HAPPIER
ABROAD Why
You Can Have A Better Life and Love Beyond America
Four
major things in America
that drove me overseas
Now let me state for the record, I don’t hate America as a country.
And I am not unpatriotic either, but neither am I a blind patriot who is
brainwashed. (In fact, I find patriotism
to be illogical and non-objective)
America is great in many ways with some important benefits
and advantages - its political/religious freedoms, career/money making
opportunities, general orderliness and efficient control/planning (compared to
third world countries at least), generous government benefits, and many laws
designed to protect the common people.
It’s just that there are key elements of life, society
and culture in the modern USA that I find intolerable and incompatible with who I
am. Here are some of the main ones:
1) People are
generally anti-social, don’t talk to strangers, don’t know their neighbors, and
have an isolation mentality that makes them PREFER being alone. Thus, it is hard, unnatural and “against the
grain” to try to meet people in America. (Yet ironically, if you have no social life, you are
considered a “loser”; That’s what I call being caught between a rock and a hard
place) If you go out alone, you tend to
STAY alone. And of course, you are
expected to enjoy being that way. So if
you are a person who needs others or is dependent, then you may have a
perpetual problem and get told there is something wrong with you, finding
little sympathy. Those who are
anti-social themselves or overly individualistic don’t mind this as much
though, since anti-social people don’t mind others being the same way. But those who are very social like me will
have a problem with it, and feel out of place.
Even when people are forced to interact with others in social
situations, they tend to act fake, polite and distant, which is reflective of
their isolation mentality. Also, the
average person only meets people through school, work, or mutual friends, and
thus their social life is confined within a very small circle their whole
life. So, if there are no women you are
attracted to in your social circle or clique, (assuming there are females in
your clique) or who are attracted to you, then you are screwed (not physically
either, unless you go to a whore) in the dating arena. Thank God that the internet is helping to
change this, but I should add that you don’t tend to meet quality people online
in the USA but you do abroad.
2) The
lifestyle consists of working to death just to survive, and pay off bills and
debt. “I owe, I owe, I owe so off to work I go” is the mantra of the middle
class lifestyle, as one expat put it.
However, freespirits like me tend to view the purpose of life as simply
to “enjoy it” through enriching experiences while growing in self-expression,
not to suffer and toil to death. Thus,
our attitude is “against the grain” here.
Many see making money as the highest goal or aspiration, and are willing
to sacrifice every aspect of existence for it, including their precious time,
health, heart and soul. Few people know
how to truly enjoy life or even have fun.
Even at parties, people mostly talk about their work and
profession. Also, the pleasures and
entertainment most people indulge in are artificial and commercial in nature,
rather than soulful and natural. And
romance has decreased in the collective mentality and culture to almost nil.
3) The US news media, in particular the network corporate news
media (e.g. CNN, ABC, NBC, Newsweek, Time Magazine), is very unintellectual and
possesses no insight at all. It rarely
hosts or broadcasts any deep thought-provoking or meaningful discussions. Instead, they either attempt to instill fear
and paranoia in you with reports of disasters and tragedies, implying that the
only “important news” is “bad news”, which I strongly disagree with. I’ve never understood what good they think
comes out of telling everyone “bad news”.
Nor do I understand why “bad news sells” since it doesn’t “sell” to me.
(Maybe I’m just weird) Or they
constantly try to distract you and waste your time with mind numbing trashy
content, covering trivial stories that are completely useless and irrelevant to
the average person’s daily life. In the
process they waste billions of dollars of expensive broadcast air time which
could be used to cover meaningful and higher quality content instead. Rarely do they cover anything useful,
enlightening, meaningful or positive that can change your life for the
better. Thus, a person seeking to expand
his/her mind, soul or cultural awareness will get absolutely nothing from the
US network media, except maybe an insult to his/her intelligence. I hear far better discussions about world
events and how things really are in pubs and youth hostels than on TV. The US media assumes that viewers are dumb and address the
audience as though they were talking to “lemmings”, which to me is insulting as
well as a waste of my time, contributing nothing to my rich inner world at
all. In fact, every time I turn on the
news, I feel that it’s constantly trying to “dumb me down”. Thank God that there’s PBS, the Discovery
Channel, and the History Channel which have far more respect for viewer
intelligence, or else I wouldn’t watch cable TV. That juvenile computer hacker helping Bruce
Willis in the movie “Die Hard 4” put it well when he said, “The news wants you
to live in fear, so that you will feel empty and consume useless junk.”
4) The women in
general are extremely anti-social (unless they are old, unattractive or very
poor), do not like to meet people, have a deep subconscious hatred of men, do
not need men, do not even need the company of others, set standards that almost
no man can meet, have a sense of entitlement that is off the chart, are
unromantic, unsensual, untender, and very unfeminine in their attitude,
looks/dress, personality and behavior.
They are also conditioned by the culture to believe that any man who
approaches them, pursues them, or flirts with them must be a creep or
desperate, implying that a “normal man” is supposed to never pursue a woman but
instead only let the women pursue them, which rarely happens, hence a no win
situation in the US dating scene. Now,
if you add the qualities in number 1 to this, it gets even worse, so you
realize that trying to meet or date women in the US can be a total nightmare, and an exercise in futility. As a result, there are too many men,
including me, who become couch potatoes, overeating and masturbating, having no
choice. In short, the women simply don’t
want to meet you, and there’s not much you can do about it.
Now, since meeting and courting beautiful women is one
of my biggest passions in life, and I need to have a great sex life, the
conditions of number 4 are a BIG NO-NO, intolerable and totally unacceptable.
Thus we have a problem. Some men can tolerate it, but not me. Being dateless and sexless is one of the
three things in life I can’t stand (the other two being fatal heights and early
mornings) but alas, dateless and sexless is what I am in America, no matter how hard I try to change it. And since I love to socialize, have quality
conversations, and meet quality people, number 1 is a big no-no too, leaving me
lonely and bored.
Number 2 and 3 are more tolerable (despite the title
of this chapter) for they can be avoided or worked around through alternative
choices and lifestyles. But still, they
attempt to invalidate me, for the US media assumes by default that its viewers are
unintellectual, conformists to the workaholic rat race consumerist lifestyle,
and think within a very narrow box. If
you are a freethinker or freespirit who thinks outside the box, then you don’t
exist to the US media, and thus are invalidated.
Furthermore, as mentioned in number 2, many see making
money as the highest purpose or aspiration in life, and for them, American
offers them great opportunities to achieve their highest goal. But no true intellectual would set that as
the highest aim. Thus, the US lifestyle offers little for the true intellectual or
freespirit like me, and in fact, who they are tends to go “against the flow” of
society.
Anyhow, because of number 4 and 1, there are just too
many lonely depressed men who become couch potatoes, eating potato chips,
watching TV, and masturbating when horny, cause they have no other choice. But who is trying to help them? Definitely not the US media. Only a
few resources are, such as me and my website.
But unlike some sources, I am not full of any BS, but a truth seeker who
tells it like it is. That you can count
on.
In the next chapters, I will elaborate much more on
the four “intolerables” above.
Reader Responses:
- “*** WWu,
this is very good essay. I too have all
but given up on a dating life in the USA. It is just impossible to meet attractive
women. I think this mainly has to do
with the shortage of attractive women (which is due to the recent sex ratio
imbalance caused by the Baby Bust that has never happened before in human
history, as well as the obesification of the American Woman), which allows them
the ability to not have to date outside their little clique (only strange, desperate, or slutty women would
allow themselves to be picked up by a stranger - unless he looked like Brad
Pitt, of course.) This causes men like
us who - through no fault of own - have poor social cliques to be unsuccessful
in the USA. Women in other countries, like Eastern
Europe or in your case, the Filipines, do not have near as
much ability to date within their own clique, so they are open to being picked
up by a stranger.”
- “The
reason America is like
that is because it's all a big plan. A big plan for the drug companys,
corporations and government to screw up citizens as much as possible so they
can sell them more chemical drugs, unecessary surgeries, shitty chemical food
and make them work like slaves to buy more and pay more taxes.
North
American women are fat because they hate men. That's my theory about fat North
American women. European women are not as fat and they don't hate men as much.
There is a connection for sure!”
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