Warning: These reasons and comparisons are taboo and politically incorrect and may offend some people!
Reasons and Comparisons
Here are reasons for Americans to live abroad that other expat sites don't have the guts to mention for some reason. Every country has a different set of pros and cons. The USA has clean air, landscapes, national parks, high quality infrastructure, a wide variety of consumer choices, etc. But on the other hand, it also has the following big negatives:
Socially isolating with no human connection. There is no real connection, friendship, community or camaraderie with other people. An "ice barrier" exists between strangers (hence the term "breaking the ice"). People don't talk to strangers unless it's business-related. Trying to meet people feels awkward and unnatural. Social life is restricted within closed cliques. People are segregated and don't know their neighbors. They act distant, standoffish and paranoid. Friendships are mostly a facade. People have soulless empty eyes with plastic smiles, like zombies. All that matters is working and consuming.
The highest mental illness rates in the world.More people have mental disorders than in any other country. And more people are on anti-depressants than in any other nation. About 1 in 3 people have had to see a shrink or mental health professional. This speaks volumes about how insane, toxic, dysfunctional and unnatural the American culture and lifestyle must be. The US also has the biggest mental health industry as well, which profits from coming up with new mental disorders all the time.
The highest rates of loneliness in the world. Deep down everyone feels alone, and knows that if they hit rock bottom, no one will help them. Many have no one to talk to about their problems, so they have to pay to see a therapist who doesn't even really care about them. Everyone is raised to be insecure. No one feels accepted for who they are. So they develop insecurity complexes and phony personalities to try to compensate. America has gotten more lonely and isolated over the years.
Meeting women and getting dates is extremely difficult and unnatural. Women are unapproachable, unfriendly, hateful, paranoid, difficult, stuck up, and spoiled rotten with a bad attitude. Thus they are extremely difficult to meet and connect with. They don't like to meet men and don't talk to strangers. They are not open and curious (like foreign women are) but are super cliquish, closed and standoffish. With their self-worth over-inflated, they think they're too good for most men. They are conditioned to hate men and view them as fools, creeps and predators. Being unfeminine, they view femininity as oppressive. Women are masculinized and men are feminized, screwing up both genders. Most single men go years without dates. Every desirable woman is either taken, too picky or not looking. Flirtation is considered creepy and violating. Hitting on girls is taboo.Divorce rates are the highest in the world.
People are too fake and plastic. The US has some of the fakest people in the world, especially among the young crowd and in the coastal states. You are required to always act positive and pretend that everything is great, even if it is not, which is dishonest. Authentic, soulful, genuine, down-to-earth people feel like misfits, whereas overseas they are the norm. Fakeness requires you to suppress your true self, which erodes your mental health as well.
The highest rates of obesity in the world. There are more overweight people than in any other country. This makes it hard to get a decent girl that is not overweight, because they are in the minority, and it drives up the competition for them to insane levels. It also means that our food and lifestyle are very unhealthy. We all know that food in America contains too many processed ingredients. (Just look at the food labels in US supermarkets) To eat organic in the US is too expensive for most.
Cost of living and prices are out of control. Cost of living is higher than in most other countries, and prices are out of control. Since the instatement of the Federal Reserve in 1913, inflation has devalued the dollar and raised prices every year. This has forced people to work more, have less freedom and free time, and suffer more stress, just to make ends meet.
Healthcare costs are astronomical with too many medical bankruptcies. The US is the only industrialized nation that has no universal healthcare. Medical costs are insanely expensive. Healthcare costs are the number one cause of bankruptcy in America. The American system is set up to benefit the top 1 percent, and its government would rather spend your tax dollars to drop bombs on people than provide national healthcare.
The threat of turning into a fascist police state. The US government has turned into a tyrant, bully and control freak, increasingly taking away people's freedoms and rights under the phony guise of the fraudulent and baseless "War on Terror". Some fear that it may become a fascist dictatorship or police state.
More laws than in any other country.The US has more laws than any other nation. Many of the laws are ridiculous, frivolous and unnecessary. This means that the US is LESS FREE than other countries, not more as it claims. Ask any Mexican immigrant and they will tell you that the US is LESS FREE than Mexico.
More people in debt than in any other country. The US leads the world in student loan debt, mortgage debt, and credit card debt. Obviously, more debt = less freedom. So it's ironic that the US is LESS FREE than most other countries when it has always boasted to be "The Land of the Free".
Women are the dominant gender and have all the power. America is a Woman's World, contrary to the rest of the world. Women are the dominant gender and hold all the power and rights over men. Husbands have to call their wives "The boss", and are required to be subservient and obedient to them. Women are able to trample over men and treat them like shit. Men don't have rights in a relationship. Women can divorce men and steal their property with the help of the law. When a man argues with a woman, he is expected to let her win, even if she is clearly wrong. You are not even allowed to signal interest in a woman unless SHE signals an interest in you first. So unless she does, you are out of luck. Pursuing and chasing women are now taboo. But it wasn't like that before the 1990's.
In contrast, in most other countries:
People are more friendly, open, inclusive, authentic and down-to-earth. The social atmosphere is more inclusive and relaxed. People are down-to-earth and easier to meet and connect with. Talking to strangers feels natural. People are genuine and alive, with real emotions and souls. Thus you feel more alive as well. There is real connection, community and camaraderie with others. Friendships feel truer and families are closer.
Meeting women and getting dates comes easily and naturally. Women are more approachable, friendly, open, sociable, engaging and curious. Thus they are easier to meet and connect with. They are feminine, sweet, modest, thin, down-to-earth, appreciative and treat men better. They cherish their femininity and have values. They seek a partner, not a competitor, and appreciate good men. Men feel valued. Niceness counts.
Flirtation is a positive thing. It creates energy and excitement between women and men. Women are flattered to be hit on, and still believe in romance. It is not considered creepy and inappropriate like in America.
The social environment is relaxed, natural and conducive to good mental health. You feel more accepted, like you can be yourself. "Self-esteem" and "confidence" are not even issues, and neither is "trying to fit in". There is no need to develop inferiority complexes or mental problems. People have real friends and family to talk to about their problems. No one has to see a shrink.
Freethinkers will fit in better in Europe. The good news for freethinkers is that they will be a lot happier in Europe and not feel like misfits. People in Europe are more open to new ideas, more curious and attracted to novelty. They have a wider variety of interests and are more broad-minded. Thus they will be on a more compatible wavelength with a freethinker. Europeans are more apt to having deep conversations. Topics such as history and philosophy are common subjects of interest, even among young people. Also, there is a lot more culture and history in Europe. So overall, a freethinker will connect better in Europe and feel more accepted.
Cost of living is lower and more reasonable. In most foreign countries, cost of living is lower, either by a little or a lot. So people can work less and have more freedom and leisure time. This is ironic, since America boasts itself to be "The Land of the Free".
Healthcare is either covered or affordable. All other industrialized nations have universal healthcare that takes care of everyone. No one goes bankrupt from medical bills like in America. (See the documentary film "Sicko (2007)" by Michael Moore) This is a biggie since health is priceless and the most important thing.
Food is more natural and organic. Food contains less processed ingredients. In Europe for example, mainstream food is already natural and organic, without all the processed ingredients that American food uses. So there is no need to go to expensive health food stores to eat healthy.
People are more well adjusted without inferiority complexes. In other countries, people don't have the inferiority complexes, baggage, issues, dysfunctional personalities, and need to constantly pump up "confidence" that people in the US have. For example, it has been observed by many that Black and Asian men in England do not have the inferiority complex that they do in America, probably because they do not face as much discrimination and racism as they do in the US.
Men are the dominant gender, not women. In the rest of the world outside of America, it is a Man's World. Men do not have to be subservient and obedient to women. They are allowed to take charge and be the leaders of their family or relationships. Women are expected to support their man and help make him the best he can be. Men have proper rights. Women cannot divorce men and steal their property. Men are allowed to court and pursue the woman they desire. It has been this way throughout history, including in 1960's America.
Of course, foreign countries have their downsides as well. Every culture has its pros and cons. So you have to consider which combination of pros and cons work best for you. The point is, as a US citizen (or first world citizen), you have OPTIONS and are not limited to only living in the US. You don't have to ignore or neglect the advantages other countries offer. Don't let patriotic pride get in the way of your happiness. For more reasons to go abroad, see these ones posted by our forum members. Next, here is a comparison chart of specific differences in an easy-to-read format.
America in General
People live to work. Life has no meaning without work. One is defined by their economic function.
Cost of living crazily expensive, forcing most people to work a lot more and have less free time or freedom.
Women are selfish entitlement queens.
Gangsta-worshipping thug culture, as well as soulless materialistic consumerist culture.
People are isolated, segregated and paranoid of each other. They are polite but distant and standoffish.
Default ice barrier between strangers. No human connection. Every man is an island and expected to mind their own business. One feels "alone" in crowds.
Friendships are superficial and fleeting, mostly a facade. People drift apart easily, and don't really care about each other.
People seem fake and plastic. They act repressed, like zombies with no real soul or emotions. Their eyes look empty and hollow.
Smiles and greetings are fake, artificial and contrived.
One must always pretend that everything is going great and that one is always "having a great day", even if it's not true.
Segregated competitive vibe makes one feel fragmented, stressed, alone and insecure.
People are raised to feel insecure and never good enough. No one feels accepted for who they are. So they develop inferiority complexes and develop phony personalities.
People don't like to meet new people and do not socialize outside their cliques. They go out in cliques and do not meet new people. The average person does not know many people and their dating choices are very limited.
Women are conditioned to despise men and look down on them as fools, predators and criminals.
Females do not look or act feminine or sweet. They are hateful, spoiled and have a bad attitude.
Women don't like to meet men or talk to strangers. They are unapproachable, and not sociable or engaging, but very closed and cliquish. They lack curiosity and do not like to connect with others.
Women are the dominant gender. Men are expected to be subservient to women and let them win every argument, even if they are wrong. Women's rights supercede men's.
Single men outnumber single women. (Possibly due to influx of male immigrant workers) Many studies and statistics confirm this. Thus there is an imbalance which leaves a lot of men out and intensifies competition among men.
Women don't need men, have too many choices and are super picky, rejecting 99 percent of men. They think they are too good for everyone and have unrealistic standards.
Attractive women always unavailable. Every attractive girl you meet tells you that she's taken or not looking.
Most women are overweight. Those that aren't are considered hot and nearly unattainable, as everyone wants them. So the choices for men suck.
Trying to meet women feels unnatural, unfriendly and inappropriate. You can't just approach them or start a conversation or ask them out.
Flirtation is a negative and taboo thing. It is considered creepy and inappropriate. A man is not allowed to signal interest in a woman unless she signals interest first. Hitting on girls is taboo. Men are not allowed to pursue women.
Quality attractive single women without emotional baggage or issues are rare or unattainable.
Women have an inner resistance toward relationships with men. Their subconscious attitude repels attachment to men.
Attractive girls cannot hold a real intelligent conversation. They act like airheads and have few interests. You have to "play games" to keep their attention.
Sex and getting laid with attractive women is difficult or near impossible unless you are very attractive or go for unattractive women.
Man-hating culture induces hatred of masculinity and men to act less masculine.
Men do not feel appreciated, wanted or needed.
Niceness is worthless and not rewarded. Women trample on it and see it as weak, needy and desperate.
Women use "nice" to describe guys they are not interested in and have nothing good to say about.
People you meet online are usually overweight and unattractive, or losers with dysfunctional personalities. Experiences are almost always negative. Attractive women use them just to enjoy the attention.
Co-workers don't usually eat together during lunch, but go their separate ways.
Healthcare costs are insanely overpriced and out of control. No national healthcare coverage. Medical bills are the number one cause of bankruptcy.
Foods contain harmful toxic chemicals and excessive processed ingredients which have been proven to cause health problems. They also contain GMO's (genetically modified organisms) which have been proven to damage health. To eat organic is expensive, most cannot afford it.
Going out alone makes you look like a loser to others, and you stay alone.
When you move to a new place in the US, it can take months or years (or never) just to find a few regular friends.
A man is not allowed to signal interest in a woman unless she signals her interest first, or he will come across as creepish, perverted and inappropriate.
An ever growing number of people don't bother to make time for their friends or relatives.
When you have problems or a mental/emotional breakdown, your friends will not want to hear about it. So you have to pay a therapist or counselor, who does not even care about you, which is unheard of in the rest of the world.
Kids do not respect their parents or each other, but mock and downplay them. They rarely see their parents after they reach adulthood.
Families are a group of people with competing self-interests. Individual needs are placed over the family. Divorce rates are very high - 50 to 60 percent! Children commonly yell at their parents and do not respect them.
People do not usually know their neighbors. They only politely nod or smile in passing.
If you lose everything and hit rock bottom, no one will care about you or help you. You will be on your own and turn into a homeless drunk bum. In the US it's every man for himself.
Personalities are toxic and personality conflicts are too common. People can't stand other people. Even friends get tired and annoyed with each other if they hang out too long.
More laws than in any other country, many of which are frivolous and unnecessary. More laws = less freedom.
Most Other Countries in General
People work to LIVE! In Europe, Latin America and Australia, people live for experiences and adventure.
Cost of living is cheaper and reasonable, allowing people to work less and have more freedom and leisure time.
Women are easy...going.
Centuries of amazing history and culture, especially in Europe and the former Soviet Union Republics.
People are more open, inclusive and friendly. They are more down-to-earth and easier to connect with.
Natural connection with others and relaxed social interaction between strangers. One doesn't feel alone even when physically alone.
Friendships are deeper and truer, more like the kind you see in Disney movies and stories. People are easier to connect with.
People are more genuine, authentic and down-to-earth. They seem more alive and passinate with real emotions and soul.
Smiles are genuine if people choose to show them.
One is not required to always pretend that everything is great. One is allowed to feel whatever one truly feels.
Natural vibe makes one feel at ease with themselves and others, allowing you to "be yourself".
People are raised normally and feel accepted. They do not develop inferiority complexes or grapple with issues like "confidence" and "self-esteem".
People are open and curious and enjoy meeting new people. Social interaction is NOT restricted to within cliques. The average person has more friends and dating prospects.
Women respect and need men. They love to provide support and tenderness to their man.
Females are proud to be look, act, and dress feminine. They are sweet and affectionate.
Women are more friendly, approachable, and down-to-earth. They are more open and curious and easier to meet and start a conversation with. Connecting with them comes far more naturally.
Men are the dominant gender. They have rights and are expected to be the leader in the relationship or family. Women are expected to be supportive of their men.
In poorer countries, single women outnumber single men, giving men more choices and driving up competition among women, thus giving men the upper hand, keeping women less spoiled, more feminine and beautiful.
Women value good men and do not think that everyone is not good enough for them. They are more down to earth and real about themselves and others.
You can always find attractive girls around who tell you they are single and available.
Overweight women are rare. Height and weight proportionate is the norm. So you can take it for granted that the females you meet will be too.
Meeting and dating women occurs naturally and with the flow. Flirting, expressing interest, holding hands, kissing, etc. happens naturally with the flow.
Flirtation is a positive thing. It creates energy and excitement. Women are flattered to be hit on. It is natural for a man to flirt with a woman. Men are expected to court and pursue women.
Quality attractive single women without emotional baggage or issues are common.
Women dream of and long for a man to capture their heart whom they can love, support and cherish.
Attractive girls can hold a normal intelligent conversation and are down to earth. Interacting with them feels natural. They have more interests.
Sex and getting laid with attractive women comes more naturally. Every guy can find someone, even if they aren't very handsome.
Culture and women admire and respect men and masculinity.
Men feel appreciated, wanted and needed.
Niceness from men is appreciated and rewarded. It counts and wins actual points with women.
Being nice is a quality that counts, is appreciated and reciprocated.
It is common to meet quality sincere people online, including attractive females. There is no loser stigma associated with it. Experiences are usually positive, whether there is a "love connection" or not.
Co-workers usually eat together and congregate in a spirit of camaraderie.
Healthcare costs are either covered or reasonable. In other industrialized nations, people have national healthcare and cannot go bankrupt from medical bills.
Food is natural and organic, without all the processed ingredients that American food has. So you don't have to go to expensive health food stores to eat healthy like you do in the US. Harmful toxic chemicals in food, GMO's and fluoride in water are banned in other countries.
Going out alone is ok and it is easy to meet people in casual public places.
When you go to a new place, making new friends is immediate, natural and part of the flow of things.
A man is allowed to signal interest in a woman first and expected to pursue her, and if he does it in a good manner, he comes across as charming and flattering.
People make time for their friends, family and relatives, no matter how busy they are.
When people have problems or feel depressed, they have real friends and family to talk to. No one has to see a mental health professional or take antidepressants, which is unheard of and primarily an "American thing".
Kids respect their parents and each other more than their American counterparts do. They remain close to their parents into adulthood and take care of them.
Families are more harmonious and agreeable. Each member considers the family's needs, not just their own. Divorce rates are far less than in the US. It is uncommon for children to yell at their parents.
People usually know about their neighbors' lives, and invite them over for get togethers.
If you lose everything and hit rock bottom, you have a network of family and friends that will help you that you can fall back on.
Personality conflicts are far less common. People are more modest and humble, so they get along more naturally and harmoniously.
Other countries have less laws than America and do not have excessively frivolous laws.