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Testimonials that dating is all about location, location, location!
With all the letters I get from others and the many posts on my Forum testifying that dating is like real estate - all about location, location, location - I’ve ran out of places in this book to put them, so I’ve created this section to gather them together into one master proof. These are their testimonials and accounts in their own words (edited for spelling). Sources are linked where possible.
"Hi all, well my story is
the same as yours, but here it is anyway: for a long time I blamed
my lack of success with American women. So, I worked hard for many
improve myself to the point where I would be worthy of a decent
I got myself a Ph.D., then a job at an Ivy-league school, got myself
excellent physical shape, took up lots of cool hobbies like skiing,
ballroom dance... and I was still getting rejected by women who had no
being picky! I had my epiphany when I was 33 and dating an overweight,
42-year-old, divorced mother who dumped me because I didn't have a
side". So then I did some traveling to (among other places)
Wow, what a great news!!!
Winston, you are a pioneer. You are inspiring Asian American men
everywhere to take the plunge and travel to
Yesterday I went to see
Ballet with a beautiful 26 year old
The plain fact is that most
American men are treated so shabbily by American girls. We are
zero to them. And most Asian American men are totally discouraged
my opinion). They think they have absolutely no chance dating a
girl of their dreams. Well, Winston, you have shown that it can
done. Not in
I consider coming to
"I could not agree more on
sorry state of American women (in terms of dating in general). For me,
I applaude you courage and wish you the best.
have seen that because my personality remains unchanged, as I go from
to country the reactions of women to me are incredibly different. Why
attract women in one country and not in another? Because of different
and values that they have vis-a vis men. When I lived in
never been to the
It's not hard to meet girls in
That said, the girls from the north, from Issan chiefly, figure disproportionately in the plans of farangs (Westerners) because these girls are the ones who work in the bars and massage parlors of
That was my first trip abroad, Winston, and it has convinced me that your position that Western guys can have a better life in other countries is absolutely correct. More men die of happiness in
“I was very nervous around women, I found it nearly impossible to engage a woman in a conversation. I was convinced that was the reason I couldn't get dates. I was angry at myself for not being able to overcome this, but trying harder only made it worse. I spent a lot of time thinking about it and went to a doctor and was prescribed anti-anxiety medications but they didn't really help.
This problem came to an
halt when I traveled to
When I'm in a country like
When I'm overseas, I don't subconsciously feel like I'm doing something wrong by flirting with a woman.
What it boils down to, is that foreign women are an entirely different species than western women. If I had been told 2 years ago that my love shyness/social anxiety with women could be solved simply by changing the type of women that I was pursuing, I probably wouldn't have believed it. It's one of those things you have to experience to fully understand.”
Every word in the 10
reasons. I was married to an American woman for 14 years. I left the
hollow shell, a broken man. Why couldn't I do anything right?
Everything was my
fault, right? I must have been the evil bastard she described! Long
= the AW got the house, and the 500K of capital gains (
Then, I discovered
One need only sit in a
coffee shop in
a mall for 5 minutes to see the problem in its stark reality. Watch the
as they salivate over material goods and ignore everything and everyone
area besides themselves. Do you see any smiles or eye contact going on?
Absolutely none. In
night on a foreign subway, I gave my business card to the most gorgeous
in the world, a 20 year old college student 30 years younger than
myself whom I
had only said a few words to about her dressing very stylishly. Then I
the subway car saying please send me a text message sometime.
Just as the doors were closing, she jumped off the subway car asking for clarification about why I gave her my card. The subway pulled away.
Five hours later, after dinner, we were holding hands while walking along a river.
Her education level was way, way above the best Harvard student I have dated (and I have dated a number of Harvard students).
I could not have been happier about my decision to live outside the
The above would NEVER happen in the
From YouTube comments about Global Dating and Foreign Women:
realteruchan (3 days ago) Reply | Spam +2
”Nonsense. I've been to many places, like
”Social economics doesn't explain why the dating scene is so much better in Shanghai or Tokyo where it is equally easy for an American to date hot women, even successful women. They certainly have no desire to go to the
Actually I know many guys who find the dating scene in
“This reminds me of
when I worked in
”Hi all, I'm Jon. I've lurked around here for a while and finally signed up. I'm a youthful 40, in great shape ,and own a few web businesses. I lived for about 10 years in
Perhaps it's because I stayed gone so long, but when I returned to the
I appreciate Winston doing this site because frankly, I know he's right. Before I moved abroad my social life in the
I've been back a couple of years and I've really tried to make things happen here. But now I have finally had enough. This year (2009) I'm planning to leave the country. I haven't decided exactly where I'll go yet (I'm considering a few places), but I do know that I'm definitly leaving, and "sooner rather than later."
I have seen the quality of my social and dating life go down significantly here in the
If anyone wants to chat and/or share info about moving abroad, please be in touch. I'm social and cooperative by nature (as opposed to paranoid and competitive). Perhaps that's WHY I don't fit in the
”I completely agree with you mobstersreport. I have a very similar siuation. I'm 40, no kids, divorced years ago, in excellent shape, own my own web biz, well-travelled and educated, but I'm finding myself "stuck" in
I left the
Unfortunately, I lost my European residence visa a few years ago and had to move back to the
Ironically, women that I wouldn't give a second glance to in
So I've find myself in the same boat you're in -- looking for way out, and just trying to decide where to go and how to proceed forward. I'm very lucky in that I have an established internet business that pays the bills, so I can work from anywhere in the world. I've been considering heading over to the
Either way, I'll be making a decision soon and getting the F out of here. J The
Which brings me to my last point: it's tough for a lot of guys to just up and leave the
So if anyone on here is in a similar situation and would like to compare notes, or potentially even buddy up to travel, please be in touch. I'm open to suggestions.
Finally, I know I’ve written a short novel here as a first post, but I want everyone on this site to know that Winston is 100% right. I have lived abroad and seen the difference in my social life, in how it made me feel inside; and I've also seen the antisocial lame-ass dating scene in the
Thanks for a great site Winston. You're doing a service to all American guys by exposing the limited possibilities for happiness and social connection in the
Also going abroad in 2009,
“So true! I went to
“Winston, you're absolutely right about foreign women vs American "women". Foreign women are far more cultured, intelligent, sociable and sophisticated than American women. I can honestly say that once you meet a foreign woman, you will never go back to an American woman again. You've mentioned this in your forum, but this trip abroad confirmed everything you said. You're absolutely right. Keep up the good work.”
“After reading all
and following your advice to visit
“Then the second girl called me and said these words:
"Hello, my name is Inday, we met in the jeepney. I told all the girls in college about you and they all want to meet you."
Yup! They ALL want to meet me.
I went to a department store and again it was chuck full of little miss Universes- sales girls. I approached a counter and they crowded me.
" You are so cute. Your face is so cute". Then on another occasion I was paying for some stuff that I bought and the cashiers started whispering something. I though something was wrong. The answer was: "Very handsome"." Who, me?" "Yes, you". "What is so handsome about me?" "I don't know, maybe it is your tantalizing eyes". And they started laughing.
I could go on and on and on. I would sit down and relax and girls would pass by and whisper to each other pointing me out. The word I learned was "gwapo"- handsome. Once I was just crossing the road. Four young ladies linked their hands and would not let me through. Sales girls from stalls would call out- "Hello, Darling!"
few days, I noticed something different about me when I looked in the
My eyes were no longer sad as they used to be. I was smiling for real.
this was the way a man should be treated. Appreciated. Desired. Women
seek him out and not the other way around. Rejections and maltreatment