"If the society in the US says that the problem is *you*, then try changing societies. You may be in for a big surprise." -
Ladislav, Expat and Cultural Advisor of HappierAbroad.com
Introduction to Global Dating and Why It Works - More Choices For You!
- Are you fed up with the nightmarish dating scene in America? Does it seem like a no-win scenario where all factors are against you?
- Do you wonder why every woman in America seems to be either too taken, too good, too picky, too young, or too overweight? Where are all the normal decent choices that you deserve?
- Would you rather have ONE dating choice every few years, or MANY dating choices everyday?
- Would you like to know the truth about the American dating scene, why its rigged against you, and what the real solution is?
If so, GLOBAL DATING may be the permanent solution you're looking for! READ ON!
Hello. My name is Winston Wu, Founder of Happier Abroad. We are the first and only expat site that focuses on the Dating, Social and Mental Health benefits overseas that draw many American males abroad. We expose the TRUTH about the nationwide epidemic of loneliness and mental illness in America, and the Proven Overseas Solution that we've discovered, which the media ignores and other expat sites do not dare touch due to its taboo nature.
- First, you expand your market globally to the 200+ countries in the world, rather than limiting yourself locally. This gives you an EXPONENTIAL increase in dating choices and a much wider range of opportunities where you can meet and date foreign women!
- Then, you simply go to the global market where you are "wanted", where the cultural, economic and demographic supply/demand factors give you the best advantage and competitive edge (and where your personality fits in the best too). That will give you the highest probability of getting what you want in love, dating, relationships, friendships and social relations.
That's it! It's that simple. (see a more detailed explanation here) Over 99 percent of guys who have done that report that it's the BEST thing they ever did and that they would NEVER go back! This works for any decent guy, yet is unknown to most because it is taboo. So that's what we're here for, to bring light to this with proof of results and experience.
Now we all know that the dating scene in North America is dysfunctional beyond words, and a nightmarish hell for men with gross inequities of epic proportions. Here is the sorrid state of affairs in America's dating scene for men:
- Around 80 percent of the women seek the top 20 percent of men (in terms of looks, status and money), leaving 80 percent of men to either settle or remain dateless. The average single woman in America has far more choices than the average single man. That is a certainty. With so many choices, they can afford to play games, be super picky, treat men badly, demand perfection, etc. yet still be sought after by many desperate men. When an American woman says "There are no good men" what she means is that the top 20 percent of guys in the dating scene have not chosen them.
- Single men outnumber single women, as evidenced in these stats (possibly due in part to the large influx of male immigrant workers). This means that there are too many men competing for too few women, giving women too many choices and men too few. Anyone can see this both in real life and in online personals, where women receive hundreds of times more responses than men do. And of course, they are far pickier.
- Most women are either corrupted by feminism to become masculine and not need men. Or else they are totally messed up with ridiculous standards, unfeminine qualities, narcissistic egos, fake personalities, flaky/flighty behaviors, self-delusions, hateful spoiled attitudes, cold hearts, and other toxic traits. Moreover, most of them are either overweight or masculine-looking, which is unattractive and unfeminine.
- The few decent looking females are unattainable due to too many guys wanting them. They are either taken, super picky, or have too many choices.
- Flirting with women, hitting on them, pursuing them or expressing your interest in them is considered inappropriate, creepish and out of bounds. What this means is that if you see a woman you like or are attracted to, you can't do anything about it. You are expected to mind your own business and leave them alone. American women are generally very paranoid and uncomfortable talking to strangers. They've been conditioned to think that every guy they don't know is a creep or psycho unless proven otherwise. There is this thick wall or bubble around them that makes it awkward and uncomfortable to try meet them.
- An average guy who is actively trying to get a girlfriend may find one every 2 - 3 years. Then, if she dumps him, he has to wait another 2 - 3 years to get another chance. (Gee what a waste of life and years)
- Women don't talk to strangers in America, so you can't really go out and meet them in a naturally friendly way.
- They all seem to be taken and unavailable too, or at least claim to be.
- If they are single, they will be super picky and only date a small percentage of guys who meet their high standards.
- But even if you are able to date them, you will find that they have a spoiled toxic personality with a bad attitude and hot temper, along with a phony arrogant demeanor. So they will not be easy to get along with at all.
All these factors above culminate into a futile nightmare of epic proportions for guys in America. Trying to get a date in these conditions is comparable to being in a casino and not even being allowed to play the slots. A total joke in other words. Yet you are not allowed to complain about it lest you be seen as a loser and freak. It's an Emperor's New Clothes syndrome
The average man can't just go out and "get" a girl he likes anytime for a romantic date, sex, or even simple companionship. Instead, he has to wait years for a girl to "magically" fall in love with him and give him what he wants from the opposite sex. One has to depend on the unpredictable forces of destiny, in other words. Until then, he has to work, be positive, seek extracurricular activities and pretend that he's happy without sex, in order to "fit in" and not look like a "creep". And even if he finds a partner, if it doesn't work out for some reason, he has to repeat the process all over and wait years again.
This is the "normal" process for an average guy in America, and if he complains about it, then he's seen as a "negative whiney loser", so he must pretend like everything is fine and that there's nothing wrong. So, what many guys do is when they finally do get a girl after years of loneliness and sexlessness, they desperately hold onto her for life, knowing that she's the only thing keeping them from returning to the dreaded singles scene for men in America. Thus they become pussywhipped, doing everything she says and making her the boss. That's the norm in America.
The reality is, it's gotten so bad that at this point, that any decent looking female is virtually UNATTAINABLE. Single men outnumber single women in most places, and women are as either as picky as hell, or they don't need men and don't like them in general. Attractive women in the US are generally snobby and unapproachable, and carry a thick psychological force field around them (not sweet, modest and feminine like in the old days), so that if you try to meet them, you are considered a creep. In other words, hot women are only for looking, not touching. And having fun, wild sex with them, and romance is something you only see in the frickin movies, not experience in real life. And that just SUCKS big time!
All the average guy can do is go out and try to "make things happen" against the current and all odds, or do nothing except distract himself with entertainment and hanging out with his guy friends.
But of course, in our country of "free speech" and "freedom" you aren't allowed to complain about any of this because 1) you'll be considered a loser and blamed if you do due to the victim-blaming culture, 2) there's an unspoken Gospel law in America that in any public discussion of men vs. women issues, the women MUST ALWAYS come out on top, and 3) it's politically incorrect and taboo in the US to complain about women, as the media only gives attention to the complaints of women not men. Instead, you are only allowed to 1) pretend that everything is great, or 2) blame/improve yourself, neither of which really changes anything. Thus, truth is a taboo in the "land of the free", while political correctness, fakeness and hypocrisy are the norm. Go figure.
That's the horrific situation in the US dating scene, and it's time that someone exposed it and offered real solutions, rather than pseudo-solutions which don't work that many dating gurus in the US are selling to milk the pockets of frustrated men.
In America, you can't just "go out and get a girlfriend" like the movies show. In real life, people in the US (especially women) don't talk to strangers unless it's business-related, so most people's social interactions are stricty limited to within their "clique" of friends and its connections. It's inappropriate to meet women otherwise. You can't just chat them up in public or else you will be seen as a "creep". So, unless your clique has connections to many attractive single women who also find you to be "dating material", you're out of luck. On the average, single guys in America have to wait several years (or more) before the chance to get a new girlfriend or to get laid comes along, and when it does, he's considered "lucky". Again, that just plain SUCKS big time.
So, what do frustrated single men in America usually do? Well, conventional suggestions given to them range from working on and improving oneself, to joining special clubs and activities, to improving their social skills, to the dreaded "you'll find someone someday, don't worry" and even to learning from dating gurus and seduction/pick up artists (learn why PUA doesn't work here). But these don't usually work for most dateless guys, or rarely if they do. They may help you to meet people, start polite conversations or develop superficial aquaintances. But they are not going to get you actual dates with quality attractive women. Get real! No matter how many American women that you meet, if you don't fit their highly picky standards, they are still going to blow you off if you ask them out.
You see, such cliched suggestions do not address the heart of the problem - the gross inequities, conditions and obstacles in the US dating market, which are too numerous to even count. There are so many screwed up conditions some of which don't even make any sense - inconsistencies in female behavior, stupid games, contradictions in what women want, unrealistic female delusions and entitlements, super pickiness, self-centered attitudes, mental and psychological problems, insanity, cultural problems, shallowness and superficial attitudes, degradation of traditional gender roles, feminist hatred of males, hatred of being feminine, jadedness, the isolation lifestyle, paranoia, anti-sociality, desire to be alone, racism, etc. etc. and the list goes on and on. Now do you really think that simply being more proactive in your community and life or learning BS artificial "social skills" is going to remedy all that?! Not on your life! (especially if you don't have status, looks, wealth, fame, height, race, etc. going for you)
In addition, where in modern America are you going to find a woman who is warm, tender, caring, feminine and loving with good character and values, as well as a beautiful appearance? Such wholesome women existed in the distant past, but today, the media and Hollywood have conditioned women to be jaded, self-centered, tough and uncaring.
So you see, there are just sooooooooooo many things going against the single male in America that it's frickin unbelievable! It's a total mess and nightmare.
So is there a REAL solution to all this dead end madness for single men in America? The answer is a resounding YES! And the good news is that it's actually quite simple, with no rocket science, formulas or complex techniques to master, yet in another way it's not so simple (I'll explain why later).
Here it is. Learn the power of GLOBAL SCALE DATING which will increase the power of your choices exponentially by tapping international markets that are in your favor! This is the Best Solution for many men in America who are at a dead end. The concept of Global Dating (aka International Dating) is simple:
- First, you expand your market globally to the 200+ countries in the world, rather than limiting yourself locally. This gives you an EXPONENTIAL increase in dating choices and much wider range of opportunities!
- Then, you simply go where you're wanted, where cultural, economic and demographic supply/demand factors favor YOU, and where your personality fits the best. That WILL get you what you want in your dating, relationships, friendships, quality of life and self-esteem.
That's it! Over 99 percent of men who have tried that report that it's the BEST thing they ever did! This works for ANY decent guy, yet is unknown to most because it is goes against the grain of convention and is outside the box. So that's what I'm here for, to help by revealing overseas cultures and environments conducive to natural healthy Social Connectedness, Dating and Mental Health.
When you start conducting the dating field GLOBALLY rather than limiting yourself locally, you widen your range to a whole world of 200+ countries and thus MULTIPLY your choices exponentially! Then you take the appropriate ACTION to get what you want and need (which we will provide guidance on). By doing a little research, you find a market out in the international scene where the factors and conditions are in your favor, both on your end and theirs, so that you are in the right position to get the kind of women YOU want! (some examples later)
Now let me ask you a big question: Would you rather have ONE choice every few YEARS, or MANY choices EVERYDAY? If your answer is the latter, then Global Dating is for you. I am about to show you how you can have the latter in the dating field, for REAL!
Now look at me. I am a 5ft 7 average looking (by US standards) Asian American male without status or wealth in America, yet I thrive on beautiful women, love, fun, and adventure, so it's important to me to be able to date attractive women any time I want. So I was basically screwed. I went through many years of frustrations and literally thousands of rejections. I forced to live a sterile monk-like existence with no solution in sight. It was a no-win situation all around. (See my story here and the ten reasons I had to date abroad here) I tried everything you could imagine to no avail. So how did I finally solve it? Well it's simple. I finally looked outside the box and pursued an option that most do not consider because it's taboo and outside their paradigm - I Went Abroad! Doing so got me more success in the dating world and a better social life than I could ever dream of! And that's what I'm here to share with you.
Ever since I've discovered that the dating scene is a million times better overseas, I've been writing essays and sharing stories and examples online about it, to let others like me know that they can have better and more CHOICES abroad in the dating field. After a few years, it culminated into this website Happier Abroad.
Here is a great video presentation on Global Dating 101 - Dateanomics which lays out these concepts in an easy to understand format. Also see our PowerPoint Presentation.