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HAPPIER
ABROAD
Why
You Will Have A Better Love and Life Beyond
Why
America is bad for Social Life, Dating and Mental Health
Note: This
three point comparison is an expansion of my Pamphlet and home page intro, which I am
writing as
a script for a YouTube video I'm working on.
Video
script: Three Taboo
Truths in America and the Overseas Solution
to them
Hello, my
name is Winston Wu, founder of
HappierAbroad.com, the most truthful and unique expat dating site on
the web.
Today I'm
going to be talking about three taboo
truths in America that you aren't supposed to talk about, and the
Overseas
Solution to them.
Though
taboo, since they affect many people, I feel they should be
addressed, rather than ignored or denied.
So let's
begin.
1)
There is little sense of human connection in
America.
- Every
man is an island. There's no feeling of
connection with other people. An “ice barrier” exists
between strangers, hence
we have the term "breaking the ice". People generally live in their
own bubble. This is something very obvious. You can see it everywhere
out in
public. Yet no one dares call attention to it for some reason.
And it's
not about who you are either. Even if
you're attractive and have a lot of friends, as a third person you can
still
see that this is the way things are between people out in public.
Here are
some examples from photos I took of
people on a Seattle Ferry:
https://www.happierabroad.com/Ferry1.jpg
https://www.happierabroad.com/Ferry2.jpg
Simply
put, people don’t want to connect in
America. They just meet for convenience and then go their own way. And
you are
expected to do the same. If you want to connect, then America makes you
feel
like there’s something wrong with you. Neighbors don’t
usually even know each
other. You can be in crowded places and feel all alone. That’s
not normal in
most of the world.
- People
are socially engineered to be
anti-social, segregated and paranoid of each other. They are generally
uptight,
stiff. Trying to meet people feels awkward and unnatural.
- Groups
are generally non-inclusive. You can
see this when you go out in public. People socialize only within the
group
they're with. You can't just "go out and meet people". It doesn't
work that way, despite what you see on TV and in the movies. So if you
go out
alone, you usually stay alone.
-
Greetings are polite and superficial. People
will ask "How are you" when they don't really care how you are, yet
they will always expect you to say that you're "great" or
"fine".
2) The
dating scene is a nightmare for many men.
Now this
is a very taboo area in particular
because there is an unspoken rule in America that says anytime you
publicly
compare men and women, you MUST ALWAYS put the women in the better
light. In
other words, the women have to always come out on top. This is an
unofficial
rule that everyone knows and goes without saying. Comedians,
performers, public
speakers and authors abide by it usually.
However, I
am not here to be politically
correct, so let’s cut the bull and just go to the truth:
- In
America, women generally despise men and
see them as fools, creeps and predators. Their culture, media and peers
all
condition them this way. You can see this in day time talk shows and
glamour
magazines. Now how good can a dating environment be if one gender hates
the
other? How healthy can such a relationship dynamic be? I mean, get
real.
- Females
are not feminine or sweet. You can
see this in their looks, personality, demeanor and dress style. They
don't even
giggle or blush. Instead, they’re tough and unfeeling, which is
glorified in
the movies. Yet every normal guy prefers a feminine woman over a
non-feminine
one. (Though the feminized politically correct men in America will not
dare to
admit it of course)
- The
women are often unapproachable, defensive
and paranoid, so they are not even easy to meet. Men do not feel
comfortable or
natural trying to meet them. Hence few guys have the guts to approach
attractive females, not cause they lack courage, but because the
females carry
a vibe that they don’t want to be approached.
- They
have an off-chart sense of entitlement
and think that they deserve the best of the best in everything, as if
they were
some kind of royalty. Thus they reject 99 percent of their admirers.
Their
expectations are too unrealistic.
- Even
worse, they seem to have this strong
psychological resistance to intimate relationships with males. You can
sense
this in their attitudes and interactions with them. Often when they
start
getting close or intimate, they suddenly back off and drop things cold.
- They
blow off men who are interested in them
as though it were a routine and expected maneuver. This is indicative
that
male/female relationships and dating are not natural in US society, as
if you
are not even supposed to pursue them.
- In fact
the whole male/female polarity is
totally out of whack. Male/Female energies and behaviors do not
complement each
other at all, but are dysfunctional, conflicting and totally out of
balance and
harmony. This is obvious to any honest observant person.
- Men do
not feel wanted or needed, and that's
a bad thing which affects their self-esteem. Who wants to feel unwanted
and
unneeded?
Also, a
man's niceness is not rewarded, but
spat upon. You might have heard the term "Nice guys finish last"?
Well nowhere is that more true than in America's dating scene. You get
nothing
for being nice to women. No points or rewards. It does not count at all
in US
dating.
Now if you
ask me, any society that looks down
upon niceness is one f***ed up dysfunctional mess. No question about it.
-
On top of that, Single men outnumber single women in America, as evidenced
in these
stats. This means that there are too many men competing for too few
women,
giving women too many choices and men too few. Anyone can see this both
in real
life and in online
personal ads, where women receive hundreds of times more responses
than men
do. And of course, they are far pickier.
- There
are more lonely frustrated dateless
guys in America then in any other country. That’s why the whole
PUA industry is
primarily based in the US. And that says a lot right there.
3) The
artificial culture erodes your
self-worth and sanity.
- You are
conditioned to feel insecure and
unworthy, to keep you weak and easy to control, through a series of
subtle
subliminal messages. You are definitely are not conditioned to feel
whole and
complete in America. For some reason, everyone feels inadequate... like
they're
not good enough.
Of course,
if you were whole and complete, you
couldn't be controlled or manipulated. So they try to manufacture an
emptiness
inside of you.
- You are
taught to fill this emptiness by
living to work and consuming endless junk you don’t need. That's
why the model
citizen in America is a workaholic and you are taught that "you are
what
you do".
They
perpetuate this myth that making money and
buying endless junk will make you happy, which is false. As Wayne Dyer
said,
"There is no way to happiness. Happiness is the way."
But in
truth, the key to happiness is not in
your productivity and wealth. It's in your outlook and attitude,
quality of
relationships, and having healthy balances, just enough, in the areas
of life
that are most important to you.
- The
social culture is like a mask of fakeness
that you can never really “be yourself” in. You're expected
to always act happy
like everything is great. That's why when you go to work, people ask
"How
are you?" and you always have to answer "Fine" or "Not
bad", even if you're feeling like shit. It's very unnatural and fake.
In such an
environment, how can you ever be
your true self, or even know your true self?
- Many
develop phony or unnatural personalities
to compensate for their inferiority complexes. You can see this in a
lot of
people in America. I'm sure you all know someone who brags, exaggerates
or
makes up stories about their lives to impress others. Or people who act
phony
and are not sincere or down to earth. Deep down they have a wound that
they are
trying to cover, and develop all these complexes as a band aid. It's
very sad.
This is
especially true with minorities. If you
look at black people in America for instance, and compare them with
black
people in England, you will notice a big difference. The blacks in the
UK seem
far more well adjusted and whole, like they are part of the mainstream,
whereas
blacks in the US seem to suffer from an inferiority complex (through no
fault
of their own).
Such a
difference is very noticeable, one of
many in fact, but of course you will NEVER hear about it in the media
or any
large scale magazine. It's way too TABOO to mention.
- These
aspects of the artificial American
culture is very undermining to one’s psychological balance and
wholeness. In
other words, it's detrimental to your mental health.
Implications
and Solutions:
These
three dysfunctional conditions culminate
to make America one of the WORST, if not the worst, countries for
Social Life,
Dating and Mental Health, and explain why it has the HIGHEST rates of
mental
illness and loneliness in the industrialized world (look it up or see
the stats
on my site).
Yet
US society is in denial about all this. These realities are
unacknowledged, and
it is taboo to mention them (especially # 2) lest you be perceived as a
“loser”. Instead, you are expected to always maintain the
façade that
“everything is great” and if you have a problem you are
expected to blame or
improve yourself.
But
the truth is that the problem does not lie in the victims, but in the
dysfunctional
society itself, evidenced by the fact that for many sufferers, these
problems alleviate
once they are in different cultures, which I demonstrate on my website.
You see,
many mainstream people do not see the
truth the way it actually is. They filter everything through what I
call
"politically correct lenses" which are designed to focus only on nice
and simple practical things. That's why they can't mentally recognize
anything
negative about other people, cultures or society, even the most obvious
things.
It's not that such negative aspects don't exist. Of course they do. But
people
are conditioned to not generalize or stereotype negative attributes to
others,
even if they're true. This applies to many in the world, not just in
America.
That's why
many in the mainstream are not able
to mentally recognize the obvious truths above. Their "politically
correct
lenses", which only focus on positive and practical things, filter them
out.
Now there
is nothing wrong with being polite
and not wanting to offend others. That's part of our social
conditioning and is
usually a good thing. But if it ends up filtering out the truth from
your world
view, especially when it comes to acknowledging serious problems, then
it may
not be such a good thing after all.
Plus most
people are not that perceptive when
it comes to other people, relationships, culture and psychology. They
are not
accustomed to analyzing such things, and lack the depth and insight to
make
assessments in those areas. Instead they are trained by society to
focus and
deal with practical issues, like food, money, physical objects and
structures.
So their common sense is primarily in pragmatic areas.
Another
factor is that those who do recognize
these obvious truths are afraid to mention them openly because it makes
them
look like maladjusted losers, and plus they know that the politically
correct
mainstream will mentally resist these truths too. They know this
instinctually.
Nevertheless,
you can take solace at least, in
that NONE of it is your fault. As the great Indian sage Jiddu
Krishnamurti
stated, "It is no measure of health to be well adjusted to a profoundly
sick society."
So the
next question is: What can we do about
all this?
Well we
can expose it publicly, like I'm doing
now. But what else can we do about it? Can I just go out and change the
whole
fabric of American society? Of course not.
BUT I can
tell people that there's a SOLUTION
to all this!
And
that solution is: You can simply go abroad
to other cultures and environments where these conditions are better or
reversed.
However,
such an idea strongly goes against our
conventional wisdom and paradigm.
You see,
when you have a problem, you are
taught to stay put and try to solve it, cope with it, or improve on it.
Running
away is seen as escapist and cowardly. So we all first ask ourselves,
"How
can I fix my situation so that it will be better? What improvements can
I
make?" When you go to a therapist for instance, they're gonna suggest
you
to learn coping skills rather than tell you to go somewhere else where
things
are better. That's our "mental prism" so to speak, and few can think
outside the box.
And that's
fine. But you gotta look at the
scope of what you're up against. For example, if you were standing on a
sinking
ship or in the path of an oncoming freight train, would you stay put
and tough
it out, or would it be more sensible to escape from it?
In this
case, the individual can't change the
dysfunctional US culture and society. It would be like an ant trying to
move a
hill. Why continue to play a losing game with a losing hand?
Plus there
is no real solution, not even from
the PUA or self-help movements, that any average person can simply take
and
consistently and reliably turn around his Dating, Social Life and
Mental Health
with guaranteed results. None.
You see,
in order to validly claim that
something WORKS, it has to WORK for any average person reliably and
consistently, not just for a few or a minority. Otherwise, it doesn't
work.
Simple as that. I mean, if a computer program only worked 10 percent of
the
time, would you say that it "works"? Would you sell it or promote it?
Yet NONE
of the remedies and techniques of any
of the PUA or self-help movements out there fulfills this criteria.
But the
overseas solution DOES!
You see,
every male expat living overseas who
has dated there is of the unanimous opinion that his relationships,
social life
and mental health are far better than they were in America (or Canada
or the
UK). Even though everyone is different with varying opinions, on that
they are
unanimous on. What does that tell you?
Obviously,
this means that ANY average Joe
(with no a-hole personality or mental problems) can turn their life
around
using this path as their solution. Thus it REALLY WORKS.
But you
don't usually hear about it cause it's
taboo and goes against the grain. Well now you have.
So, why
does the overseas solution work?
Because in most foreign countries, the taboo truths above are the exact
OPPOSITE:
1)
There is more natural social connectedness.
- The
social environment is more open and
inclusive. It is easy and natural to meet and connect with others.
There is an
instant familiarity between strangers rather than an ice barrier.
People do not
have a "keep out" wall or vibe around them.
So even
when you go out alone, you can meet
others. It feels natural and part of the flow. You don't need any
artificial
"social skills or techniques". You can just be your pro-social open
self and it happens.
- With a
feeling of natural connectedness, you
do not feel alone even when you are physically alone.
-
Friendships and bonds are truer. A spirit of
camaraderie exists between people that you don’t find in America.
You can see
it between friends and in the communal environment.
2)
Dating and relationships are more natural
and fulfilling.
- Women
are generally feminine, sweet and
modest. They dress, look and act feminine. Girls giggle and blush, like
real
girls do.
-bThey are
more approachable and easier to
meet. Compliments flatter them and do not creep them out. They are
enthusiastic
about dating.
- Females
do not have any psychological block
or resistance toward relationships with males, but seek it and dream of
it.
Deep down, they respect and need men, providing love, companionship and
support.
- The men
feel wanted and needed. Their
niceness is rewarded and it wins actual points too.
3) You
feel more accepted, whole and good about
yourself.
- The
"real you" is allowed to
flourish with a natural sense of wholeness and oneness, both inner and
outer,
which leads to a healthy psychological balance.
- People
like you just for you and accept you
that way. You do not need to act “fake” or develop
inferiority complexes.
People are far less artificial.
- When you
have problems, friends will listen
and care. You do not need to go to a therapist.
Implications
and Conclusions:
Now isn't
that the way it should be?
So the
obvious question now is: Which of
the two social environments described above - America vs. Overseas -
would YOU
be happier in?
Enough
said.
Yet most
Americans never hear about these
comparisons, for it goes against their indoctrination that America is
the
greatest in all things and that everywhere else can only be worse. And
those in
the know have to be careful not to be too open about these truths due
to their
taboo and politically incorrect nature.
So these
comparisons are never acknowledged
publicly.
And that's
what we are here for, to disseminate
this life-changing information to those in need (since no one else
will).
You see, I
know that once you go abroad and
experience all this, your life will be changed forever!
The
voluminous material at my website
demonstrate and prove all this conclusively, with an abundance of
testimonials,
interviews, photos, videos, articles, ebooks, guidance and an online
community.
The
Happier Abroad movement has changed lives
and inspired others, providing hope, validation and a Proven Solution
that has
led people like you to Love, Social Connectedness and Personal
Fulfillment
overseas, thus becoming “Happier Abroad".
So visit www.HappierAbroad.com
today! And if you have any questions, post them on my Forum.
Thanks for
watching.
Discuss
this article here: https://www.happierabroad.com/forum/viewtopic.php?t=7052
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