back to the Phillipines to be near her family: and so do I. But as far as her being here, like my best friend, we don't fear the cultural bullshit of this toilet poisoning our women: because THEIR culture is so different. Both my fillipina and his Brazillian place the family unit above individual gain and satisfaction: which is why the marriages of all their families have LASTED. They don't subscribe to the TOXIC Me first ideal of this country. My girl's family would literally disown her if she got married and then turned around and divorced, she says, and I believe it. The divorce rate in her country is about nil. Happier abroad, indeed.

Thank you so much for all your work effort. You are an inspiration, Winston. I only wish more men would wake up and see the light like we have.”


Hey, I just joined up here & have a bit of experience traveling abroad. Most everything I read here seems dead-on. Women abroad are definitely nicer and were even coming up to hit on me a lot. I love how foreign women really take care of themselves, ie. very few obese. I've read somewhere the average American woman is about 5'4" and weighs 157. That's more than me! I'm 5'8" & 150 and none of the women abroad have ever mentioned my physical size as being an issue. Here, I had a girl once tell me that I reminded her a lot of her 11-year old nephew...nice lol. 

I'd like to live somewhere else someday, I hate cold weather, so therefore I think
Brazil or the Southern Coast of Spain would be nice. 

Winston, this is a great site!


Yeaaaa... Russian or Ukrainian girls... I know, I grew up there and moved to America only to understand the same stuff people have been writing up here - life of white male is next to zero in the USA unless you are some wigger, white trash or football player. Somehow girls go for "true" losers and call normal educated smart people "losers" SmileI just don't freaking get that! Thank God, I just moved to Europe and even here in France girls are much more skinny, tender, romantic, dressed much better and actually dance in the clubs. No fake smiles, no "game playing"... WTF is going on with USA? Where did all these games, "you're creep" behavior came from? Why are you "creepy" if you act natural and spontaneous in the USA? Why do you have to hide your intentions when you meet a girl? Why compliments are viewed as "creepy"? I freaking hate that word cuz it applies to most normal guys just being guys who get low self-esteem not even understanding that they are not the problem - the problem is with f*cked up society in the States. 

Go Europe! Go Asia! I am proud of being Ukrainian! Our girls are some of the most beautiful in the world and with proper care they will stay looking gorgeous until very old.”


“Holy crap!!! Spot on!

I was born and raised in America. And totally miserable and depressed most of those years. Now I live in Russia and go to university there, and I finally feel happy. I feel like I belong with Europeans.

Girls are so sincere and totally awesome in Europe, especially Russia. I was intimidated at first, because Russian women are totally the most gorgeous in the world in my opinion, because I knew how American girls would act with that type of beauty. One of the first times I was at a bar in Moscow, a beautiful woman approached ME and we actually had a meaningful conversation about travel and poetry. Ended up dating her a bit and now still great friends with her. If I was in America, I would have to approach the girl, act like a tough guy for a bit, and we'd end up talking about The Jersey Shore before having some meaningless sex.

I've met many Germans and Italians too.... very easy females to talk to. They don't tend to have large "I know I'm hot" egos, and are some of the most loving people I've met.

Sorry, I'm a sellout...

Give me European girl any day over an America.

The article's totally true.”


nice website. my story of leaving america. 


let me tell you about myself...

my life in america was not too happy. i did not have a wife or gf. i did not get laid. i was depressed all the time. my life generally sucked. american women just wanted something that i didn't have. i'm attractive, but that just wasn't enough. a little shy, but it shouldn't have been that hard to find a young woman sooner.

i decided something had to change. so i took a trip to south east asia at 25 and what can i say? wow! Shocked

when i got there i got laid everyday with beautiful women. i did not even have to ask to get laid! that is how easy it was. in fact, i met my wife almost instantly after i moved here permanently. wow! something that seemed so impossible in america was instantaneous in thailand. Shocked

what surprised me about the women was how much more feminine, younger and lovely the women here in asia are. the women actually behave like women! (not like men Rolling Eyes) they take great care of their appearance. everywhere i go i see stunningly beautiful women who smile at me! that is not an exaggeration. the difference between here and america is like night and day. america is truly an awful place for a man. i suggest you leave! Arrow

today i live in thailand with a beautiful young wife and son. i think if i continued to live in america i would also have 20 years of loneliness.”


“- A Colombian girl told me about her trips to a few American cities (Houston, Chicago) while she was visiting relatives. She called the social environment there "mierda" ("shit"), said that people were very cold, unfriendly, and work-obsessed ("puro trabajo"). She said that although it's a great place to study and to avoid nasty civil wars, she likes Colombia better due to its social atmosphere.
- A Salvadoran friend told me that when you converse with the girls there, "you feel like you're in love." I asked him, "How about the US?" He answered, "No. Not really. No way."
- Similar comments from Mexican immigrants about the "gabacho" (white Anglo) mentality.”


“When I first stumbled across HappierAbroad, I thought this website was full of nonsense. But as I experienced college even more, I soon realized that Winston was right on. When I went to Mexico by myself, I could see that the claims on HappierAbroad were uncannily true. I came across well-written books by academics, such as "The Proper Care and Feeding of Husbands" and "The Narcissism Epidemic" (thanks, Steve Neese!), and realized that this is a real-world phenomenon that Winston had recognized long ago, but which academics are only beginning to become aware of.”


“I was in Makati for 5 days and met and talked to many women and one in particular stuck out so I focused my attention on her and we became romantically involved, even though the trip is long, it was well worth the effort to see the caliber of petite pretty women compared to the overweight women with attitude of the U.S. ....if most men would just take the initiative and see what a difference a foreign woman would make they would be leaving in droves, I was there on February 20th and enjoyed every minute of my visit, believe me the women are Amazing....




Now how much more proof do you need besides the above Testimonials, my Photo Collage and Videos? Oh yes, how about voices testifying to the differences as above? We have great audio interviews with genuine real people just like yourself, who testify that dating is all about location! They are guaranteed to impress you. See our Interviews page here:


See Also:

Letters from Expats who are Happier Abroad

Praises and Testimonials for Happier Abroad

Quotes about Winston Wu

Fan Mail Archive


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